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June 30, 2011

I FINALLY KNOW WHAT A BOI IS...

1. in the lesbian community, a young transgendered/androgynous/masculine person who is biologically female and presents themselves in a young, boyish way; a boidyke; often also identifies as genderqueer.

2. in the gay community, a young gay man;

3. in the BDSM community, someone who presents themselves in a young, boyish way and is usually a bottom/submissive;


This spelling of the word originated in a gay magazine called, "XY" in the early to mid 1990's. XY is targeted at gay male teenagers. This spelling describes a youthful, hip, and attractive male. While completely embraced in the gay community to mean any young, sexually attractive male, this spelling also appears in heterosexual contexts to mean similarly, a young, handsome guy.

WORDS OF WISDOM....

People seldom change who they are, they just get older. Unless a person has had a breakthrough or an epiphany, don't expect major changes to happen just because a person has aged.

Examples-grown ass people still dressing like they are teenagers or doing things that are not age appropriate.

Live YOUR life but consider the examples you are setting for those around you.

June 29, 2011

June 23, 2011

INTRODUCING HOT NEW MUSIC.....BOOTHANG....

HOW TO CHOOSE THE BEST COLOGNE SCENT FOR YOU....

A distinct scent for a man is a necessity these days. It’s a scent-based signature that’s lingers on everything you wear, and stays in the minds of everyone you meet. It sounds like a cliché, but it’s true. You’d be surprised at the kinds of compliments you can get once you stop smelling like beer and spray-deodorant and move on to something with a little more depth.

We've put together a list of things to be on the lookout for with respect to colognes and perfumes. From the construction of fragrances, to picking and wearing cologne for yourself, this guide will have you smelling less like mom’s basement and more like a grown man.

Fragrance Construction

First, colognes and other fragrances are constructed of top notes, middle notes, and base notes. These scents interact and work together to create the complete scent that you encounter. Most perfume houses guard their recipes and the composition of their fragrances carefully, but nearly all are made up of carefully layered scents.
Top Notes
The top notes are the first impression that the scent will give you, usually bold scents with a touch of the ethanol that the fragrance is mixed with. Adjectives like ‘crisp’, ‘fresh’ and ‘citrusy’ are common, and powerful extracts are usually used here. The top notes will not last very long, and give way to the middle notes.
Middle Notes
Soft floral notes are common here, so as to lessen the harsh impact of the ethanol. Middle notes usually last less than half an hour.
Base Notes
Base notes are the lasting scent that a fragrance leaves on you; the least harsh of all the notes, base notes are long lasting, subtle scents. The base notes first emerge about 30 minutes to an hour after you apply, and linger until you shower or change.
These notes together create the layered, complex story that colognes tell. Does the cologne start with a blast of fresh citrus, and then give way to a smoky woodsy note? Or does it start with a jolt of lavender that transforms into vanilla? Though these complex notes are probably only going to be picked up by trained perfumers, a basic understanding of these notes can give help you distinguish a mediocre cologne from an extraordinary one.

Picking A Scent

When picking a scent, one of the first things to consider is personal style and image. Try a few different scents and figure out what impression each one gives, and if it’s true to your own style. It’s also wise to go out and smell various colognes, write down your first impressions and top three, and then return on another occasion. Your sense of smell is easily overwhelmed at the perfume counter, and a break is essential to discerning what scents have a lasting impression on you over time.

Stores keep tester cards for you to blast with cologne so you can get a sample without leaving the store smelling like you fell into a vat of the stuff. Similarly, many places keep coffee beans around, as coffee acts as a palette refresher – a sort of reset button for your nose.
Once you’ve found a few you like, test them on your own skin. This is an important step, as colognes interact with your sweat, your body heat, and your individual body chemistry. There’s no telling how any single cologne might smell while you’re wearing it.

Wearing Your New Scent

One of the most common problems with men and cologne is an utter cluelessness when it comes to how to apply it. Stick to the following tips and you’ll be fine:
The wrist and neck are ‘pulse points’ where your body generates the most heat, and the cologne will emanate outward from your body.
Cologne worn on the chest is kept away from the air, and will linger throughout the day and night.
Don’t hit yourself again if you can’t smell it. That’s the idea. It’s only supposed to be noticeable once you get up close and personal. Your sense of smell is weakest after waking up, so be careful with overzealous application.
Give yourself a quick refresher in the late afternoon if your cologne is fading and you think it’s going to be a long night. One spray ought to do it.
Don’t wear a powerfully scented deodorant with your cologne. Conflicting scents or unexpected interactions can smell unpleasant.
In the summertime, the combination of heat and sweat greatly amplifies the smell of your cologne; apply sparingly on those hot days.
Advanced Colognes & Fragrances
As you get more confident, you’re going to want to keep more than one fragrance. One for the office, one for nights out, one for special occasions.
Particularly sensitive noses will be able to pick out individual scents and be able to layer fragrances on top of their existing colognes. Scents like vanilla and cinnamon layer well.
Things To Watch Out For
Overwhelming base notes: Overpowering scents are undesirable. A too-strong base note is going to stick with you the rest of the day and annoy you (and your date) until you shower.
Powerful deodorants: There’s no telling how your new cologne might interact with your existing antiperspirant or deodorant. If that new bottle of cologne mixes badly with your Old Spice, consider switching to an unscented deodorant.
Patchouli: Common in colognes with a woody scent, patchouli base notes can transform and smell similar to camphor. If you’re testing something with this note, give it a few hours and see how it smells then.

June 21, 2011

FOCUS ON THE COMPANY AND NOT THE JOB YOU ARE SEEKING...

Wouldn't it be nice to have a little more control over your job search? It's frustrating applying over and over again for jobs and never hearing back.

When you apply online, the odds are against you unless your qualifications exactly match what the employer wants. (In other words, unless you are applying for the job you already have.) It's not impossible to land an opportunity via an online application; many people do find jobs that way, but it doesn't change the fact that you're not likely to get hired from a resume drop.

What should you do instead? Stop looking for a job. Start looking for a company.

You may be surprised, but it may be the best career move you never considered. Instead of spending all of your time searching for appropriate job descriptions and targeting your resume to apply for them, you should consider shifting some of your efforts to identifying organizations whose goals are in line with your interests and whose problems you know you can solve.

[See Don't Look for a Job, Make the Job Come to You.]

Hannah Morgan of CareerSherpa.net suggests several steps to take rather than pursuing job postings:

-- Create a list of potential employers who need your kind of problem-solving abilities.

-- Be armed with research on these potential employers to understand their issues and how you can make a difference.

-- Prepare examples of your work in both story and written form.

-- Be able to present yourself as a solution. Know what makes you special and stick to it. Don't waiver.

How should you make lists of employers? Start with companies you know about and where you might want to work. Don't worry if they don't have openings, this research focuses on places you'd like to work-not companies advertising for jobs.

It's a good idea to steer your research to include companies where you already have networking connections. Where do your friends work?

-- Use BranchOut (a Facebook application) to help identify where your friends (and their friends) work or have connections.

[See New Site Helps You Use Facebook for Your Job Search.]

-- Use LinkedIn to research organizations. Use the top toolbar, select "company." Then narrow your search by location, industry, and other factors (such as size, and even by companies where you have first-degree relationships).

Some great resources to research companies and keep up-to-date in your field:

-- Smart Brief has more than 100 industry newsletters that keep you in the know. Their tagline, "We read everything. You get what matters," is the perfect answer for any busy professional.

-- Jim Stroud publishes the Hidden Jobs Report. He highlights industry trends, movement, and possible new opportunities in a variety of fields. Subscribe to his newsletter for information you probably wouldn't find elsewhere.

Once you identify organizations of interest, start learning all you can about them. Luckily, this is much easier today than it ever was in the past. Examine the company's complete digital footprint. Many firms post videos, and manage Facebook pages and Twitter feeds touting their organizations and why you might want to work there.

Study each company's website and blog if they have one, and search for their employees on Twitter. Use FollowerWonk to search Twitter bios for company names. (A lot of people list where they work in their Twitter bios.) Look in LinkedIn for groups related to any company that interests you to identify people who work there and for industry specific groups where you'll meet people who work in organizations of interest.

Learn what you can about the organizations and their issues by keeping up-to-date with their online materials and by connecting with their employees. Move online relationships to in-person or telephone conversations to learn all you can. Share information about you with people who work in the organizations you're targeting. Informational meetings are key for career success.

[See Proactive Job-Search Strategy: Pitch Your Dream Company.]

Target your materials and prepare samples of your work to address those needs. First, be sure your resume focuses on the organization's needs. It shouldn't be a rehashing of "stuff" you've done in the past; make it about your future. Your LinkedIn profile should be completely filled out to indicate your expertise, especially the summary and specialties sections.

Create a social resume, or personal website to showcase your expertise and to tell your career story. You can use different pages on the site to highlight your experience in various areas and to focus the reader on the reasons you are well suited for the organization. When people you meet online Google you to learn more, or click through your profiles to find out about you, a well-written, in-depth social resume helps ensure they see exactly what you want them to learn about you.

Presenting yourself as the solution is easier once all the other pieces are in place. Try these approaches for a few weeks as part of your job hunt to see if it makes a difference for you!

June 15, 2011

WORDS OF WISDOM....

When all the love is gone, still have regards and the best intentions!

June 14, 2011

THE "GOOD BISHOP LONG" IN NEED OF MONEY AFTER HUGE PAYOFFS....

Last Sunday a woman walked up to embattled preacher Bishop Eddie Long during his sermon and handed him a stack of a thousand one dollar bills. Long seemed surprised as he hugged “baby girl” and said: “I see EVERYBODY moving like that!”

But according to Rhymeswithsnitch’s Daily Long Report, the Bishop’s own congregation seem to think the woman’s generous gesture was a hoax.

Her approach seemed timed to coincide with him saying, “What I NEED…”

They say the unlikely act of generosity was staged to nudge other members into opening their wallets and donating $1,000 or more for a proposed expansion of the church to other cities.

New Birth Missionary Baptist Church has seen a staggering decline in attendance since the news of his multimillion dollar settlement with former church members who claim they were coerced into providing Long with sexual favors.

In a screenshot taken from the video, the church pews near the back appear empty — as do the church’s upper tiers. Last Sunday, attendance at the church was at less than ½ capacity.

At this rate, New Birth will be forced to shut its doors in 6 months if attendance doesn’t pick back up. Long needs a huge infusion of cash to replace the millions that he paid out to his accusers.

June 9, 2011

GOOD BLACK.....AT YOUR BEST....


INTRODUCING.....QUEEN SOULJABOY.....WAY TOO MUCH....



Still unwilling to take the hint his last album’s sales figures tried to send him, Soulja Boy has released a new video for the song, “Conceited.”

Sounding like a Kappa with Down syndrome, Diamond’s new sponsor boasts, “I look so good, I look so pretty. I’m conceited.” If that hook wasn’t cliché-ridden enough for you, Soulja Boy proceeds to snatch T-Pain’s now discarded vocoder to rinse and repeat his narcissistic lines.

As for that fuck bloggers line and threats of getting robbed, Sheree Whitfield trying to school somebody on the repo man sounds more believable.

Perhaps DeAndre is feeling himself ‘cause he knows Remy Ma’s last parole hearing was unsuccessful so she can’t pistol whip him for jocking her swag.

June 8, 2011

A FEW THINGS I AGREE YOU OR I SHOULD (PROBABLY) NEVER DO AFTER THE AGE 30....

1. Use the word party as a verb.

2. Shots. (I LIKE SHOTS! WE CAN KEEP DOING THIS ONE)

3. Body shots. (DEPENDS ON WHOSE BODY AND WHERE YOU ARE DOING THEM, I.E. HOME VS. BAR)

5. Read a book with the words Zen and the Art of in the title.

7. Help friends move. (I STOPPED DOING THIS AT 25)

8. Ask friends to help you move.

9. Crash on a friend's floor or couch. (STOPPED DOING THIS AT 21)

10. Refer to breasts as "chesticles." (IGNORANT)

11. Experiment with facial hair.

12. Let your underpants show above your jeans or below your shorts. (GREAT ONE)

15. Own a skull bong. (DEPENDS ON WHAT YOU SMOKE)

16. Know the names of the current Real World cast. (THIS IS A FUNNY, GOOD ONE)

17. Remove your shirt in public--unless there is sand and a large body of water nearby. (OR UNLESS YOU JUST HAVE IT LIKE THAT)

18. Use the word dude, except when referring to a ranch or a well-dressed Englishman. (I LIKE AND USE THE WORD DUDE)

19. Use the word dawg in a sentence when referring to a friend or, worse, yourself.

20. Own a futon. (STOPPED OWNING ONE AFTER 21)

21. Own a beanbag chair. (WTF!!)

22. Hang art framelessly. (WORKING ON THIS ONE)

24. Drink malternative beverages. (DO ZUMAS COUNT)

26. Google ex-girlfriends.

27. Break up with a girlfriend OR boyfriend by e-mail. (REAL IGNORANT)

31. Live with someone you don't sleep with. (TOO OLD FOR ROOMMATES...STOPPED THIS AFTER 25)

32. Share a hotel room with someone you don't sleep with. (DEPENDS ON HOW EXPENSIVE THE CITY AND HOW CLOSE YOU ARE WITH THE PERSON)

33. Play fantasy sports.

34. Divide a restaurant bill with a friend in any way other than 50-50.(I PAY FOR WHAT I ORDERED)

35. Sleep past 10:30. (WHAT ABOUT AFTER A REALLY, REALLY LONG NIGHT OR A SPECIAL HOLIDAY?)

36. Refer to a woman's genitalia as her "nappy dugout." (STUPID)

37. Cook exclusively on a George Foreman grill. (HEY EVERYBODY STRIVES TO BE A CHEF)

38. Wear a jersey with the name of a professional athlete on the back.

39. Employ any other pickup line besides "Hi, my name is _____. What's yours?"

41. Use Internet acronyms, especially ROFL and LOL. (RETARDED)

42. Shave any part of your body except your face. (STRONGLY DISAGREE)

43. Enjoy Jerry Bruckheimer movies.

45. Attend Mardi Gras, Carnaval, or Burning Man. (30 IS WHEN YOU CAN ACTUALLY REALLY AFFORD AND APPRECIATE CARNIVAL, TRUST ME)

46. Own a fish tank.

47. Fall asleep in public. (ESPECIALLY AT CHURCH-IM PERSONALLY WORKING ON THAT ONE)

48. Call drugs by their street names (e.g., junk, smack, or whitebag).

49. Pick a fistfight by thrusting out your neck, flexing, and screaming, "It's go time!" (THIS MADE ME LAUGH....HARD!)

THROWBACK....IF YOU PLAY YOUR CARDS RIGHT....



CHECK THE LYRICS....LISTEN CLOSELY....SO SIMPLE YET SO COMPLEX....

THANK YOU...

I want to personally Thank everybody who checks into my blog to see whats going on in my head. In the next few months, I am going to take it on a more personal level and start expressing how I feel about general things in life and whats going on besides sexy pics and the randoms things that are going on in the world at large...If you have anything you want discussed or posted, feel free to let me know.

Thanks again for being a part of my every day thoughts....

IT'S YOUR LIFE....

“Don't rely on someone else for your happiness and self worth. Only you can be responsible for that. If you can't love and respect yourself - no one else will be able to make that happen. Accept who you are - completely; the good and the bad - and make changes as YOU see fit - not because you think someone else wants you to be different.”

June 7, 2011

TUESDAY WORDS OF WISDOM....

Never be too afraid or embarrassed to say to somebody, this/that doesn't work for me.

IN CASE YOU CARE....NOAH'S ARC IS OFFICIALLY OVER....BUT HAS BEEN OVER FOR YEARS.....


"Noah's Arc is over, y'all. There is no third season. (I've been getting lots of questions about that lately, so I figured I would address it one more time.) Go on about your business."

Noah's Arc lead actor Darryl Stephens has decided to make this point crystal clear on his Facebook page, leading to an outpouring of dismay from fans - including this one - who have clung on to the hope of a third season.

The sad truth is that a third season was, until recently, very much a reality.

In cancelling Noah's Arc after season two, Logo disappointed a large audience hungry for some variation in GBLT representation on the small screen. Noah's Arc was groundbreaking: A gay drama series about black and mixed race (and one Latino) men.

Despite the cancellation - which, by all accounts, was a financially motivated decision (so-called reality TV is cheaper to produce than scripted drama) - Logo commissioned a very successful one-off movie. Jumping The Broom resolved season two's cliffhanger, tied up a few loose ends, and introduced a new character.

The success of Jumping The Broom led to Logo exploring the options for a third season, which would have seen some major changes to the mix. But the failure to get Season Three off the ground - despite the principle actors signing up - is down to one person.

Not the network.

Not the actors.

The individual in question has let down the fans, and the black gay community in particular. His name is mud within the industry, yet with the fans he retains his halo - and that's a shame, because they deserve the truth.

Hopefully, one day, that truth will come out.

June 3, 2011

SOMETHING DIFFERENT....INTRODUCING GUCCI, GUCCI.....

SO THIS IS WHAT YOUNG DUDE SAYS TO ME....

I'm a bad mothafucka
Gon' ask some mothafuckas
A young handsome mothafucka
I sling that wood
I just don't chuck 'em

June 2, 2011

JUST A THOUGHT....

THERE IS SUCH A THING AS TALKING TOO DAMN MUCH....

SHUT YOUR Fing MOUTH SOMETIMES! You were given two ears and one mouth for a reason!