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Would You Allow Your 5-Year-Old Son To Dress Up As A Princess Boy?

In an interview with KING 5 TV, the Seattle NBC affiliate, Cheryl Kilodavis explained when Dyson first began showing his preferences for girls clothing.

“Dyson was almost two years old when he started having kind of a unique eye for everything beautiful. So, anything pink or sparkly, he just had a really, really great eye for anything that was just, beautiful,” she said.

Kilodavis said it was difficult for her and that she initially thought that maybe Dyson just didn’t have enough options with regards to “dress up clothes for boys” at his daycare, so she went out and purchased male outfits.

Yet, Dyson preferred to dress up in girl clothes.

That’s when she said, “I knew then it wasn’t about gender specification for him, it was just about what he thought was really pretty.”

Rather than chastise or malign him Cheryl Kilodavis and her husband worked to show Dyson that he wasn’t loved any less because others might see him as different.

“I just want him to be happy and healthy, and if this is the form he chooses to express himself, that’s fine,” said Dean Kilodavis during the family’s T.V. interview.

Dr. Melva Green, a psychiatrist said, “In terms of gender exploration this is very natural.”

While many child development experts share the doctor’s opinion many observers who read about the Kilodavis family expressed outrage when weighing in on Facebook.

“As a mother of two boys I would never let my sons wear girls clothing not even for Halloween!” wrote Julie Saunders.

“He is five-years-old he’d wear what I tell him to wear,” added Junior Demmings.

For the Kilodavis’ the decision to shine a very public spotlight on their family wasn’t made without serious consideration.

“We spent a year discussing how this would be received. We knew there would be negative responses because we experienced them too, and honestly, I thought we were really alone in this, which was very hard. We needed more than our family unit. We needed him to be happy outside the home, as much as he was inside it,” Cheryl Kilodavis tells theGrio.

Some of those commenting even went as far as saying that they’d beat their child if he expressed a desire to wear girl outfits.

Others were more understanding and saw that the family was put in a difficult spot of wanting to support their son, while also not wanting him to be judged or ridiculed by observers.

“This one is a hard one to call, we as parent want our children to be happy, but we also don’t want to see our children hurt,” added a more sympathetic Donnie Robinson on Facebook.

“I don’t think they are encouraging this, I think that they are accepting this and supporting this,” offered Dr. Jeff Gardere, a noted psychologist.

Sheri L. Parks, an associate professor in the American Studies department at the University Maryland, College Park, says she is intrigued by the enormous interest in the story.

“At one level I’m surprised because the phenomenon of little boys dressing up in little girls clothing is not new, and certainly not particular to him,” she said.

Still she says the fact that the Kilodavis’ are African-American called attention to the issue in the African-American community, which tends to be more conservative about the way they view gender roles.

Mrs. Kilodavis says her own interaction with other African-Americans has been a mixed bag but she acknowledges, “In some parts of the African American community, gender identity issues are taboo.”

Dr. Parks goes even further when explaining the taboo.

“Religiosity permeates African-American daily life more than any other population,” Parks said. “When you look at evangelical Protestants they are the most concerned about gender role development and sexual orientation.”

She noted, “African-Americans are very emotionally involved in black masculinity. Masculinity is very highly valued, that’s why some people come down hard on this little boy whose not taking his rightful place.”

Dr. Green also points to a fear parents have that when a male child displays what society deems feminine behavior that he will end up being gay.

Still experts say to be careful that you distinguish between gender identity and sexual orientation.

As each of them has been clear to point out Dyson’s outward display of his gender identity doesn’t necessarily mean he’ll grow up to identify himself as homosexual or bisexual.

Many parents who’ve criticized the Kilodavis’ have expressed concern that Dyson will be bullied as he progresses through school if the behavior isn’t broken.

At school last Halloween, Dyson’s teacher allowed him to dress up as a princess.

His teacher Judith Hart told KING TV, “Three of the stereotypical most macho men in the school got dressed up as ballet dancers for him, to support him.”

They even did a dance and Hart reported, “Instead of laughter through the whole school there were cheers.”

“I understand that we all want life to be easy for our children. I want that too. But I don’t think bullying will stop if my son wears traditional boy clothes,” responded Mrs. Kilodavis.

Dr. Parks notes that if Dyson’s family didn’t support him and if he were unable to express who he is, if he’d become paralyzed by fear and unable to perform and live up to his fullest potential.

“Does that mean he doesn’t take the type of risk required for innovation and achievement in this society?” she wondered.

Cheryl Kilodavis penned her book My Princess Boy in an effort to have these larger conversations about acceptance.

“Sharing our experience openly has created a dialogue people in general weren’t having — and now with My Princess Boy adults and children have a starting point for a discussion that is difficult for many parents to approach,” she said.

Dr. Melva Green hopes just as the Kilodavis’ that the intense discussion by the broader community but particularly the African-American community is productive.

“We fear things that we don’t understand, and out of that ignorance is continual pain,” she said.

For other parents who might be experiencing similar situation she hopes they will see why it’s important not to give in to fear and shame, but be encouraged to address their issues.

“I don’t want to ever minimize a child or a family’s struggle with their identity in the world, but I want to be very clear that every child needs an intact and nurturing environment to help them with the normal developmental tasks of life. Anything that does not fall under the nurturing umbrella. Anything that is not of love, has more of a potential of devastating a person’s life,” noted Green.

As for the Kilodavis’ they don’t regret sharing their story.

“As Dean puts it – we can’t lose. If we support him now and he changes his mind and stops dressing up later, he can look back and say I can’t believe I did that, but I am so glad my parents and brother loved me and supported me. Or if he continues, he can say I am so glad my parents and brother loved me and supported me even when I was young. Either way, we love and support Dyson. It’s a win-win,” said Cheryl Kilodavis.

Should Cheryl Kilodavis’ efforts to support her son and his wishes be applauded, or is she paving the way for him to become one of the “Mean Girls” at Morehouse?



For full story, please check out this link....
http://bossip.com/298235/for-discussion-what-would-you-do-if-your-son-wanted-to-be-a-princess30346/

XXL Magazine Reveals its First Ever Gay Hip Hop Issue

10 Unacceptable Cycles Black People Have to Change.....

1. Sexual promiscuity-
We lead in new and existing HIV infections. HIV is killing our community, whether hetero- or homosexual. Although we need to become “more responsible” and “more educated” about such killer diseases, abstinence as a mere form of self-respect should be advocated.

2. Children out of wedlock-
The term is brash but it accounts for 70 percent of black children. Single-parent homes are not something to aspire towards. Functional two-parent homes are always better for a child. Haphazardly bringing children into the world puts them at an immediate disadvantage.3. Fear of commitment

3. Fear of commitment-
Without the ability to commit to one another in marriage, it is impossible to revitalize a community. It’s the first step in rebuilding families and setting standards for structure.

4. Lack of education-
Having an education unlocks doors and shatters glass ceilings. Graduating high school is something normal and earning at least one college degree should be expected. Education is something to be valued, and we must learn to see the benefit in opportunity costs. It is better to spend four years in college than simply working a menial job. We must set ourselves up to build careers rather than hold jobs.

5. Excessive cursing-
Cursing excessively displays an inability to articulate. In attempting to prove a point, it sounds ignorant and dimwitted. We have to use real words to effectively communicate. Reading a newspaper or magazine article everyday expands vocabularies.

6. Negligent parenting-
Instead of teaching our children the words to rap songs, we should be playing educational or at least age-appropriate sing-a-long songs, and watching Yo Gabba Gabba instead of Cheaters. When you become a parent, the focus becomes your child. Children need to be put first. The selfishness has to end and we need to cater to our children.

7. Adornment of ignorance-
There is nothing wrong with speaking so-called proper English, getting good grades or having a high-level of self-respect. It’s not “acting white.” It should be the new “acting black.” People with high expectations should be admired not ostracized.

8. Intra-racial discrimination-
We are one community made of up various colors. At no time should we place one complexion over another. Without divisiveness, we are a force.

9. Violence-
Life is something to be appreciated and honored. Far too many, blacks die as results of senseless violence. Death is not something to be taken lightly. Life is a one-time opportunity to be spent meaningfully.

10. Poor health-
We lead in heart disease, diabetes, obesity and many other food-induced diseases. Black bones are no thicker than anyone else’s. Forget the fried chicken and smothered pork chops; our diets need more fresh fruits and vegetables. We have to consume foods with life and adopt healthier lifestyles.


http://madamenoire.com/24327/10-unacceptable-cycles-black-people-have-to-change/

WHAT'S WRONG WITH THIS ALBUM COVER?

EVERYTHING AND NOTHING....

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BEST USE OF A SAMPLE....TWO CERTIFIED CLASSICS....(STILL MISING YOU PAC)

BEST USE OF INSTRUMENTALS TO A CLASSIC.....

OR

WHO RAN IT...CLASSIC OLD SCHOOL VS. NEW JACK OLD SCHOOL...

Backing Vocals, Additional Lead Vocals - Luther Vandross

PHOTOSHOPPED OR NEVER THERE???

PRO BALLER POPPIN LIKE HIS NAME SHOULD BE DIAMOND...DAMN.....

IS HIP-HOP READY FOR A GAY MALE RAPPER....

Recently, I went walking around the neighborhood with my dog and I came across a young man, approximately in his teens, dressed in skinny jeans, knee high boots, and a Louis Vuitton knock-off purse. While he stood at the bus stop, bobbing his head and mumbling the words to Rick Ross’ “B.M.F,” a somewhat random thought came across my mind: the mere fact that this gender-bending young man could even dare walk out the house – let alone in this mostly working class neighborhood – without fear or threat of violence, says a lot about the newer generation’s views on sexuality and hip-hop.

Of course, a lot of us “old heads” might not quite understand the correlation between the two, or for that matter, the young man’s womanly fashion sense in general. To be honest, I didn’t understand the latter myself. What is most obvious is that many in this newer generation of hip-hop heads are ditching the traditional social and cultural constructs governing identity and defining their femininity, masculinity and sexuality on their own terms.

Gone are the days of baggy oversized jeans and timberland boots, in comes the days of metro-sexualism and androgyny. It’s hard to say for sure what this all means for the hip-hop culture in particular, but one thing is for sure, only time will tell what outcomes this new wave of indefinable sexuality will have on society overall.

However, some archaic habits and beliefs die hard. Just last week 50 cent, “Wankster” rapper and overall egomaniac, got himself in some hot water about a tweet he sent on Twitter, in which he implicitly and allegedly endorsed gay teen suicide. To quote 50, “If you a man and you are over 25 and you don’t eat pu**y just kill your self damn it. The world will be a better place. Lol”

The tweet had created a stir on a number of blogs as well as in the gay activist communities, who felt that it was not only homophobic but in poor taste considering three tragic stories about gay teen suicides including Tyler Clementi, the Rutgers University student who committed suicide after privacy invasion by fellow classmates.

Let me be the first to say that 50 cent is a prime example of why I believe that not everyone should be eligible for Twitter accounts. I mean, doesn’t he have an album to record or tour to go on or something? He spends more hours tweeting than a teenage girl.

Nevertheless, as much as it pains me to have to defend him, I have to say that whoever thought that 50’s tweet was advocating for homosexual males to actually go out and kill himself, is really reaching – I mean really reaching.

But this is to not let 50 Cent totally off the hook. Back in 2004, he once said that he didn’t like having gay people around him because he’s “not comfortable with what their thoughts are.” Not the most politically correct thing to say, especially considering that his mother was bisexual.

As conflicting as that is, 50 Cent represents a long tradition in hip-hop culture of hyper- masculinity, which often translates into violence, misogynistic and of course, homophobia. Terms like “no homo” – an often overstated affirmation of an individual, particularly male, commitment to heterosexuality has been the most recent demonstrated of its relatively uncomfortable relationship with homosexuality.

Yet much like the world around it, hip-hop is slowly evolving.

Prompted by the coming out of a gay cousin, hip-hop Superstar Kanye West recently spoke out about anti-gay bias in hip-hop including his own music, proclaiming that hip hop was supposed to be about “breaking down barriers, but everyone in hip-hop discriminates against gay people.

Not to mention the growing number of openly gay, lesbian and bi-curious rappers, making their way not just on the underground scene but also the mainstream stages. Hip Hop artists like Nicki Minaj, the new It Girl in hip hop at the moment, is not shying away from her bi-curiosity, often incorporating gay-friendly themes into her lyricism. And while this self-proclaimed Barbie is mums on whether her gay persona is real or just played for entertainment purposes, she has still managed to captivate audiences, scoring the first number single by a female on Billboard’s top rap hits since 2003 and create a cult following among gay and straight youth alike.

But while hip-hop has welcomed her as its first openly bisexual female emcee, she believes the culture is still not ready to accept a bisexual or homosexual male rapper. In a recent interview with OUT magazine, Minaj said that there are already plenty of gay rappers in the industry, although hiding in the lyrical closet. However, she fully expects a high profile hip hop artist to come out in the future.

The hyper-masculine terrain will make for a brutal out coming party for male rappers, who dare the public spotlight. But much like the rest of society, which struggles to reach such milestones as the elimination of Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell and the ban on gay marriage, the day of the out and proud gay rap star is upon us. Hip Hop has always been about going against the social norms and there is no greater rebellion against the social hip hop norm than a gay, male rapper.

http://atlantapost.com/2010/10/06/is-hip-hop-ready-for-a-gay-rapper/

IN CASE YOU DIDN'T KNOW....HOWARD'S PAST....

The “brown paper bag test” form of colorism is also believed to have been used in the application process to the prestigious Historically Black College Howard University. The University once required students to submit a photograph of themselves, most likely to ensure that the majority of the Universities students were of lighter complexion.

SINCE WHEN DO THE SGRHO'S HAZE LIKE THE ZETA'S?

In two separate hazing cases at universities this year, members of Sigma Gamma Rho, an African-American sorority, have been charged with beating their pledges with wooden paddles.

Courtney Howard says she was the victim of violent hazing by the Sigma Gamma Rho sorority at San Jose State University. She is now a student at the University of Southern California.

At Rutgers, six members of Sigma Gamma Rho were arrested in January and charged with aggravated hazing, a felony, after a pledge reported that she had been struck 200 times over seven days before she finally went to the hospital, covered with welts and bloody bruises.

Both the university and the national sorority suspended the Rutgers chapter. The charges were reduced to simple hazing, a disorderly persons offense. The trial, originally set for this month, has been delayed because of the prosecutor’s surgery.

In the San Jose State case, Courtney Howard, a former student at the university, charged in a civil lawsuit, filed Aug. 31, that over a three-week period in 2008 she was subjected to progressively more violent hazing from Sigma Gamma Rho members. Ms. Howard claims in her suit that they beat her and other pledges with wooden paddles, slapped them with wooden spoons, shoved them against the wall, and threatened that “snitches get stitches.”

“One of the girls who was a big sister told me it was supposed to be so you can feel what your ancestors went through in slavery, so you will respect what you came from,” Ms. Howard said.

In 2008, San Jose State suspended the sorority chapter until 2016. Four of the sorority members have pleaded no contest to misdemeanor hazing charges, and been sentenced to 90 days in county jail, two years of probation and barred from any further involvement in the sorority.

Ms. Howard’s civil suit charges that the university and the sorority were negligent in investigating and responding to her accusations of hazing.

Larry Carr, a spokesman for San Jose State, said he could not comment on pending litigation. But hazing is illegal, he said, and the university makes serious efforts to educate all incoming students — and their parents — about how to deal with it.

The Sigma Gamma Rho Web site, too, clearly states the sorority’s anti-hazing policy. “Hazing is wrong, prohibited and unauthorized,” it says. “Members found guilty of hazing will be permanently and irrevocably expelled from Sigma Gamma Rho.”

The two current cases are not the sorority’s only hazing violations. The Sigma Gamma Rho chapter at San Jose State was suspended — that is, stopped from recruiting new members or using university facilities — seven years ago for hazing violations. And two years ago, because of hazing activities, the sorority’s chapter at the University of Texas at Austin was penalized. The sorority has more than 500 chapters, but is the smallest of the four black sororities.

Jonathan Charleston, general counsel to Sigma Gamma Rho, said Tuesday that the sorority had not yet been served with a copy of the complaint, and that the sorority did not comment on pending litigation.

“Any allegations of hazing are taken very seriously and immediately confronted by Sigma Gamma Rho Sorority,” said a statement from the sorority.

While some students do cross the color lines, in both directions, Greek life remains one of the most segregated aspects of higher education. Ms. Howard said that, as an only child, she had looked forward to forging close bonds with sorority sisters at San Jose State. “I’d heard rumors about paddling,” she said. “But when I went to all the black Greek welcome nights, they made it very clear that they don’t condone hazing.”

And yet, she said, the required “set nights” quickly turned violent.

“The hazing got progressively worse,” Ms. Howard said. “But I thought I could tolerate it, and I just kept going out of fear. They drill into you that if you drop, you’re weak, and snitches get stitches.”

After the fifth night, Sept. 13, the complaint said, Ms. Howard was injured enough that she went to a doctor. On the 10th night, a pledge was knocked unconscious, and the others were told to carry her into the bathroom and wake her by splashing water on her face, but not to take her to a doctor or tell anyone what happened. The paddling began on the 11th night, and continued through the final night, Sept. 29. Pledges were told that they would each be hit with the wooden paddle seven times each night, once for each founder of the sorority.

According to the complaint, both Ms. Howard’s roommates, who saw her bruises, and her mother, reported the hazing to representatives of the sorority and the university. Ms. Howard filed a formal complaint with the university and her mother met with the associate vice president of student life, who, the mother said, told her that hazing had been getting worse at the university, and asked for suggestions for fixing the problem.

That fall, sorority members began to harass her, Ms. Howard said, so she did not return to campus after winter break.

THOUGHTS ON THE SALARIES OF PASTORS....

When recently presented with this question, I initially laughed because I know that a limited being with finite thoughts could never speak on behalf of His Creator. I later learned that the question about astronomical salaries for preachers evolved from a recent New York Times article that outlined a biographical sketch of Bishop Eddie Long. In this respective article, the writer utilized information from a historical piece in The Atlanta Journal Constitution that cited tax records showing a $3 million salary for Bishop Long during the years of 1997 through 2000.

A number of current articles have criticized Bishop Long not only for the recent allegations involving at least four of his “spiritual sons” but also for his lavish lifestyle (i.e., private jet, Bentley, mansion, “bling,” bodyguards, etc.). Some of these editorials have even compared Bishop Long to hip-hop moguls and pimps and have labeled him as a false prophet and a wolf, as a result of his materialism. Rather than casting quick and unsubstantiated judgment about Bishop Long or engaging in vain Scriptural battles, I would prefer to focus on the more reasonable and value-adding question, “How should the church compensate God’s messengers?”

Should a messenger of God be paid a Herculean salary (e.g., $3 million) for imparting the Word of God and for implementing their called task to help lost souls experience the great salvation of the Lord? Resoundingly no! To be sure, I do believe that God’s messengers should receive a salary to help provide for their families and to meet their necessities- not opulent desires and wants. As always, there will be some negative critics and antagonists who believe that preachers should not receive anything and, of course, erroneously apply portions of Scripture as their support. But, a salary for a pastor is not a novel concept or idea. According to a 2010 survey performed by the Leadership Network, “The average salary for a lead pastor in a mega-church is $147,000. Salaries for lead pastors go as high as $400,000 to as low as $40,000.”

Conversely, there will also be some individuals in the evangelistic community who strongly feel that their pastor should live with materialistic abundance, because they believe in the “Jesus was not poor” theology. But, the truth is that Jesus (“Yeshua”) was neither rich nor poor accordingly to worldly concepts. Biblical scholars across the board, both reformed and charismatic, agree that Jesus was a member of the middle class in Galilean Nazareth based on a number of factors (i.e., his trade, educational level, wedding at Cana, etc.).

For a number of years, many commentators have stated that the mega-church movement and televangelism are largely responsible for the transition of Christianity that focuses on the poor, brokenhearted, sick, weary and the captives into a marketplace theology that is enamored with power, greed, immediate pleasure and immense property.

To a large degree, I do agree with this assertion. But, marketplace Christianity can not only be found in large churches but also in relatively small places of worship. To prevent paying mammoth salaries to God’s messengers, I think that churches should consider one of the following three options with transparency and honesty and decide on what works for their particular congregation.

1. Pastors’ salaries should be the average salary of the congregation. One option that churches should consider is the analysis of the average salary of the congregation. In theory, local churches should not only be filled with wealthy parishioners but also with poor and middle class believers that operate in unison and with different giftings. Applying this option should prove to be relatively fair and prudent and should assist in preventing pastors from making monolithic salaries.

2. Pastors’ salaries should be slightly less than the average salary of the congregation. Another option that churches may want to assess is paying their pastor slightly less than the average salary of the congregation. Again, there may be some churches, as a whole, that do not believe that pastors should have any salaries. A common ground to avoid this type of unnecessary strife and bickering is to ensure that the pastor makes slightly less than the average salary of the congregation.

3. Pastors’ salaries should be slightly higher than the average salary of the congregation. The third option that churches can consider is paying their pastor slightly more than the average salary of the congregation. As previously discussed, there may be some churches, as a whole, that still believe in the “Jesus was not poor theology.” For those churches who believe that their pastors should have more than basic necessities, their messenger can be paid a salary that is slightly higher than the average salary of the congregation, which should allow for a limited amount of materialism in some cases.

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