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PEACE TO THE FAMILY.....10 YR. OLD BOY I STHE ONLY SURVIVOR AND HAS TO DEAL WITH THIS FOR LIFE........TRULY SAD....
NEWBURGH, N.Y. -- Angela Gilliam called the police at 7:43 p.m. Tuesday. She was worried about her niece's well-being and said there was a domestic tussle going on at the younger woman's apartment in this hardscrabble city on New York's Hudson River.
Police headed to the apartment but by the time they got there, it was empty.
Seventeen minutes later, Gilliam's grand-nephew La'Shaun Armstrong stood shivering and soaking wet in a firehouse down the street, struggling to get the words out: His mother, 25-year-old Lashanda Armstrong, had driven their minivan off a boat ramp and into the river, taking her three other children with her.
All of them died.
Only 10-year-old La'Shaun survived, managing to open the driver's window and escape the van just before it slipped beneath the surface.
As the van hit the river, Lashanda Armstrong told her terrified kids, "If I'm going to die, you're going to die with me," NBC reported.
Police were still working Wednesday night to piece together the events that led to Tuesday's tragic plunge that killed Armstrong and three children: Landen Pierre, 5, Lance Pierre, 2, and 11-month-old Laianna Pierre.
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Earlier Tuesday, Armstrong appeared stressed when she picked up the children at the Young and Unique Christian Development Child Care, said Shaniesha Strange, supervisor in the infant room.
"The only thing she'd say was that she was so alone," Strange said Wednesday. "She's a single parent. She takes great care of her kids, goes to school and works. She really needed a helping hand."
Police question the man they identified as the father of the three dead children, Jean Pierre, but did not give details. He apparently didn't live with the mother and children and could not immediately be located for comment.
Hetty Minatee, another teacher at the day care center, said Armstrong had enrolled the four children there in September. At first Jean Pierre would come in with Armstrong and sometimes would pick up the kids.
"A couple weeks ago, she came in a little upset," Minatee said. "She said, 'Miss Minatee, I don't want the father to pick the kids up or have any contact with them.' She said she was trying to get a court order so he could never see the kids again."
Meave Ryan, the woman who found young La’Shaun standing by the water, shivering, said that the boy told her, "There was an argument about cheating, that his stepfather was cheating on his mother," she said.
Ryan was driving by the water when she saw La’Shaun standing there, soaking wet and waving his arms at passing cars. From the New York Times:
Meave Ryan saw the boy waving his arms as she braked to a stop behind a string of cars. The other cars went on through the intersection, but she rolled down the window. “He was screaming for help,” she said. “He said, ‘My mommy just drove the car in the water.’
From Armstrong's apartment, Lashanda would have taken a right turn onto Washington Street, site of George Washington's headquarters during the American Revolution, and driven straight toward the river, downhill all the way. She'd be familiar with the boat launch, neighbors said. She watched fireworks over the river from the corner near her house. A half-mile drive would have gotten her there. A hard left then a quick right turn would take the van into the water.
Fire Chief Michael Vatter said the vehicle went under in the 45-degree water within two minutes.
A passer-by found a soaked and cold La'Shaun Armstrong along the shore and took him to a firehouse for help.
"He got out of the car, got up onto the boat ramp, turned around and it was gone," Vatter said.
Divers searched for about an hour before finding the minivan submerged in 10 feet of water about 25 yards from the shore. They used a tow truck to pull it up the ramp.
La'Shaun is staying with Gilliam and "doing fine," she said.
"She was a good mother. She was going through some stuff," Gilliam said of her niece. "Nobody knows what my niece went through." She would not elaborate.
Police said there was no history of domestic violence at the address.
Neighbors in the city of about 30,000 said the children seemed energetic and happy and would play on the block and ride bikes.
"She was a very good mom," said Tina Claybourne. "She took care of her kids. She always was with her kids."
Just last month, she donated money to help the family of a baby killed in a fire across the street from Armstrong's apartment. The loss of four children in such a short time hit the community hard.
Police headed to the apartment but by the time they got there, it was empty.
Seventeen minutes later, Gilliam's grand-nephew La'Shaun Armstrong stood shivering and soaking wet in a firehouse down the street, struggling to get the words out: His mother, 25-year-old Lashanda Armstrong, had driven their minivan off a boat ramp and into the river, taking her three other children with her.
All of them died.
Only 10-year-old La'Shaun survived, managing to open the driver's window and escape the van just before it slipped beneath the surface.
As the van hit the river, Lashanda Armstrong told her terrified kids, "If I'm going to die, you're going to die with me," NBC reported.
Police were still working Wednesday night to piece together the events that led to Tuesday's tragic plunge that killed Armstrong and three children: Landen Pierre, 5, Lance Pierre, 2, and 11-month-old Laianna Pierre.
Story continues below
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Earlier Tuesday, Armstrong appeared stressed when she picked up the children at the Young and Unique Christian Development Child Care, said Shaniesha Strange, supervisor in the infant room.
"The only thing she'd say was that she was so alone," Strange said Wednesday. "She's a single parent. She takes great care of her kids, goes to school and works. She really needed a helping hand."
Police question the man they identified as the father of the three dead children, Jean Pierre, but did not give details. He apparently didn't live with the mother and children and could not immediately be located for comment.
Hetty Minatee, another teacher at the day care center, said Armstrong had enrolled the four children there in September. At first Jean Pierre would come in with Armstrong and sometimes would pick up the kids.
"A couple weeks ago, she came in a little upset," Minatee said. "She said, 'Miss Minatee, I don't want the father to pick the kids up or have any contact with them.' She said she was trying to get a court order so he could never see the kids again."
Meave Ryan, the woman who found young La’Shaun standing by the water, shivering, said that the boy told her, "There was an argument about cheating, that his stepfather was cheating on his mother," she said.
Ryan was driving by the water when she saw La’Shaun standing there, soaking wet and waving his arms at passing cars. From the New York Times:
Meave Ryan saw the boy waving his arms as she braked to a stop behind a string of cars. The other cars went on through the intersection, but she rolled down the window. “He was screaming for help,” she said. “He said, ‘My mommy just drove the car in the water.’
From Armstrong's apartment, Lashanda would have taken a right turn onto Washington Street, site of George Washington's headquarters during the American Revolution, and driven straight toward the river, downhill all the way. She'd be familiar with the boat launch, neighbors said. She watched fireworks over the river from the corner near her house. A half-mile drive would have gotten her there. A hard left then a quick right turn would take the van into the water.
Fire Chief Michael Vatter said the vehicle went under in the 45-degree water within two minutes.
A passer-by found a soaked and cold La'Shaun Armstrong along the shore and took him to a firehouse for help.
"He got out of the car, got up onto the boat ramp, turned around and it was gone," Vatter said.
Divers searched for about an hour before finding the minivan submerged in 10 feet of water about 25 yards from the shore. They used a tow truck to pull it up the ramp.
La'Shaun is staying with Gilliam and "doing fine," she said.
"She was a good mother. She was going through some stuff," Gilliam said of her niece. "Nobody knows what my niece went through." She would not elaborate.
Police said there was no history of domestic violence at the address.
Neighbors in the city of about 30,000 said the children seemed energetic and happy and would play on the block and ride bikes.
"She was a very good mom," said Tina Claybourne. "She took care of her kids. She always was with her kids."
Just last month, she donated money to help the family of a baby killed in a fire across the street from Armstrong's apartment. The loss of four children in such a short time hit the community hard.
GOOD LOOK FOR BET....BET Announces New Series Starring Tracee Ellis Ross and Malcolm Jamal Warner....
The BET networks has announced plans to air a new family comedy series starring former Girlfriends star Tracee Ellis Ross and Malcolm Jamal Warner, of The Cosby Show fame.
The show titled Reed Between The Lines will feature the two actors playing professional parents (she's a psychologist, he's an English professor) of three children.
The premier season airs in October.
In related news, both The Game and BET's Let's Stay Together have been renewed for 22 episode seasons.
New episodes will premier in January. On the strength of these two shows, BET had its most watched quarter ever.
April 13, 2011
BLACK IN LATIN AMERICA.....LEARN SOMETHING!
'Black in Latin America': The Other African Americans
Less than 5 percent of the 11.5 million Africans wrenched into slavery ended up in the United States. That is one reason Editor-in-Chief Henry Louis Gates Jr. decided to explore the lives and cultures of blacks from Brazil to Haiti, from Peru to Mexico, in his new PBS television series.
The series will air over four weeks on Tuesdays, April 19 and 26 and May 3 and 10, 2011, at 8 p.m. (ET) on PBS stations. Check your local listings for time and channel. Here are PBS's descriptions of the series.
Episode 1: Haiti & the Dominican Republic: An Island Divided
In Haiti, The Root Editor-in-Chief Henry Louis Gates Jr. tells the story of the birth of the first-ever black republic, and finds out how the slaves' hard-fought liberation over Napoleon Bonaparte's French Empire became a double-edged sword. In the Dominican Republic, Gates explores how race has been socially constructed in a society whose people reflect centuries of intermarriage, and how the country's troubled history with Haiti informs notions about racial classification.
Episode 2: Cuba: The Next Revolution
In Cuba, Gates finds out how the culture, religion, politics and music of this island are inextricably linked to the huge amount of slave labor imported to produce its enormously profitable 19th-century sugar industry, and how race and racism have fared since Fidel Castro's communist revolution in 1959.
Episode 3: Brazil: A Racial Paradise?
In Brazil, Gates delves behind the facade of Carnival to discover how this "rainbow nation" is waking up to its legacy as the world's largest slave economy.
Episode 4: Mexico & Peru: The Black Grandma in the Closet
In Mexico and Peru, Gates explores the almost unknown history of the significant numbers of black people -- the two countries together received far more slaves than did the United States -- brought to these countries as early as the 16th and 17th centuries, and the worlds of culture that their descendants have created in Vera Cruz on the Gulf of Mexico, the Costa Chica region on the Pacific, and in and around Lima, Peru.
Less than 5 percent of the 11.5 million Africans wrenched into slavery ended up in the United States. That is one reason Editor-in-Chief Henry Louis Gates Jr. decided to explore the lives and cultures of blacks from Brazil to Haiti, from Peru to Mexico, in his new PBS television series.
The series will air over four weeks on Tuesdays, April 19 and 26 and May 3 and 10, 2011, at 8 p.m. (ET) on PBS stations. Check your local listings for time and channel. Here are PBS's descriptions of the series.
Episode 1: Haiti & the Dominican Republic: An Island Divided
In Haiti, The Root Editor-in-Chief Henry Louis Gates Jr. tells the story of the birth of the first-ever black republic, and finds out how the slaves' hard-fought liberation over Napoleon Bonaparte's French Empire became a double-edged sword. In the Dominican Republic, Gates explores how race has been socially constructed in a society whose people reflect centuries of intermarriage, and how the country's troubled history with Haiti informs notions about racial classification.
Episode 2: Cuba: The Next Revolution
In Cuba, Gates finds out how the culture, religion, politics and music of this island are inextricably linked to the huge amount of slave labor imported to produce its enormously profitable 19th-century sugar industry, and how race and racism have fared since Fidel Castro's communist revolution in 1959.
Episode 3: Brazil: A Racial Paradise?
In Brazil, Gates delves behind the facade of Carnival to discover how this "rainbow nation" is waking up to its legacy as the world's largest slave economy.
Episode 4: Mexico & Peru: The Black Grandma in the Closet
In Mexico and Peru, Gates explores the almost unknown history of the significant numbers of black people -- the two countries together received far more slaves than did the United States -- brought to these countries as early as the 16th and 17th centuries, and the worlds of culture that their descendants have created in Vera Cruz on the Gulf of Mexico, the Costa Chica region on the Pacific, and in and around Lima, Peru.
IN CASE YOU ARE INTO IT AND NEVER KNOEW WHAT IT WAS CALLED.....
Sadomasochism broadly refers to the receiving of pleasure— often sexual— from acts involving the infliction or receiving of pain or humiliation. The name originates from two authors on the subject, the Marquis de Sade and Leopold von Sacher-Masoch. A subset of BDSM, practitioners of sadomasochism usually seek out sexual gratification from these acts, but often seek out other forms of pleasure as well. While the terms sadist and masochist specifically refer to one who either enjoys giving pain(sadist), or one who enjoys receiving pain(masochist), many practitioners of sadomasochism describe themselves as at least somewhat of a switch, or someone who can receive pleasure from either inflicting or receiving pain.
The acronym S&M is often used for sadomasochism, although practitioners themselves normally drop the & and use the acronym SM or S/M. Sadomasochism should be differentiated from the clinical paraphilias which require that such practices lead to clinically significant distress or impairment for a diagnosis. Similarly, sexual sadism within the context of mutual consent should not be mistaken for acts of sexual violence or aggression.
The acronym S&M is often used for sadomasochism, although practitioners themselves normally drop the & and use the acronym SM or S/M. Sadomasochism should be differentiated from the clinical paraphilias which require that such practices lead to clinically significant distress or impairment for a diagnosis. Similarly, sexual sadism within the context of mutual consent should not be mistaken for acts of sexual violence or aggression.
EIGHT THINGS HE LOVES IN BED......
1. When you tell him what to do
Don’t be shy, it’s okay to moan “put your tongue there baby.” Men love when women give them verbal instructions in bed. Why? Because men aren’t mind readers and they know that a little direction goes a long way. So if your man is having a little trouble figuring things out, don’t stay silent while he fumbles around you female parts. Tell him exactly where and how you want it. Hey, at the end of the day it helps everyone out.
2. When you let him watch you masturbate
Men are visual creatures. This means they get aroused by “seeing” you. That’s why men LOVE to watch women masturbate. But sometimes we ladies can be a bit shy about sharing “me time” with our man. Don’t be shy. Your man loves your body and he loves to watch. So be sure to treat him to a little masterpiece theater. Remember, he can look but he can’t touch. And while you pleasure yourself, this is also a great time for you to combine those verbal instructions with a little visual aid. And who doesn’t learn better with visual aids? ;) (my personal favorite)
3. When you take control
Most of the time men initiate sex. And we decide whether they’re going to get it. But just imagine how boring would it be to always chase down a man for sex, and then watch him lay there while we pleasured him? Don’t be that woman. Men find it thrilling when they don’t have to be the one to always initiate sex. And it’s always pleasing and exciting when a woman switches it up a bit by taking control from on top or down below!
4. When you talk dirty
It’s good to be a lil’ bad! So get a little naughty with the wordplay in bed. The ability to look your man straight in the eye and say, “I want to you to %$& me in the #%$ so ^*$# hard!” displays confidence. And like I wrote before, men love confidence. Plus, it has been shown that lovers who talk dirty together have better sex and stronger orgasms. So let loose, show him that bad girl side of you, and talk dirty to your man.
5. When you swallow
Ok, this is sometimes a hard pill for women to swallow- no pun intended- but your man loves when you enjoy every “inch” and every “ounce” of him. And for the ladies that totally object, think of it this way: How would if feel if your man was down on you and at your moment of climax, he turned away because he didn’t want any of your delicious juiciness on or in him? Think about it ladies…
6. When you tell him how great he is
Men are ego driven- especially in the bedroom. So while he’s thrusting, sweating, and putting in all that work, make sure you smile and tell him how sexy and great he is. Everyone, men and women, love compliments and appreciation.
7. When you play with his nipples
Women aren’t the only ones who experience pleasure from their nipples. This is an incredibly erogenous zone for both sexes. So when you get down to business tonight, don’t forget to lick, suck, and lightly pinch your man’s nipples. It’s an area on their body that gets neglected- so he will be pleasantly surprised.
8. When you share your fantasies
Everyone fantasizes. And if you and your partner are sexually open, then your man is definitely curious about your fantasies. Maybe it’s blindfolds, handcuffs or wearing a nurse’s uniform, either way, share your fantasies with your man. And ask him about his. Sex is about being fun and intimate. And a major part of intimacy is honesty. Share your fantasies with your man- and give him the opportunity to make them a reality!
Don’t be shy, it’s okay to moan “put your tongue there baby.” Men love when women give them verbal instructions in bed. Why? Because men aren’t mind readers and they know that a little direction goes a long way. So if your man is having a little trouble figuring things out, don’t stay silent while he fumbles around you female parts. Tell him exactly where and how you want it. Hey, at the end of the day it helps everyone out.
2. When you let him watch you masturbate
Men are visual creatures. This means they get aroused by “seeing” you. That’s why men LOVE to watch women masturbate. But sometimes we ladies can be a bit shy about sharing “me time” with our man. Don’t be shy. Your man loves your body and he loves to watch. So be sure to treat him to a little masterpiece theater. Remember, he can look but he can’t touch. And while you pleasure yourself, this is also a great time for you to combine those verbal instructions with a little visual aid. And who doesn’t learn better with visual aids? ;) (my personal favorite)
3. When you take control
Most of the time men initiate sex. And we decide whether they’re going to get it. But just imagine how boring would it be to always chase down a man for sex, and then watch him lay there while we pleasured him? Don’t be that woman. Men find it thrilling when they don’t have to be the one to always initiate sex. And it’s always pleasing and exciting when a woman switches it up a bit by taking control from on top or down below!
4. When you talk dirty
It’s good to be a lil’ bad! So get a little naughty with the wordplay in bed. The ability to look your man straight in the eye and say, “I want to you to %$& me in the #%$ so ^*$# hard!” displays confidence. And like I wrote before, men love confidence. Plus, it has been shown that lovers who talk dirty together have better sex and stronger orgasms. So let loose, show him that bad girl side of you, and talk dirty to your man.
5. When you swallow
Ok, this is sometimes a hard pill for women to swallow- no pun intended- but your man loves when you enjoy every “inch” and every “ounce” of him. And for the ladies that totally object, think of it this way: How would if feel if your man was down on you and at your moment of climax, he turned away because he didn’t want any of your delicious juiciness on or in him? Think about it ladies…
6. When you tell him how great he is
Men are ego driven- especially in the bedroom. So while he’s thrusting, sweating, and putting in all that work, make sure you smile and tell him how sexy and great he is. Everyone, men and women, love compliments and appreciation.
7. When you play with his nipples
Women aren’t the only ones who experience pleasure from their nipples. This is an incredibly erogenous zone for both sexes. So when you get down to business tonight, don’t forget to lick, suck, and lightly pinch your man’s nipples. It’s an area on their body that gets neglected- so he will be pleasantly surprised.
8. When you share your fantasies
Everyone fantasizes. And if you and your partner are sexually open, then your man is definitely curious about your fantasies. Maybe it’s blindfolds, handcuffs or wearing a nurse’s uniform, either way, share your fantasies with your man. And ask him about his. Sex is about being fun and intimate. And a major part of intimacy is honesty. Share your fantasies with your man- and give him the opportunity to make them a reality!
April 12, 2011
GET INTO THE LYRICS....
I guess U've heard of my reputation
I've had my share of foolin' around
But everybody needs stimulation
And mine just happens 2 be all over town
It's an easy-money occupation
First-class psychiatry
But just once, I'd wanna make love without taking off my clothes
Just once, I wanna make love with somebody who really and truly knows
CHORUS:
Contrary 2 rumor
Gigolos get lonely 2
All my lovers need stimulation
But honey babe, I think that I need U
Maybe U're the kind of person
That could turn my world around
Oh, won't U gimme a little inspiration
Maybe that's what I need 2 make me settle down
It's an easy-money occupation
But honey, one thing understand
I've got more money than U could imagine in your wildest dreams
But honey, money don't make no happy man
CHORUS
(Listen)
Just once I wanna make love without takin' off my clothes
Just once I wanna make love with somebody who knows
That I got more money than U could ever see
But honey, money won't get me up off my knees
Gigolos get lonely 2
All my lovers need stimulation ([Ooh stimulate])
But honey babe (honey babe), I think that I need U (I need U)
CHORUS
What cha gonna do, baby?
Oh, what cha, what cha gonna do?
Hey, what cha gonna do, baby?
Oh, what cha, what cha gonna do? (Oh)
Ah, do U think we could have dinner sometime, baby? {fade out}
Well, how about 2 night?
Baby
I've had my share of foolin' around
But everybody needs stimulation
And mine just happens 2 be all over town
It's an easy-money occupation
First-class psychiatry
But just once, I'd wanna make love without taking off my clothes
Just once, I wanna make love with somebody who really and truly knows
CHORUS:
Contrary 2 rumor
Gigolos get lonely 2
All my lovers need stimulation
But honey babe, I think that I need U
Maybe U're the kind of person
That could turn my world around
Oh, won't U gimme a little inspiration
Maybe that's what I need 2 make me settle down
It's an easy-money occupation
But honey, one thing understand
I've got more money than U could imagine in your wildest dreams
But honey, money don't make no happy man
CHORUS
(Listen)
Just once I wanna make love without takin' off my clothes
Just once I wanna make love with somebody who knows
That I got more money than U could ever see
But honey, money won't get me up off my knees
Gigolos get lonely 2
All my lovers need stimulation ([Ooh stimulate])
But honey babe (honey babe), I think that I need U (I need U)
CHORUS
What cha gonna do, baby?
Oh, what cha, what cha gonna do?
Hey, what cha gonna do, baby?
Oh, what cha, what cha gonna do? (Oh)
Ah, do U think we could have dinner sometime, baby? {fade out}
Well, how about 2 night?
Baby
GET INTO THE WORDS....
Cause I may be bad, but I'm perfectly good at it
Sex in the air, I don't care, I love the smell of it
Sticks and stones may break my bones
But chains and whips excite me
Sex in the air, I don't care, I love the smell of it
Sticks and stones may break my bones
But chains and whips excite me
MUST SEE TV TONIGHT....YOU KNOW 5 BLACK SISTERS IS GOING TO BE GOOD DRAMA....
The Braxton Sisters Take Over WE tv with their Special Brand of Sisterly Love Premiering Tuesday, 4/12 at 9pm ET/PT!
Grammy award winning artist Toni Braxton, her four equally-talented sisters and their mom cook up raucous family drama mixed with love, laughter, rivalry, and bankruptcy!
Join Toni – “The Superstar”, Traci – “The Underdog,” Towanda – “Mrs. Congeniality,” Trina – “The Wildcard,” Tamar – “Baby” and their headstrong mother Evelyn – “The Force,” as they yell, cry and harmonize their way across the Braxton family stage. These tight-knit sisters are not afraid to reveal the intricacies of their sisterhood as they battle it out for the spotlight with sibling rivalry, man drama, bankruptcy, a DUI and much more. See if their sisterly bond can withstand the trials and tribulations of life in the fab lane.
Watch the drama unfold as Toni Braxton fights to make it back to the top from bankruptcy, Traci catches a case dealing with her possessive husband, Towanda entertains with her lackadaisical marriage, Trina battles alcohol abuse, and Tamar’s misdirected issues cause drama with what seems like everyone.
Braxton Family Values is sure to unveil the realities of sisterhood and dispel the myth that money solves everything.
April 11, 2011
RUN CARL, RUN...(JUST NOT IN HEELS)
Olympic gold medalist Carl Lewis is planning to run for New Jersey Senate.
A state Democratic Party official says Lewis will announce his candidacy on Monday.
Lewis has called a 2 p.m. news conference in Burlington County to announce his “political plans.”
His advisory, issued Sunday night, contained no specific details.
However, a party official speaking on condition of anonymity so as not to upstage the 49-year-old Lewis, says the civic activist and four-time medalist plans to run in the 8th legislative district.
The seat is now held by Republican Dawn Addiego.
Monday is the filing deadline for anyone who wants to run for the New Jersey Legislature.
All 120 seats of the Senate and Assembly will be on November’s ballot.
Both houses are controlled by Democrats.
Lebron James Gets FACE TIME As New Audemars Piguet Spokesman....HAWT!!!!
LeBron James just added another revenue stream to his ever expanding multi-million dollar brand. The Miami Heat star is now the new global ambassador for Audemars Piguet watches, the world's oldest watch manufacturer still in the hands of its founding families. LeBron is also creating his very own watch with the company to be auctioned off for his charity.
April 6, 2011
THE FOUR THINGS A MAN SHOULD NEVER HAVE TO BUY FOR HIMSELF.....
When I was in high school, I worked at a restaurant part time. One of my co-workers was this really fly hostess who was a few years my elder. I think she was in like community college or something. In any case, every now and then, she would put me on to the ways of women, what they liked, what they didn’t like.
Much of her lessons have been forgotten, admittedly, but there was one lesson she taught me that has stuck with me forever. It goes as follows:
A woman should never have to buy her own flowers, jewelry, or perfume
I believe her father told her this, and I thought it good and fair advice. My mother also once told me a man should buy his woman flowers at least once a month. This is good advice as well. Over the years, I have also noticed another item or purchase a woman should never have to make on her own: A day at the spa. All men should get their special lady a day at the spa, whether it be for a special occasion or not. So those are the four things a woman should never have to buy for herself, which begs the question: What should a man never have to buy for himself? Even if he has the means to do so, I thought, there should be some items men should receive from others instead of treating themselves.
I’ve thought long and hard about this list and I’m finally ready to share it with everyone else. Feel free to add anything both to the list of things a woman should never have to buy for herself (which I’m sure my woman readers are going to do anyway) and the list of things a man should never have to buy for himself.
Here it is, four things a man should never have to purchase for himself. No further explanations necessary.
A Watch: We all keep time on our cellular devices these days, so the watch has seemingly been put on the back burner, but it’s also resurrected the importance of a nice time piece. These days, no man is wearing a watch for its functionality, we’re wearing one because they’re fashionable and demonstrate our appreciation for the old school.
Tickets To A Game: I’ve mentioned this gift before, because I just think it’s so obvious for the woman who is dating a sports fan. Unless he’s already a season ticket holder, nothing will please a man more than two or so tickets to a competitive sporting event. A rule I’d like to add to this purchase: If bought as a birthday/Father’s Day/Christmas gift, encourage the man to go to the event with one of his friends. If bought just for the sake of being nice, the woman has a right to impose herself on the second ticket.
Cologne: The funny thing about this gift is how possessive women are over it. I remember I once put on some cologne before heading out on a date with an ex-girlfriend of mine. As we were walking to our destination she says, “What are you wearing?” I forget what the scent was, but when I told her she then asked, “Where did you get it from?” I said, “It was a gift.” She asked, “Who got it for you?” I said, “Umm, an ex of mine.” She said, “Okay…” Then there was silence. We continued walking down 34th street, which for those who know is a haven for bootleggers and street vendors. Out of nowhere, my ex stops at a table filled with name brand colognes on the cheap. She’s sampling, smelling, asking me to smell this bottle and that before she finally settles on D&G. I liked it too. She tells the vendor she’ll take the D&G, pays for it, and then hands me the bag. “I’ll get you another cologne later, but until then, the next time you put some on, you put this on. I don’t want to smell what another woman bought you.” To me, this still makes sense, so ladies, buy a man a scent. He should smell good on his own but he should smell magical because of you.
Gadgets: This is strictly for those who are in a committed relationship because gadgets are expensive. Though the watch may seem like the jewelry equivalent to a man, it’s actually gadgets. This sort of gift can range anywhere from Beats By Dre Headphones (any woman who wants to buy me a pair, I would love you for it) to an iPad 2. Although, I wouldn’t trust a woman who bought me an iPad 2 out of fear she added a hidden tracking device app that she keeps tabs on at all times, but I digress. The point is, gadgets, ladies. Get them for that special guy. And yes, Madden 2012 counts as a gadget.
Hats/Tailored Suit: Here’s the deal with this purchase, it doesn’t look good on every man. But hey, I can’t speak for every man here, I can only speak for me and I make hats look good. If you’re dating one of those guys who looks ridiculous in hats, go with a tailored suit. A reader actually emailed me about this very thing a couple of weeks ago, saying she took her man on a date to a customized hat shop. I thought it was a great idea. Like a man should know a woman’s ring size, a woman should know her man’s hat size, or if applicable, his suit measurements. I actually had another ex-girlfriend of mine go in my closet, take one of my tailored suits along with another suit I hadn’t gotten tailored yet, and had the tailor make the necessary adjustments as a Christmas gift. But it didn’t get done in time, so she gave me the pick-up ticket as a gift. Unfortunately, we broke up soon after, and she sure did take the ticket with her.
Much of her lessons have been forgotten, admittedly, but there was one lesson she taught me that has stuck with me forever. It goes as follows:
A woman should never have to buy her own flowers, jewelry, or perfume
I believe her father told her this, and I thought it good and fair advice. My mother also once told me a man should buy his woman flowers at least once a month. This is good advice as well. Over the years, I have also noticed another item or purchase a woman should never have to make on her own: A day at the spa. All men should get their special lady a day at the spa, whether it be for a special occasion or not. So those are the four things a woman should never have to buy for herself, which begs the question: What should a man never have to buy for himself? Even if he has the means to do so, I thought, there should be some items men should receive from others instead of treating themselves.
I’ve thought long and hard about this list and I’m finally ready to share it with everyone else. Feel free to add anything both to the list of things a woman should never have to buy for herself (which I’m sure my woman readers are going to do anyway) and the list of things a man should never have to buy for himself.
Here it is, four things a man should never have to purchase for himself. No further explanations necessary.
A Watch: We all keep time on our cellular devices these days, so the watch has seemingly been put on the back burner, but it’s also resurrected the importance of a nice time piece. These days, no man is wearing a watch for its functionality, we’re wearing one because they’re fashionable and demonstrate our appreciation for the old school.
Tickets To A Game: I’ve mentioned this gift before, because I just think it’s so obvious for the woman who is dating a sports fan. Unless he’s already a season ticket holder, nothing will please a man more than two or so tickets to a competitive sporting event. A rule I’d like to add to this purchase: If bought as a birthday/Father’s Day/Christmas gift, encourage the man to go to the event with one of his friends. If bought just for the sake of being nice, the woman has a right to impose herself on the second ticket.
Cologne: The funny thing about this gift is how possessive women are over it. I remember I once put on some cologne before heading out on a date with an ex-girlfriend of mine. As we were walking to our destination she says, “What are you wearing?” I forget what the scent was, but when I told her she then asked, “Where did you get it from?” I said, “It was a gift.” She asked, “Who got it for you?” I said, “Umm, an ex of mine.” She said, “Okay…” Then there was silence. We continued walking down 34th street, which for those who know is a haven for bootleggers and street vendors. Out of nowhere, my ex stops at a table filled with name brand colognes on the cheap. She’s sampling, smelling, asking me to smell this bottle and that before she finally settles on D&G. I liked it too. She tells the vendor she’ll take the D&G, pays for it, and then hands me the bag. “I’ll get you another cologne later, but until then, the next time you put some on, you put this on. I don’t want to smell what another woman bought you.” To me, this still makes sense, so ladies, buy a man a scent. He should smell good on his own but he should smell magical because of you.
Gadgets: This is strictly for those who are in a committed relationship because gadgets are expensive. Though the watch may seem like the jewelry equivalent to a man, it’s actually gadgets. This sort of gift can range anywhere from Beats By Dre Headphones (any woman who wants to buy me a pair, I would love you for it) to an iPad 2. Although, I wouldn’t trust a woman who bought me an iPad 2 out of fear she added a hidden tracking device app that she keeps tabs on at all times, but I digress. The point is, gadgets, ladies. Get them for that special guy. And yes, Madden 2012 counts as a gadget.
Hats/Tailored Suit: Here’s the deal with this purchase, it doesn’t look good on every man. But hey, I can’t speak for every man here, I can only speak for me and I make hats look good. If you’re dating one of those guys who looks ridiculous in hats, go with a tailored suit. A reader actually emailed me about this very thing a couple of weeks ago, saying she took her man on a date to a customized hat shop. I thought it was a great idea. Like a man should know a woman’s ring size, a woman should know her man’s hat size, or if applicable, his suit measurements. I actually had another ex-girlfriend of mine go in my closet, take one of my tailored suits along with another suit I hadn’t gotten tailored yet, and had the tailor make the necessary adjustments as a Christmas gift. But it didn’t get done in time, so she gave me the pick-up ticket as a gift. Unfortunately, we broke up soon after, and she sure did take the ticket with her.
April 5, 2011
WORDS OF WISDOM...TO LIVE BY....
“To the world you may be just one person, but to one person you may be the world.”
5 GREAT IDEAS FOR THIS SPRING....
1.Take time to plan. Without a plan, you’re stuck with good intentions that you can’t execute. If you have extra time over spring break, do some personal reflection and goal setting. Think about one behavior at a time. What would you like to change about nutrition? Write it down. Continue this until you have a list of changes that have been on your mind.
Be consistent. Don’t think about how far you have to go, think about what you will do today to work on that change. For example: I will eat two whole fruits a day. I will not snack in front of the TV or computer.
2. Clean out your cabinets. Spring says “let's clean up” for some reason. Why not take a day to really get your cabinets in order? Pull everything out and assess. Do you have a lot of packaged, heavily processed foods or snacks? What nourishing foods can you add to your pantry? Healthy items include: nuts, fresh and dried fruit, dried and canned beans, whole grains (whole wheat pasta, cous cous, brown rice), canned salmon and tuna, tomato sauce, onions, garlic, salt-free dried herbs and spices.
3. Visit a running or sporting goods store. The problem with exercising is we tend to assume it is something to suffer through. You don’t have to do any exercise that feels uncomfortable. Exercise is not punishment. Maybe you would have fun jogging in a pool, rollerblading, or just simply walking after work. Take stock of your fitness equipment.
Don’t assume you have to squeeze yourself into spandex or workout clothes. Find at least one outfit that makes you look and feel good.
4. Make a “don’t do” list. There’s never enough time in the day to prepare meals and exercise. If this is you, there’s too much on your plate. Period. It’s not a race to see how
much you can squeeze into your calendar. There will always be things to do. Why not spend some time making your first-ever “don’t do” list? All you need to do is think about
what you are currently doing that eats up time in your day. Are you spending too much screen time – TV and computer? Volunteering too much? Pulling more than your fair
share in the family? It’s time to delegate and get some help.
5. Love yourself. Most people would probably read this and say, “well of course I love myself.” But if you really think about it, we're our own worst critics, especially when we
know we need to change. We judge ourselves by so many things each day – what we weigh, what we put in our mouths, if we were too lazy to exercise, we’re not _____
enough. The reality is, the better you feel about yourself, the more positive you are, the more successful you will be. Write down three things about yourself you love, ask
others what they love most about you, and then write down three negative things you will no longer tell yourself.
When you want to change habits, it can be hard just figuring out where to start. That’s what’s so powerful about “Nothing changes until you do.” It shows that change starts within. It also says that you already have what you need to change. You don’t need to wait for someone to solve your problems. You can change your own life.
Be consistent. Don’t think about how far you have to go, think about what you will do today to work on that change. For example: I will eat two whole fruits a day. I will not snack in front of the TV or computer.
2. Clean out your cabinets. Spring says “let's clean up” for some reason. Why not take a day to really get your cabinets in order? Pull everything out and assess. Do you have a lot of packaged, heavily processed foods or snacks? What nourishing foods can you add to your pantry? Healthy items include: nuts, fresh and dried fruit, dried and canned beans, whole grains (whole wheat pasta, cous cous, brown rice), canned salmon and tuna, tomato sauce, onions, garlic, salt-free dried herbs and spices.
3. Visit a running or sporting goods store. The problem with exercising is we tend to assume it is something to suffer through. You don’t have to do any exercise that feels uncomfortable. Exercise is not punishment. Maybe you would have fun jogging in a pool, rollerblading, or just simply walking after work. Take stock of your fitness equipment.
Don’t assume you have to squeeze yourself into spandex or workout clothes. Find at least one outfit that makes you look and feel good.
4. Make a “don’t do” list. There’s never enough time in the day to prepare meals and exercise. If this is you, there’s too much on your plate. Period. It’s not a race to see how
much you can squeeze into your calendar. There will always be things to do. Why not spend some time making your first-ever “don’t do” list? All you need to do is think about
what you are currently doing that eats up time in your day. Are you spending too much screen time – TV and computer? Volunteering too much? Pulling more than your fair
share in the family? It’s time to delegate and get some help.
5. Love yourself. Most people would probably read this and say, “well of course I love myself.” But if you really think about it, we're our own worst critics, especially when we
know we need to change. We judge ourselves by so many things each day – what we weigh, what we put in our mouths, if we were too lazy to exercise, we’re not _____
enough. The reality is, the better you feel about yourself, the more positive you are, the more successful you will be. Write down three things about yourself you love, ask
others what they love most about you, and then write down three negative things you will no longer tell yourself.
When you want to change habits, it can be hard just figuring out where to start. That’s what’s so powerful about “Nothing changes until you do.” It shows that change starts within. It also says that you already have what you need to change. You don’t need to wait for someone to solve your problems. You can change your own life.
April 4, 2011
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