DEFINITION OF THE MONTH....CREW LOVE....

When a group of friends, guys and girls, date amongst each other and pass each other around to other mates in the group.

REMEMBER WHEN....WASHINGTON, DC EDITION....

REMEMBER WHEN....


ALL OF DC'S CLUBS WERE WITHIN WALKING DISTANCE OF EACH OTHER....


WHEN THE WET AND EDGE WERE CONNECTED AND FRIDAY NIGHT WAS THE HOTTEST NIGHT TO GO OUT....


WHEN FOLLIES WAS THE ONE GUILTY PLEASURE YOU DID BUT DIDN'T WANT ANYBODY TO EVER FIND OUT ABOUT....


WHEN YOU COULD GO TO DREAM/LUV ON NEW YORK AVE. AND PICK UP WHATEVER YOU WANT...MALE OR FEMALE...


REMEMBER WHEN DC HAD THE HOTTEST "REAL" BOYS AROUND...


DC HAD THE ORIGINAL BEST GAY BLACK PRIDE OUTSIDE OF ATL....PRE-MIAMI SIZZLE....(I KNOW DC IS COMING BACK AROUND FOR THE MORE MATURE CROWD)


PENTAGON CITY RIVALED ATL'S LENOX MALL ON A SATURDAY AFTERNOON WITH ALL THE COLLEGE KIDS, TOURISTS AND DMV NATIVES....


SATURDAY NIGHT WAS THE DELTA....DC'S ORIGINAL IF YOU ARE A PYT....AND THE MILL IF YOU WERE MORE MATURE....THE MILL GAVE CLASSIC DC HOUSE, STRONG CHEAP DRINKS AND A LIVELY CROWD...


NATIONS HAD THE LIVEST GAY PRIDE PARTIES BACK IN THE DAY....


GEORGETOWN ON A SATURDAY AFTERNOON WAS THE SHIT...


HOUSE PARTIES IN THE BURBS OF THE DMV WERE THE SHIT...ON THE MD AND VA SIDES...

REMEMBER WHEN....ATL EDITION

REMEMBER WHEN...


TRAXX ATLANTA WAS THE SHIT AND WAS LOCATED ACROSS THE STREET FROM WHERE THE AQUARIUM NOW SITS....


FUSIONS USED TO BE LOCATED IN AMSTERDAM AND DURING PRIDE THE WHOLE OUTSIDE WOULD BE A SEA OF BLACK MEN....

THE PALACE WAS THE PLACE TO BE ON SUNDAY AFTERNOON/EVENING/NIGHT....THE WHOLE BLACK WOULD BE THE CLUB....NOT JUST THE 3 LEVELS INSIDE....THIS WAS ALSO THE PLACE YOU COULD GO DURING THE WEEK AND RUN UP ON SOME QUESTIONABLE TRADE

PEOPLE ACTUALLY WENT TO THE MARQUETTE JUST TO SAY THEY HAVE BEEN....LEGENDARY/ATL'S ORIGINAL GAY BLACK SPOT IN THE HOOD!!!

PEOPLE IN ATLANTA WENT OUT TO PARTY AND NOT TO POST UP AND JUST LOOK CUTE....PEOPLE ACTUALLY DANCED


PIEDMONT PARK STILL HAD A QUESTIONABLE REPUTATION OF HAPPENINGS AT NIGHT...YOU WANTED TO GO IN AND SEE FOR YOURSELF BUT WERE TOO NERVOUS BECAUSE OF EVERYTHING YOU HEARD ABOUT IT....PLUS YOU DIDN'T WANT TO GO TO JAIL...


ATLANTA HAD REAL STRIPPERS....BOYS WITH BODIES AND FACES THAT COULD ACTUALLY DANCE....WHERE DID THEY ALL GO?  I'M TIRED OF THE SKINNY SISSIES WITH ALL THE BOOTY SHAKING WE HAVE NOW....


YOU COULD GO OUT EVERY NIGHT OF THE WEEK TO A DIFFERENT CLUB....MONDAY WAS THE DRAG SHOW AT TRAXX....HAS SINCE MOVED TO THE JUNGLE....TUESDAY WAS THUGGED OUT TUESDAY AT TRAXX....ANOTHER GREAT WAY TO MEET YOU A HOT DATE AND GET YOUR DANCE ON....WEDNESDAY WAS THE OTHER SIDE OFF PIEDMONT....THURSDAY WAS EITHER BULLDOGS FOR THE OLD HEADS OR FOR MS. SOPHIA LOVERS MEMORIAL DRIVE TO PHASE 1....FRIDAY WAS ORIGINALLY FUSIONS THEN TOWERS II....SATURDAY WAS RESERVED FOR THE 3RD FLOOR OF TRAXX OR 708 IF YOU WERE OF THE BANGIER SIDE OF GAYNESS....GOOGLE BANGIE/BANGY IF YOU DON'T KNOW WHAT I MEAN....SUNDAY WAS AND WILL FOREVER BE FOR THE LONG GONE/CLOSED DOWN PALACE...IT GAVE YOU EVERYTHING YOU NEEDED IN A SEEDY LOCATION....HOT MUSIC, BOYS, FLEXIBLE HOURS/SHIT THEY WERE ALWAYS OPEN AND SOMEWHERE TO GO WHEN YOU JUST COULDN'T MAKE YOUR MIND UP...


REMEMBER WHEN.....CLUBS COST $10 OR UNDER TO GET INTO....


DRINKS WERE STILL $6

REMEMBER WHEN PEOPLE HAD HOT ASS HOUSE PARTIES!!!


GOODBYE LATE 90'S AND THE 2000'S....HELLO 20TEENS...

REAL MISTRESSES OF ATLANTA....GOTTA BE A JOKE!!!

THIS PRETTY MUCH SUMS US ALL UP....ACCURATE

BEGINNINGS....

COMING TO BET THIS FALL....BEING MARY JANE...STARRING G. UNION

The show was originally to be called Single Black Female.The series centers on successful talk show host Mary Jane Paul (played by Gabrielle Union), her professional and private family life, while searching for "Mr. Right":

"Mary Jane Paul has it all: she’s a successful TV news anchor, entirely self-sufficient – an all-around powerhouse who remains devoted to a family that doesn’t share her motivation. As Mary Jane juggles her life, her work and her commitment to her family, we find out how far she’s willing to go to find the puzzle pieces that she, and society, insist are missing from her life as a single Black female."

Omari Hardwick plays a potential Mr. Right. Other stars include Latarsha Rose, Lisa Vidal, Aaron D. Spears,Richard Roundtree,Margaret Avery, Richard Brooks, Omari Hardwick, Tika Sumpter, Raven Goodwin, B.J. Britt, Aaron Spears, and Robinne Lee.

The series is produced by Mara Brock Akil, who produced BET's most successful series ever, The Game and romantic comedy filmJumping the Broom.

MORE PROOF THAT YOU NEED TO MAKE SURE YOUR CHINESE FOOD IS BEEF OR PORK OR SHRIMP AND NOT DOG OR CAT!!!!....

WARNING-VERY GRAPHIC!!

GET INTO THE LYRICS.....HATE SLEEPING ALONE

She said kiss me like you miss me, fuck me like you hate me
And when you’re fucking someone else just fuck her like she ain't me

IT'S TIME TO WAKE UP INDIANAPOLIS....IT'S TIME

WAKE UP to INDIANAPOLIS 'NIGGAs':: WTF is Wrong with yall? Did you get DROPPED on your brain as an infant?? Why do you keep SHOOTING and KILLING each other?? Don't you REALIZE you doin EXACTLY what they want? Don't you realize that YOUR IGNORANT actions has stopped ALOT of what made Indianapolis the SHIT For Black people?? Take a look at Lafayette Square...Gone to shit...Washington Square...Gone to shit...EastGateMall....Gone to shit...No SoulFest Picnic (niggaz kept shooting...AT each other), Shootings at the Indianapolis BLACK EXPO, keyword BLACK.... shootings at Circle City Classic, shootings at Every BLACK club that we have,Hell, they even closed down the most POPULAR Chuck E Cheese in the CITY because of Ignorant Black Folks...We can't have SHIT!!!!! Stop bein so fuckin stupid..Why do White People Build shit, Mexicans Maintain it, but Black people RUN SHIT DOWN!?...Leave trash everywhere, scribble yall stupid Nicknames on the side of your OWN buildings, Hit 'LICKs' on Each other's 'APARTMENTs' (<--Wow)...I'vebeen working in places in INDIANA where they HATE black people, but their HOUSE cost more than YOUR apartment building, and we STEALIN From EACH OTHER!??! The Lil guy who got killed at CLOUD 9, just turned 21 and got killed on his Birthday ...that was his FIRST TIME EVER in the CLUB!! Yall THink yall gangstas because of this WACK ASS MUSIC?!...Gangsters if you do your homework, GOT MONEY! if everyone mind they OWN business, make their OWN money, and get they OWN pussy, we would have a BETTER Indianapolis....The Far East and West is Raggedy as FUCK, but The North, South, and Downtown is Being Rebuilt and look GREAT!...Do Everything we Touch we gotta DESTROY!? Especially your HOME, and that's supposed to be your sanctuary, until some PunkAss nigga, breaks in and kills you over your XBox..Niggaz don't party no more, they sneak guns in the club just so they can tell they niggaz "I got a gun in the club". All the women fuckin each other, cuz yall Niggaz make us look WORTHLESS wit yall Burnin dicks..Yall degraded the VALUE of Marriage with Cheating, instead of Loving your Partner...A Black man goes to work EveryDay for 20 years to accumulate nice things, for his OWN kind to steal it, and kill him for it..White People are right, We ARE ignorant, Selfish, Superficial, and we use the Bible as an EXCUSE, instead of POWER..Notice that there is a CHURCH, and a LIQUOR Store EVERYWHERE in the hood, but not in Greenwood, and Broad Ripple...Yall make me sick..It's time to show the world, that we as a Race can STAND UP to Rich White people STRIPPING our RIGHTS away RIGHT IN FRONT OF OUR FACES! Let's show the world that We are Educated, Students, Business Owners, Teachers, Supervisors, Leaders, hell, even PRESIDENTS!(s/o Obama!) We ARE the Future! Start Taking care of YOUR WOMAN and she will take care of YOU...Not yo Bitches ..Welfare and TANF is about to get phased out, along with Unemployment, and ANYTHING that's gonna cripple the REPUBLICAN Federations in which this Country was funded with...and the best way to get someone to do something FOR YOU, or TO SOMEONE else, is to STARVE them..but will black folks start starving and eating each other's Raman Noodles, or Go after these muthafuckaz that's eating the steaks and laughin while we constantly make NEWS ending each other's Lives...Kill Yourselves, Oh wait, We already doin that.

Via DjGus Fromda Deadend

LOOK WHO'S SINGLE AGAIN...LOCK UP YOUR COLLEGE AGE SONS...ESPECIALLY IF THEY PLAY A SPORT

Becoming The Change They Want To Love More.....FROM UNTILIGETMARRIED.COM

At first, you wonder how the hell a person who has so many problems with you ended up choosing you. You wonder if they did their research during the courting phase. Didn’t they see you were this way and not another?

The answer is they did but they didn’t care. They were focused on you, saw everything that was wrong, from the little things like the way you eat, to the bigger things like how horrible you are with money. The little things, at first, were adorable. The bigger things, well, they could help you with that. They told you not to worry, that there was still plenty about you they loved. Your flaws didn’t scare them.

But you knew better because you heard it all before. At some point, the other foot was going to drop. Not only does Newton’s law say so, but it’s also something experience has taught you. The other foot always drops. Your problems are not a problem now but a problem they will be. You remember the last time it happened, years ago, with your college love.

One day you two were in a heated argument about something trivial. You don’t remember. But you do remember the way you tuned her out, walked away from the dinner table to put your plate in the sink and how, as you were rinsing off your dish, you belched, loudly.

Now, you were polite enough to say excuse me, but it wasn’t enough to prevent her from looking at you with utter disgust. It wasn’t the belch that set her off, it was everything she thought the belch represented, how it was so rude to do it in front of her, but you really didn’t care about being rude in front of her. She knew you knew she was going to accept it, and the look of disgust was not about you but about how much she let herself accept such behavior. Those flaws she tolerated in the beginning were now beginning to set in, and soon after, she was gone.

Another love came later. She too accepted the flaws up front. You two were friends at first, so she knew you in ways most women did not. She knew your demons, knew your ways, and in spite of how transparent you were during your time as friends, she fell for you anyway. Knowing that she knew everything about you and what you were capable of made you put forth your best effort to put her mind at ease.

But very quickly you were up to your old ways again and just as quickly she called you out for it. She demanded you change and unlike the last love, this love was not going to let the little things go. She knew minor offenses were a gateway to bigger offenses, so she called you out for everything.

You hated every minute of it, but you loved that woman so much, you did everything you could to make her believe in you. Change was a constant word in your relationship. It’s what she wanted from you, it’s what you wanted to give, but it was an abstract concept neither of you were able to fully grasp. Every time you told her you were trying, she told you you didn’t know what you were doing. Every time she told you you didn’t know what you were doing, you told her she didn’t know what she wanted. The cycle was sick and eventually it had to be broken. She was tired of your effort, you were tired of trying. The problem was not that you two stopped loving each other, the problem was you two loved each other so much every little thing that was wrong felt like the worst thing in the world. You two had no choice but to love each other away from each other.

Change is a bad word in relationships. We reject it too quickly, despise the idea of it, or flat out don’t believe we deserve it. The old folks tell you don’t expect to change for you. Yet, everyone wants the person they love to change, it’s just, no one wants to have to say it because it goes against one of our core beliefs in a relationship: That you shouldn’t have to change who you are to be with someone. This is why we’re cynical about people changing for us.

But here’s the funny thing about change: It takes place in all of us, whether we want it to or not. I didn’t understand why that back in college, which says a whole lot about how underdeveloped my thoughts were on love. But I grew up and with the second, I realized the error of my ways — how choosing not to change can cause things to crumble — so she got my best effort towards change.

Seeing as it didn’t work out, it’s tough to qualify why we should even try to change for someone else and it’s tough to believe we can. But I don’t think the outcome represents what was important. What was important was for her I tried to change and long after her and I ended, I continued to work on the things she asked of me. It wasn’t to get her back, it was to make amends for myself. I wasn’t going to ever be perfect, but I wanted to be better, and if there’s anything I learned about loving someone else, it’s that getting better is how they know.

Some people say you will lose someone the exact way you found them but that’s only if both parties refuse to change, that’s when you choose to love round and round instead of forward. Love should never be a circle, it should always be a line.

If you really love someone, and they say they love you too, why not be open to making the necessary changes in order to keep that love alive? The people who loved me most demanded the most out of me, and it was the people I loved the most for whom I wanted to make whatever changes necessary.

Never accept the first “I love you.” The first “I love you” is fantasy, idyllic, and flimsy. Purify that shit. Someone will always love you for who you are, but change, grow, evolve, use whatever word you want here, just apply it so they have a reason to love you more.

NEVER ACCEPT THE FIRST LOVE....FROM UNTILIGETMARRIED.COM

Never accept the first “I love you.” The first “I love you” is fantasy, idyllic, and flimsy. Purify that shit. Someone will always love you for who you are, but change, grow, evolve, use whatever word you want here, just apply it so they have a reason to love you more.

WHAT HE SAID...MEMPHITZ ON K.MICHELLE (LOVE AND HIP HOP ATLANTA)

As I was installing the Teeth, T*tties, & A– you’re Flaunting, I forgot to tell you about the Growing Nose I threw in Pinocchio. Lol. @kmichelle I made you. -Mr. Gepetto

Read more: Memphitz to K. Michelle: ‘I Made You’ | Necole Bitchie.com 


WELL DAMN......

WILL THE REAL BLACK PEOPLE OF ATLANTA STAND UP....KELLY SMITH BEATY

I, like many of you, watched in complete horror as a cable network debuted yet another reality drama based on black life as it purportedly unfolds in the ATL. I will refrain from mentioning the name of this show because if you saw it then you already know what I'm referring to and if you didn't then I do not wish to entice or encourage you to seek it out. In fact, the more that I reflect on my feelings about what I witnessed Monday evening, the more I realize that my disgust lies not just with that particular show alone, but with the way that the city which was once a symbol of black progress is now being portrayed in the media as a whole.

Series after series I have watched with great chagrin as popular reality TV franchises select the jewel of the south to lift the veil of mystique behind the city's affluent and create what ultimately amounts to a ratings bonanza for the networks and a cash windfall for the producers.

Time after time, executive producers from L.A. and New York, where I currently reside- bring their camera crews and A/V techs into our city to create what inevitably amounts to the Jerry Springer equivalent of the franchise's northern counterparts. A series that historically featured the diamond encrusted lives of wealthy spouses debuted an Atlanta version of the series where the wealth was elusive and spouses were no longer a requirement. More recently, a show about popular entertainers and the women who love them premiered an Atlanta-based installment where the term popular was subjective and women suggested that other women should be put "on the track," a prostitution reference that is particularly damaging for a city that is already noted for being one of the largest hubs for child sex trafficking in the world. To put it mildly I was offended. To state I plainly, I was aghast.

How is it that a city which was once the crowning jewel in the story of black America has allowed itself to be positioned as the melting pot of black affliction? The Atlanta that I knew and grew up in was one of great pride and self-respect. Our achievements were known across the globe, as people from far and wide would often respond, "Wow, I hear that black people are really doing their thing down there," when I would tell them I'm from Atlanta. Today that assertion is often met with "Yoooo....I hear Atlanta's got them bangin' strip clubs." ...Really?!?

So for those who seem to have forgotten who we really are, I'd like to offer a brief REALITY check on the Real Black People of Atlanta:

If you'd like to make a reality show about prominent housewives, I'd suggest doing a retrospective on the wife of Alonzo Herndon- a former slave turned businessman who went on to found the Atlanta Life Insurance Company, became the city's largest black property owner by 1900, and made history as Atlanta's first black millionaire. His first wife's name was Adrienne Herndon and she was a teacher at Atlanta University. I'm no screen writer, but it seems to me that being the wife of a "new negro" in a post slavery south would be wrought with drama and ratings drivers.

Looking for something more current? Sure. How about doing a docu-series on the Russell wives? We could call it "Love and Hard Hats." Herman J. Russell successfully built one of the nation's most profitable minority-owned business empires whose construction and real estate projects include the famed Hartsfield-Jackson International Airport, the Georgia Dome, Phillips Arena, and Turner Field. Lovette Twyman Russell, wife of the company's current CEO, Michael Russell, is stylish, sassy, and savvy. I've never met her, but I'd bet she's brimming with reality-worthy one-liners and sound bites.

If music shows are more your speed, I'd think that the hometown of LaFace Records, the 1989 music start-up that led Atlanta to be dubbed the "New Motown" and gave the world such iconic acts as Outkast, Toni Braxton, Usher, TLC, Goodie Mob, and Pink would be overrun with stories about making it in hip hop without cringe worthy commentary about feminine hygiene product usage and an entire cast of beautiful, distressed women fighting to stay in relationships with disinterested men.

I'm not going to digress into a history lesson on the great African-Americans that call Atlanta home--although I could easily do so since we boast such historically significant and societal shifting institutions as the nation's largest consortium of African-Americans in higher education- the Atlanta University Center, Ebenezer Baptist Church, the Southern Christian Leadership Conference, the Apex Museum, Atlanta Daily World- the oldest African-American daily newspaper still in circulation, and the Sweet Auburn Historic District- the incubator for early black entrepreneurship and the southern hotspot for the likes of Cab Calloway and Duke Ellington.

My point is only that the city that has had an uninterrupted succession of black mayors since 1974, beginning with the first black mayor of a major southern city, Maynard Jackson, to present mayor Kasim Reed, and the city that birthed Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. and gave rise to the likes of W.E.B. DuBois, Booker T. Washington, baseball great Hank Aaron and modern day mogul Tyler Perry doesn't have to settle for being the butt of any reality franchise's humiliating and reputation-damaging joke.

Our REALITY is progressive, proud, prestigious, and prominent. No, it is not squeaky clean, but it is not an eye sore in the American tapestry either. We as Atlantans, black Atlantans, the Real Black People of Atlanta, whether we currently reside there or benefitted from its nurturing for only finite periods of our lives, should no longer sit by and allow our city's rich legacy--our race's rich legacy--to be marred in the name of discount entertainment.

The Website of the National Registry says it best:

"the story of the largest southern city can be told through the experiences of its largest ethnic minority."

What do the stories in these new crop of so-called reality shows tell our children, our nation, the world about us?

That Georgia peach that appears at the end of these shows is rotten. It is time that we come together to throw it out. Exactly how we go about that task remains unclear but if there is anything that our legacy teaches us, it is that we truly can accomplish anything.

 

WHAT SHE SAID...LIL KIM ON DRAKE

I mean, people are so hard on Chris (Brown). He made a mistake, he owned up to it, and he and Rihanna have moved on with their lives. But since that incident it’s so easy to blame Chris. What I know about Drake is he is bitch-made.

Meaning he’s an instigator, and a p*ssy. He had no issue stepping to Lil Kim, I’m like five feet tall.

But he didn’t try stepping to Chris, a man, because he’s simply a coward. At the end of the day, you don’t gotta be a tough guy to be a rapper, but don’t dress up in Gangsta Drag when you a bitch.

Drake’s a bottom – y’all know what I mean when I say that.

WHAT SHE SAID...CADILLAC KIMBERLY AT THE LOVE AND HIP HOP ATL QUESTION AND ANSWER.....

One of the final questions came from the loud-and-we-love-it Cadillac Kim (pictured above with Egypt who hosted the evening).  If you're not familiar with her Youtubery, get familiar. 

She asked, while staring at Joseline, "Are any of you transgender?"  

Joseline responded, "Well you're the only one that looks transgender is you with that busted wig. You look like a man."Joseline jumped up and shook her ASSets to prove they were real.

Then Mona defended Joseline saying, "I have seen Joseline naked. She is definitely a woman".

Kim's response? "You don't know that unless you ate it. Did you eat her?" Mona calmly replied, "No, I wasn't hungry."

#dead

SURROUND YOURSELF WITH....

VERY LOW TOLERANCE....WELL SAID...

WHAT SHE SAID...KOLA BOOF...REGARDING KIMORA AND DJIMON...

I am the reason that they broke up. I have slept with Djimon Hounsou throughout his marriage to Kimora Lee Simmons. I don’t think it’s a secret to people in Los Angeles. I am not in love with Djimon Hounsou & he is not in love with me. The only reason I had sex with him was to get revenge on Kimora. Kimora nearly destroyed my life and my children’s lives. She is a lecherous, two-faced, money-obsessed witch and a delusional snob. Now that they are ‘separated’ (and trying to hide that fact), I have no interest in sleeping with him further.

Read More: Miss Jia: She ain’t for everybody… « Miss Jia: She ain’t for everybody… http://missjia.com/#ixzz1xdQ4yPh3

OCHOCINCO GETS A NEW JOB....WITH THE MIAMI DOLPHINS...

Former New England Patriot WR Chad Ochocinco is no longer unemployed. The 34-year-old reality TV star, whose real name is Chad Johnson, signed a one-year contract with the Dolphins on Monday, according to the Miami Herald.

WORDS OF WISDOM...BREAKUPS

JUSTIN'S ATLANTA IS CLOSED....IT'S OFFICIAL

Over the weekend rumors were running rampant that Sean Comb’s landmark Justin’s Restaurant was closing its doors. The AJC finally confirmed the rumor yesterday. But rumors have swirled for years that Justin’s was closing down.

STATS DON'T LIE...MARRIAGE AND DIVORCE

According to the National Center for Health Statistics, approximately 60 percent of marriages in which the couple marries between age 20 and 25 will end in divorce

WHY MARRIAGE SHOULDN'T BE ALLOWED UNTIL THE AGE 25.....

Age is just a number... except when it comes to marriage.

Let's look at my stats:
Current age - 29
Divorced for - 8 months
Separated for - 1 year, 9 months
Age when I met my ex - 19
Age when I married - 24

Which brings me to my point: couples should not be allowed to get married before age 25.

While I know that this statement is going to make me very unpopular with readers, I do believe that it would be for the best -- better both for the institution of marriage and the individuals getting married -- if we could change the law to prevent couples from getting married before the age of 25.

In my experience, marriage before 25 was not the smartest idea. I met my ex at the tender young age of 19 (just a few months after my birthday). I was enjoying the freedom of drinking and partying legally for the first time (I live in Canada where the drinking age is 19). I had yet to figure out who I was or what I wanted in my life. I was naïve and impressionable, and when I met my much older ex, I was perfectly happy to let him take control of my life, creating a relationship dynamic that continued for the nine years we were together.

We decided to get married when I was 24. It seemed like the right thing to do at the time because everyone knows that after five years, you should be married or at least engaged, right? It was definitely the message that I was getting from all of our friends. So we took the plunge, getting married on the beach in Miami Beach in front of our friends and family.

That's where the problems began. Once the excitement of planning a beach wedding was over, after the suntan had faded, I was left simply living my life with my husband. Don't get me wrong, I loved him -- and a part of me always will. But because we had started dating at such a young age, he was marrying someone who had absolutely no idea who she was and what she wanted in her life. In short, it was a recipe for divorce.

People under the age of 25 are still discovering themselves; they are figuring out what is most important in their lives. They are discovering the joys (and heartache) of being in a relationship, and then the partying that often characterizes life between relationships. They are figuring out what their relationship "deal-breakers" are and who their most appropriate partners would be. While a person may be 100 percent certain that they love something -- or someone -- at the age of 21, by 29, they will most likely completely change their mind. Life is anything but certain.

My opinions are based solely on my personal experiences and the experiences of the people that I know and have observed. That being said, marriage and divorce statistics do support my claim. According to the National Center for Health Statistics, approximately 60 percent of marriages in which the couple marries between age 20 and 25 will end in divorce. A scary figure for young lovebirds... but definitely one that validates my opinion.

Who knows? Maybe there are 20-year-olds that get married and stay madly in love for their whole lives. Maybe puppy love can last forever.

Could be. Maybe there is such thing as fairies and unicorns too.

Just saying...

Jennifer Nagy

Ochocinco IS UNEMPLOYED....AGAIN....

After a short season with the New England Patriots, Chad Ochocinco has been released from the team. The team had been unable to successfully trade him so they let him go. No word from the Patriots as to why they were so eager to release him from the team, but many suspect that he was performing more off the field than he was on.

Chad remains optimistic however. He took to Twitter to express himself to fans:

"Thoroughly enjoyed the oppurtunity to play for the "Patriot" organization... fans were fucking wicked awesome, I wish all of you the best... I'm healthy n living life, I'll be fine. This should be fun being able to drop off and pick my kids up for the 1st time consistently in 12 years." He goes on to express to his fans that he will be okay financially, that football was just one of his business endeavors and that he is in good spirits. Then he changed his Twitter bio to "Unemployed Black Guy" to lighten the mood.

I'm glad Chad is in good spirits. I actually like him. I liked T.O. too though but we all know how that turned out. For some reason Chad has always seemed as the "smarter" one of the two so I suspect he'll be okay.

Read more: http://www.balleralert.com/profiles/blogs/ocho-cinco-dropped-from-the-patriots#ixzz1xDrn029P

CLASSIC LV...FEATURING THE GREAT MUHMMAD ALI AND GRANDSON CURTIS MUHAMMAD....

NEW ROLES FOR "THE GAME"....WILL YOU KEEP WATCHING....

Now that Tia Mowry & Pooch Hall are officially OUT for season 6 of "The Game," the finale episode centered around the twosome heading off to Baltimore so that Melanie could pursue her residency at Johns Hopkins. 

What does that mean for next season of the show?  According to reports, instead of just filling in 2 new actors to the Melanie/Derwin roles, the writers are pulling a "Single Ladies" and casting two new actors--one male and one female--to play different roles that will run parallel to the Melanie/Derwin storyline.

With Tia Mowry leaving the show, producers are looking for a new female actress to join the cast in the regular role of Kiera, a 20-year-old former child star who has been in the spotlight since she was five years old and starring on a "Cosby" style sitcom. According to the casting call, she's bright and charming, but struggling into transitioning into a grown-up career.

Kiera isn't the only newbie in town! Another series regular will be hired to play Bryce "The Blueprint" Westbook - a #1, Ivy League draft pick running back who breaks every "dumb athlete" stereotype. He's not only got a Heisman Trophy, but he's usually the smartest guy in the room -- which sets his new teammates on edge.

QUOTE OF THE DAY...GET INTO IT....

Beauty only captures attention, but personality captures the heart. 

5 INTERESTING THINGS ABOUT CURTIS "50 CENT" JACKSON HE SHARED WITH OPRAH....

1. He meditates regularly. 


2. Received his mantra from Deepak Chopra, whose book he's currently reading. 


3. He was not allowed to use curse words in his grandmother's house and still follows that rule. 


4. A recent conversation with philanthropist Ray Chambers was life changing for him. 


 And my favorite.... 


5. He believes either pray or worry...no need for both.

WHAT SHE SAID....EVELYN'S LETTER TO HERE 7 YR. OLD SELF....

Dear Mija,

In exactly twenty-nine years you’re going to find yourself at the middle of a mess that you unwillingly helped to create… You’re going to be the topic of a discussion about women on a national level that won’t be one of your proudest moments. And as large as your life may be at that time, the truth is that you’re going to feel painfully small.

You’ll look through the rearview mirror of your life and see a mountain of mistakes. You’ll realize that although it appears that you’re living out a dream, your seven year old self could never picture this near nightmare at thirty-six. You’ll remember the days when you drowned out the fighting and drama in your own house and the negativity of the women you loved who ultimately shape who you will become. You’ll recall the moments when you sat in front of the television each day after school in search of someone positive and found Oprah and wondered if people like her would ever be a part of your life, or if you’d always have the jaded ones you watched on Jerry Springer.

You’ll make no excuses for your actions, as a matter of fact, you’ll find yourself in tears at the Ah-ha moment Star Jones forces you to have. Beyond what you’ll initially perceive as a malicious attack by Star, lives a hard truth that will shake you to your core. YOU are the little girl, she’s talking about. And it hadn’t dawned on you the effects that your grown-up actions were having on the next generation of little ones who watch negative and abusive moments unfold on television.

It’ll take the moment when you see and hear your future step-daughters pretending to be “you” after watching you behave badly on T.V., that you’ll actually feel real shame. Knowing that the self image they were imitating was the very ‘image of self’ you will so desperately try to escape. In utter embarrassment you’ll find yourself explaining your unacceptable behavior to them, reaching for the imprint of encouragement felt by Star, Oprah, our First Lady Michelle Obama and other positive women of color that have gone before you and that are prayerfully standing behind you…encouraging you…willing you to stand in the space God will so graciously provide for you.” It’ll be the wakeup call you need.

Until now, you’d never put a race, or face or even an age to the eyes that idolize you or see you as an example: be it good or bad. And although, conscious now, you’ll carry the fear of failure with you each second because deep down, you’ll realize that you yourself had never been taught better.

I cannot promise you perfection, Mija. I cannot say that overnight, I’m going to get it right every time. What I will promise you is that I will always remain conscious that little eyes like yours are watching me and because of that, I will try to be better.

Learning To Love You More,

Evelyn


(A 7 YR. OLD BEING ABLE TO DECIPHER THIS LETTER IS UNREALISTIC....THIS SHOULD HAVE BEEN TO HER 15 OR 16 YR. OLD SELF, JUST MY TWO CENTS)

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