Shower / Tub- if your into romance, light a few candles and run a bath for your significant other. Add some excitement and tell him/her that you’re planning to sex them up in the tub. Add some champagne or wine to the mix and things should get started effortlessly. Shower action is easy, take your partner by surprise, show up in the shower naked and have your way with him/her.
The Kitchen – is always an exciting place to get some love action started. Ladies, try baking your guys favorite cookies in a sexy set of boy shorts and a tank or t-shirt; dramatize your bending to reach in the oven and lean over the counter for some cleavage views to get his attention. Don’t be afraid to be aggressive with him, he’ll love it…and the cookies. There are several ingredients you can add to a sexy kitchen session. Fellas, get some cherries or strawberries and set up something in the kitchen table for some sensual arousal, be creative.
On the Patio – on a starry night, grab an oversized blanket, the ipod deck, fruit and wine. Set it up so it looks like it’s you’re going to spend some time out there, take your time with him/her and enjoy the full-body draft. If you feel a little edgy, try a daytime quickie on the lawn chair, the idea of being seen or caught always adds that extra sensation to the mix.
Outside in the Rain – Rain is sexy to begin with, so sex in the rain is amazing. If you get caught in the rain with your guy/girl, find a building to duck behind or a nearby park to indulge in some spontaneous loving. Parks are particularly convenient because they tend to be empty when it’s raining. If you live in a bigger city, fire escapes are slippery when wet and great fun on rainy days.
Elevator - this is no easy task to pull off, but can be quite exciting if you can make it happen. All elevators work different, so some have the ability to stop at the push of a button. In which case, push the button and get to it! But others, you will have to dodge the oncoming traffic and somehow find away to get the elevator to skip all stops with close door button coordination. Or, if you really don’t give a fu*k, let the doors open where it stops, and more than likely people will pass and take the next one going down.
Public Library - quick scientific fact: the largest erogenous zone is the brain. Smart people are always ready. If your partner’s a bookworm, have him/her meet you at the city or university library. Find a corner or a study nook that’s and wait for your lover to find you. When they find you, devour him/her, but remember you have to be quiet.
Moving Car – this is not the most legal thing to do, but days that you’re stuck in traffic leaving the stadium after a game could be great fun. However, if you’re busted it could be all bad! But viewership always heightens pleasure so a taxi or limo could be a ton of fun, if you’re both into it. *Outside of the car on top of the hood is an amazing experience and also something that can be done in the rain. Remember to be creative*
Within Earshot – this is great fun when you have people over or hosting a party. Grab your guy/girl and take them to an empty room and tell them you just have to have them right there, right now, can’t say no. Ladies, if you have a guy who likes to have his guys over, fake like you need him to fix something in the next room and attack him. He won’t be able to resist, and make sure his guests can hear your moans and screams and the place will grow silent with curiosity. When it’s over send him back out to his boys punch-drunk with your love, and watch how fast he’ll kick them out.
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July 30, 2009
BREAKING-UP 101....
1. I’ve known for about a week now. Contrary to popular belief, I can smell him on you when you come home after a night of “studying,” or, “working.” I wondered what that was. Not cool.
2. After a brief moment of being really pissed off, I realized that we are living in MY apartment. -Sweet!! As such, your key fob will no longer open any of the outer doors to my building. Your parking pass has been deactivated and security will not let you past the front desk. Furthermore, your access card allowing the elevator to go my apartment has been deactivated. Also, the door locks have been changed.
3. I have ceased all automatic monthly payments to your bills. You no longer have access to any of my accounts. Perhaps the French guy will take up your student loans. He does know your poor, right?
4. Your belongings are gone. Since I am a reasonable man, I have moved them into a Self Storage unit. The unit is paid up for a month so you’ll have ample time to get them. The address and combination to the unit have been left with the security guard at the front desk. I couldn’t remember if the stuffed panda was yours or mine so I threw it in with the rest of your stuff just in case. I’m not sure how long the plants will last though.
5. Security has been alerted at my office and you will not be allowed entry. Don’t try it. Those guys have about 50 pounds on you, and they carry guns.
6. Anything you have with you right now is yours and I will not look to get any of it back. Just a suggestion though; don’t try and sell my watch. I have the certificates for it and most reputable dealers won’t buy it unless you have the proper documentation. Those that would will probably just take the watch from you, along with your wrist and most of your arm.
7. The keys to your car are at the front desk as well. Your car will be towed unless you pick it up before 5pm on Tuesday. Although I might change my mind between now and then so, the sooner the better.
8. I have blocked your number.
9. I’ve blocked your mom’s number.
10. I’m keeping the dog. Even though you picked him out, I paid for him. He likes me more anyway.
In case you missed it, I’m breaking up with you.
2. After a brief moment of being really pissed off, I realized that we are living in MY apartment. -Sweet!! As such, your key fob will no longer open any of the outer doors to my building. Your parking pass has been deactivated and security will not let you past the front desk. Furthermore, your access card allowing the elevator to go my apartment has been deactivated. Also, the door locks have been changed.
3. I have ceased all automatic monthly payments to your bills. You no longer have access to any of my accounts. Perhaps the French guy will take up your student loans. He does know your poor, right?
4. Your belongings are gone. Since I am a reasonable man, I have moved them into a Self Storage unit. The unit is paid up for a month so you’ll have ample time to get them. The address and combination to the unit have been left with the security guard at the front desk. I couldn’t remember if the stuffed panda was yours or mine so I threw it in with the rest of your stuff just in case. I’m not sure how long the plants will last though.
5. Security has been alerted at my office and you will not be allowed entry. Don’t try it. Those guys have about 50 pounds on you, and they carry guns.
6. Anything you have with you right now is yours and I will not look to get any of it back. Just a suggestion though; don’t try and sell my watch. I have the certificates for it and most reputable dealers won’t buy it unless you have the proper documentation. Those that would will probably just take the watch from you, along with your wrist and most of your arm.
7. The keys to your car are at the front desk as well. Your car will be towed unless you pick it up before 5pm on Tuesday. Although I might change my mind between now and then so, the sooner the better.
8. I have blocked your number.
9. I’ve blocked your mom’s number.
10. I’m keeping the dog. Even though you picked him out, I paid for him. He likes me more anyway.
In case you missed it, I’m breaking up with you.
ARE YOU A MEAL OR A SNACK?
I have a friend that calls me MEAL: When we are hanging out he calls other gay men SNACKS: So I looked up the definition of the words to see how he was applying them to gay men.
...A meal is an instance of eating, specifically one that takes place at a specific time and includes specific, prepared food.
Meals occur primarily at homes, restaurants, and cafeterias, but may occur anywhere. Regular meals occur on a daily basis, typically several times a day. Special meals are usually held in conjunction with such occasions as birthdays, weddings, anniversaries, and holidays.
A meal is different from a snack in that meals are larger, more varied, and more filling, while snacks are more likely to be small, high-calorie affairs; however, any food eaten in small amounts at an unscheduled time can be classified as a snack.
A picnic is an outdoor meal where one brings one's food, such as a sandwich or a prepared meal (sometimes in a picnic basket). It often takes place in a natural or recreative area, such as a park, forest, beach, or grassy lawn. On long drives a picnic may take place at a road-side stop such as a rest area.
A banquet is a large, often formal, and elaborate meal with many guests and dishes...
...A meal is an instance of eating, specifically one that takes place at a specific time and includes specific, prepared food.
Meals occur primarily at homes, restaurants, and cafeterias, but may occur anywhere. Regular meals occur on a daily basis, typically several times a day. Special meals are usually held in conjunction with such occasions as birthdays, weddings, anniversaries, and holidays.
A meal is different from a snack in that meals are larger, more varied, and more filling, while snacks are more likely to be small, high-calorie affairs; however, any food eaten in small amounts at an unscheduled time can be classified as a snack.
A picnic is an outdoor meal where one brings one's food, such as a sandwich or a prepared meal (sometimes in a picnic basket). It often takes place in a natural or recreative area, such as a park, forest, beach, or grassy lawn. On long drives a picnic may take place at a road-side stop such as a rest area.
A banquet is a large, often formal, and elaborate meal with many guests and dishes...
ITAILIAN VOGUE LOVE'S BLACK WOMEN SO MUCH....
HAVE YOU EVER WONDERED....
Ciara tried so hard to channel Aaliyah when she first appeared on the scene, I sometimes had to look twice at her videos and some of the first promotional pictures for her.
I have always wondered what a conversation between the two ladies would have sounded like....
CIARA'S THOUGHTS...."I WOULDN'T HAVE A CAREER IF SHE WAS STILL ALIVE!"
AALIYAH'S THOUGHT'S IN HEAVEN..."I'M IN A MUCH BETTER PLACE!"
10 TELL TELL SIGNS HE IS CHEATING...
1.) Senseless Arguments – every couple bickers and nags occasionally, that comes with the territory. However, if your guys seems to get overly irritated at things that haven’t been a problem but suddenly he can’t stand that you don’t put the cap on the toothpaste, something’s up.
2.) Frequently Threatens to Bail – this behavior can be coupled with No.1, if your guy threatens to leave the relationship every time you argue over foolish nothings, he’s looking for an out. For example, if your guy fusses over the toothpaste and he says “you know what, maybe this isn’t working,” or “I think we need a break,” you already know what it is.
3.) Frequent Late Nights – if at one time you could expect your man to reach out or come home at a certain time, and the entire routine of your union unravels and comes to a screeching halt, this could be a sign. If your guy starts to keep late nights regularly, and is always out with one particular “boy” or “cousin,” chances are he’s seeing someone else.
4.) Random Overtime – to follow up on No. 3, overtime hours could also be a camouflage for those frequent late nights. If you always get that phone call around the time he normally comes to see you or comes home, and he tells you he’s “working late,” you may want to be concerned, especially if you can’t reach him for hours or until the following day.
5.) Spending Habits Change – one thing is true about a man: he will not be dishing out cash on more than one woman, period. If you guys used to paint the town red, with dinner and movie dates and take vacations but suddenly it stops, that’s a red flag. Of course if he’s saving for a house or taking on a personally funded project, then naturally the cash flow will be affected. But if he’s making excuses about why he can’t take you out, he may be spending his cash on someone else.
6.) Verbal Abuse – every relationship has their ups and downs, and at times hurtful things will be said. But if your man seems to be taking digs at you for no real reason and seems to find joy in hurting you, not only is he a douche bag, he’s probably a cheating one.
7.) He’s Suddenly a Gym Rat – if working out and getting ripped is a new found priority for your man but he’s never been a fan of the gym, be weary. If the two of you have put on a few good eating and sleeping pounds, but he just has to get rid of them, he may be seeing someone else. Those are fat deposits the both of you put on together, therefore, you should lose them together. If he’s hitting the gym without you, he’s probably doing some other things without you too.
8.) He Starts Asking Hypothetical Questions – “is it possible to love more than one person at a time?” is a question that is more than just hypothetical. If he’s asking these kinds of questions, he’s probably feeling some kind of way, maybe torn between his feelings for you and the other girl. Instead of answering the question, seek the reasoning behind the inquiry.
9.) Deletes Cellular Communication – if you’re the type to go through your man’s phone, and you notice that he hasn’t made or received a call or text for more than two days, he’s been deleting his history and clearly has something to hide. If he’s deleting, he’s cheating.
10.) Condoms – if you have been in a lengthy relationship with a man, more often than not, birth control pills are the contraceptive of choice. If you’re on the pill, but you start finding condoms in your guy’s pockets and wallets, you should know he’s either sleeping with another girl or trying to. And, you should start using them with him, pills don’t shield disease.
2.) Frequently Threatens to Bail – this behavior can be coupled with No.1, if your guy threatens to leave the relationship every time you argue over foolish nothings, he’s looking for an out. For example, if your guy fusses over the toothpaste and he says “you know what, maybe this isn’t working,” or “I think we need a break,” you already know what it is.
3.) Frequent Late Nights – if at one time you could expect your man to reach out or come home at a certain time, and the entire routine of your union unravels and comes to a screeching halt, this could be a sign. If your guy starts to keep late nights regularly, and is always out with one particular “boy” or “cousin,” chances are he’s seeing someone else.
4.) Random Overtime – to follow up on No. 3, overtime hours could also be a camouflage for those frequent late nights. If you always get that phone call around the time he normally comes to see you or comes home, and he tells you he’s “working late,” you may want to be concerned, especially if you can’t reach him for hours or until the following day.
5.) Spending Habits Change – one thing is true about a man: he will not be dishing out cash on more than one woman, period. If you guys used to paint the town red, with dinner and movie dates and take vacations but suddenly it stops, that’s a red flag. Of course if he’s saving for a house or taking on a personally funded project, then naturally the cash flow will be affected. But if he’s making excuses about why he can’t take you out, he may be spending his cash on someone else.
6.) Verbal Abuse – every relationship has their ups and downs, and at times hurtful things will be said. But if your man seems to be taking digs at you for no real reason and seems to find joy in hurting you, not only is he a douche bag, he’s probably a cheating one.
7.) He’s Suddenly a Gym Rat – if working out and getting ripped is a new found priority for your man but he’s never been a fan of the gym, be weary. If the two of you have put on a few good eating and sleeping pounds, but he just has to get rid of them, he may be seeing someone else. Those are fat deposits the both of you put on together, therefore, you should lose them together. If he’s hitting the gym without you, he’s probably doing some other things without you too.
8.) He Starts Asking Hypothetical Questions – “is it possible to love more than one person at a time?” is a question that is more than just hypothetical. If he’s asking these kinds of questions, he’s probably feeling some kind of way, maybe torn between his feelings for you and the other girl. Instead of answering the question, seek the reasoning behind the inquiry.
9.) Deletes Cellular Communication – if you’re the type to go through your man’s phone, and you notice that he hasn’t made or received a call or text for more than two days, he’s been deleting his history and clearly has something to hide. If he’s deleting, he’s cheating.
10.) Condoms – if you have been in a lengthy relationship with a man, more often than not, birth control pills are the contraceptive of choice. If you’re on the pill, but you start finding condoms in your guy’s pockets and wallets, you should know he’s either sleeping with another girl or trying to. And, you should start using them with him, pills don’t shield disease.
WHO SANG IT BETTER....?
Sorry Prince, this song was written for a WOMAN!
Here we are in this big old empty room, staring each other down
U want me just as much as I want u, lets stop fooling around
Take me baby... kiss me all over... play with my love
Bring out whats been in me for far too long
Baby, u know thats all Ive been dreaming of
Do me baby, like u never done before
Give it to me till I just cant take no more
Do me baby, like u never done before
I want u now, I just cant wait no more, cant wait...
Here we are looking for a reason for u to lay me down
For a love like ours is never out of season, so baby please stop teasing me
What ya do, I can never love no other, ure the best I ever had
Whenever were not close to one another, I just want u so bad
So do me baby, like u never done before
Give it to me till I just cant take no more
Cmon, do me baby, like u never done before
I want u now, I just cant wait no more
I said ooo...ooo...oooo...ooooooo
Do me baby, do me baby, give it to me
Do me baby, I want u now
Do me baby, give it to me
Do me baby, do me baby, dont wanna do it all alone
I want your love.
Do me baby, give it to me
Do me baby, this feeling is too strong, make me wait 2 long, I want u now
Youre leaving me no choice
Ok, what are u gonna do...u just gonna sit there and watch? alright...
Are u sure u dont wanna close your eyes?
...well, isnt it supposed to take a long time?
Im not gonna stop till the war is over...
Help me! there...ok...ok
Im so cold....just hold me
BEFORE THERE WAS HIP-HOP...THERE WAS HOUSE...
House is a style of electronic dance music that originated in Chicago, Illinois, USA in the late 1970s and early 1980s. It was initially popularized in mid-1980s discothèques catering to the African-American, Latino, and gay communities, first in Chicago, then in New York City and Detroit.
House is strongly influenced by elements of soul- and funk-infused varieties of disco. House generally mimics disco's percussion, especially the use of a prominent bass drum on every beat, but may feature a prominent synthesizer bassline, electronic drums, electronic effects, funk and pop samples, and reverb- or delay-enhanced vocals.
SHOUT OUT TO CHICAGO, NEW YORK, DETROIT AND DC....
IF YOU ARE FROM ANY OF THESE CITIES, STAND UP AND REPRESENT FOR HOUSE MUSIC
(YOU WILL ONLY UNDERSTAND THIS IF YOU WERE BORN BEFORE 1985)
House is strongly influenced by elements of soul- and funk-infused varieties of disco. House generally mimics disco's percussion, especially the use of a prominent bass drum on every beat, but may feature a prominent synthesizer bassline, electronic drums, electronic effects, funk and pop samples, and reverb- or delay-enhanced vocals.
SHOUT OUT TO CHICAGO, NEW YORK, DETROIT AND DC....
IF YOU ARE FROM ANY OF THESE CITIES, STAND UP AND REPRESENT FOR HOUSE MUSIC
(YOU WILL ONLY UNDERSTAND THIS IF YOU WERE BORN BEFORE 1985)
A LONG WAY FROM BAYSIDE HIGH...THEN AND NOW...
July 28, 2009
FACE TIME...
THINGS TO PAY ATTENTION TO IF YOU ARE BEING LIED TO...
1.) Study Body Language - when someone is lying or claiming falsities, there are almost always physical clues. For example, a stiff demeanor, wringing of the hands, a nervous sway, sweating and fidgeting are, in some cases, a dead give away. A lot of times people tend to overlook the subtleties.
2.) Probe for Details- sadly, someone who is lying will go out of their way to convince you that he or she is telling the truth, including enduring a semi-cross examination. If you seek details of the proposed truth, there are bound to be holes through the story. The devil is in the details so circle back and ask specific questions and, more often than not, the liar is bound to slip up.
3.) Refusal to Cooperate – if a person is lying, they will sometimes try to dodge the entire conversation by storming off to another room when questioned, accusing you of being untrustworthy and insecure. If a person is telling the truth, they have nothing to hide and no reason to avoid your questions. But the moment your inquisitions spark erratic behavior and refusal to cooperate, you’re more than likely not going to get the truth.
4.) Sketchy Eye Contact – people who lie hardly notice that they display telltale signs. Eye contact is one of the easiest ways to gauge if a person is telling the truth. Often times, a liar will have shifty eye contact, and the eyes will drift around the room. People who have mastered the craft, will have no problem looking you in the eyes and telling a bold face lie, and these are the people you want to avoid at all costs.
5.) Watch for Stress Indicators – when a person is stressed with the idea of coming clean and decides to take the lying route, psychologists say that dilated pupils and a change in vocal pitch are very common amongst liars. In this case, if someone is trying to convince you of non-truths, their voice suddenly shoots up a few octaves, and they look like a deer in headlights, he or she could be lying.
6.) Listen For Pauses – if someone is in a situation that calls for immediate damage control and resorts to lying, he or she will have to make up a story on the spot. While making up a story isn’t hard for some, they will pause for a beat or two to collect their thoughts and think of the next part of the lie. This is how one lie leads to many and remember to ask detailed questions.
7.) Listen and Ask Again- if you’re asking questions throughout a liar’s storytelling process, you, yourself, may tend to forget what you’ve asked and the answers given. But if you’re quiet and listening, the liar will feel that they’ve prevailed and are no longer on guard. But once, they’re finished with their story, ask him or her to repeat the story again from beginning to end, and there are bound to be inconsistencies. Be weary though, smart people lie better than most.
8.) Watch for Catchphrases – someone who wants to appear as though they’re telling the truth may use phrases like, “honestly” or “to be honest.” In other words, this person is making a conscious effort to be “honest,” which could mean everything that was said prior to “to be honest” could be a lie, or everything after the “honestly” could be untrue as well.
9.) Be Honest With Yourself - the truth hurts, and sometimes people say they want the truth but will gladly believe a lie, and this is why liars succeed. Some will willingly lie to someone who has a weakness for them, and know how to maneuver to produce the desired results. But does the story really make sense? Don’t ask questions you don’t want answers to, or get lied to. Pick your poison.
10.) Trust Your Gut - intuition is something a lot of people have learned to ignore or overlook with age. But be in touch with your inner-self; if something inside says, “this is not right,” or you get the distinct feeling someone is trying to get over on you, trust your instincts and take that as all the truth you need.
2.) Probe for Details- sadly, someone who is lying will go out of their way to convince you that he or she is telling the truth, including enduring a semi-cross examination. If you seek details of the proposed truth, there are bound to be holes through the story. The devil is in the details so circle back and ask specific questions and, more often than not, the liar is bound to slip up.
3.) Refusal to Cooperate – if a person is lying, they will sometimes try to dodge the entire conversation by storming off to another room when questioned, accusing you of being untrustworthy and insecure. If a person is telling the truth, they have nothing to hide and no reason to avoid your questions. But the moment your inquisitions spark erratic behavior and refusal to cooperate, you’re more than likely not going to get the truth.
4.) Sketchy Eye Contact – people who lie hardly notice that they display telltale signs. Eye contact is one of the easiest ways to gauge if a person is telling the truth. Often times, a liar will have shifty eye contact, and the eyes will drift around the room. People who have mastered the craft, will have no problem looking you in the eyes and telling a bold face lie, and these are the people you want to avoid at all costs.
5.) Watch for Stress Indicators – when a person is stressed with the idea of coming clean and decides to take the lying route, psychologists say that dilated pupils and a change in vocal pitch are very common amongst liars. In this case, if someone is trying to convince you of non-truths, their voice suddenly shoots up a few octaves, and they look like a deer in headlights, he or she could be lying.
6.) Listen For Pauses – if someone is in a situation that calls for immediate damage control and resorts to lying, he or she will have to make up a story on the spot. While making up a story isn’t hard for some, they will pause for a beat or two to collect their thoughts and think of the next part of the lie. This is how one lie leads to many and remember to ask detailed questions.
7.) Listen and Ask Again- if you’re asking questions throughout a liar’s storytelling process, you, yourself, may tend to forget what you’ve asked and the answers given. But if you’re quiet and listening, the liar will feel that they’ve prevailed and are no longer on guard. But once, they’re finished with their story, ask him or her to repeat the story again from beginning to end, and there are bound to be inconsistencies. Be weary though, smart people lie better than most.
8.) Watch for Catchphrases – someone who wants to appear as though they’re telling the truth may use phrases like, “honestly” or “to be honest.” In other words, this person is making a conscious effort to be “honest,” which could mean everything that was said prior to “to be honest” could be a lie, or everything after the “honestly” could be untrue as well.
9.) Be Honest With Yourself - the truth hurts, and sometimes people say they want the truth but will gladly believe a lie, and this is why liars succeed. Some will willingly lie to someone who has a weakness for them, and know how to maneuver to produce the desired results. But does the story really make sense? Don’t ask questions you don’t want answers to, or get lied to. Pick your poison.
10.) Trust Your Gut - intuition is something a lot of people have learned to ignore or overlook with age. But be in touch with your inner-self; if something inside says, “this is not right,” or you get the distinct feeling someone is trying to get over on you, trust your instincts and take that as all the truth you need.
July 27, 2009
BEAUTIES AND THE BALLERS...
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