WHY I LOVE TRACK AND FIELD....FOREVER AND ALWAYS

INTRODUCING....JOE-MAGIC....GOOD MUSIC

WHAT SHE SAID....SOME THURSDAY FUNNY.....

My toilet smells horrible. Actually no, the whole fucking bathroom smells bad. And it’s all because of one person in my house. And he’s 4. My son has always been smelly. And he hasn’t been smelly in that normal “someone went poopy” smelly way that every baby is smelly. EJ literally was born, put on tiny socks, and upon first sock change, you could smell the fritos just wafting from his newborn feet. He’s always been sweaty. Summer, fall, winter or spring, EJ’s brow will sweat in the car. If he has on a coat or jacket, he’s going to smell like a small dog when you take it off. I really love my baby boy. I MEAN REALLY… We have had some seriously tough times, as he had colic at birth and so I was ALWAYS with him. Every second, with the kid…but he smells HORRIBLE. It wouldn’t be so bad if he was smelly and maybe a girl. But EJ is a boy. And such a fucking boy too. He likes dirt, and poop. His favorite word right now is diaper. He uses it as a proper noun, adjective, verb…any possible nasty usage of the word, he will use it. And he does gross things. Once he picked up a snake in our backyard…that was dead…and ran at me with it saying “SSSSSSSSSsssssssssSSSssSSSSSSSss”. The twins are obviously newly toilet trained. I mean…not new as in they just stopped wearing pull ups, but I mean new as in…most of the people reading this have been peeing in a toilet for more than a year new. Since EJ started going to the potty, he has used reckless abandon with his stream. I am not a man, but I am told when you pee, as a man, you hold your penis, point and shoot. I attempted to teach this art to the little guy. His father attempted to teach the art of man-peeing to his son as well, but EJ……….he likes to be more cavalier with his urination. He literally pulls down those batman underpants, raises his hands above his head, sticks out his tiny pelvis, and just goes. He pisses FUCKING EVERYWHERE. I mean, most of the time, it arrives in the toilet…but then…sometimes it doesn’t. So some days, when its warm out, I can sit on my bed, and smell the piss in the bathroom. And listen…I mean, I am not a horrible person. I go in the bathroom and I clean. I bought scrubbing bubbles toilet something or the other, where you attach this contraption to the damn toilet, stick a bottle of Scrubbing Bubbles toilet cleaner inside and it shoots all over the toilet after every flush. I have Clorox Cleanup Toilet Bowl Cleaner. I bought two types of toilet bowl wand. But, that only cleans the damn toilet. The issue is that he pisses EVERYWHERE ELSE. I wash my bath mats at least once a week. I have to get on my hands and knees and clean behind the toilet or scrub down the bottom of the sink or the sides of the trash can. AND NO MATTER HOW MUCH SHIT I CLEAN THE LITTLE NIGGLET GOES IN, PEES ON SOMETHING ELSE AND MANAGES TO HAVE MY BATHROOM SMELLING PISSY WITHIN THE NEXT 24 HOURS. I just…I mean, do you beat him? Of course not. War is not the answer. The answer is that positive reinforcement of behaviors shit. But what if you just own an ornery ass boy? I just want my bathroom to not smell like digested apple juice waste daily. HELP ME TOM CRUISE. FROM THE HOTTEST NEW BLOG I HAVE BEEN CHECKING OUT....http://bitchujusmad.com

WHAT SHE SAID.....STAR JONES ON THE BBW OF MIA.....

She popped off this week saying: “It may be ‘comfortable’ to be quiet when women of color slap the crap out of each other & run across tables barefoot, but #ENOUGHisENOUGH." “About to put together a group of sisters to finally ‘tell the truth’ about the image of women of color in the media.” She continued: "And the thought that the woman from #BBW who was smacked doesn't have the RIGHT to file assault charges is LUDICROUS! You NEVER give up your right not to have your ‘person’ intentionally assaulted unless you are participating in an agreed physical activity. …little black girls deserve more than what we're giving! It sickens me @lov3lylina85 when young sis think that behavior is acceptable. U can't get a REAL JOB acting like an animal." Folks are absolutely fed up with the utter foolywangery that is VH1's "Basketball Wives." It only took 4 seasons for that to happen. Yet and still, a petition has popped up to boycott cast member Evelyn Lozada's new spinoff show....and Star Jones is gathering up support of powerful women to get the show and its often embarrassing antics stopped. Deets inside... Evelyn and her assistant Nia Crooks ganging up on co-star Jennifer Williams this season seems to have been the straw that broke the slaphappy camel's back. Because folks are more up in arms than ever at the antics of the grown women on this show. From jumping on tables just to get a lick in on another female to throwing glass in the face of another to may-jah curse-your-ass-out arguments, it's a lot going on "Basketball Wives" these days. An excerpt from an online petition that is now circulating (check it out in full HERE) reads: “Evelyn Lozada is a bully. The violence on ‘Basketball Wives’ is horrible and disgraceful. This is not a hate petition against Eveyln Lozada. We simply will not support violence. It hurts to see violence amongst women on television for entertainment purposes. It is not OK for women to hit each other on TV. Just about every altercation and argument on the show has involved Evelyn in some way, shape or form. From the yelling match on the season 4 premier against her former bestie, Jen, to the table climbing and hair pulling in the last couple of episodes, the woman has a problem for reals." FROM-http://theybf.com/2012/04/25/the-boycott-of-evelyn-lozada-the-basketball-wives-is-on

FOR THE LADIES....30 THINGS EVERY WOMAN SHOULD HAVE OR KNOW BEFORE TURNING 30....

By 30, you should have ... 1. One old boyfriend you can imagine going back to and one who reminds you of how far you’ve come. 2. A decent piece of furniture not previously owned by anyone else in your family. 3. Something perfect to wear if the employer or man of your dreams wants to see you in an hour. 4. A purse, a suitcase, and an umbrella you’re not ashamed to be seen carrying. 5. A youth you’re content to move beyond. 6. A past juicy enough that you’re looking forward to retelling it in your old age. 7. The realization that you are actually going to have an old age -- and some money set aside to help fund it. 8. An email address, a voice mailbox, and a bank account -- all of which nobody has access to but you. 9. A résumé that is not even the slightest bit padded. 10. One friend who always makes you laugh and one who lets you cry. 11. A set of screwdrivers, a cordless drill, and a black lace bra. 12. Something ridiculously expensive that you bought for yourself, just because you deserve it. 13. The belief that you deserve it. 14. A skin-care regimen, an exercise routine, and a plan for dealing with those few other facets of life that don’t get better after 30. 15. A solid start on a satisfying career, a satisfying relationship, and all those other facets of life that do get better. By 30, you should know ... 1. How to fall in love without losing yourself. 2. How you feel about having kids. 3. How to quit a job, break up with a man, and confront a friend without ruining the friendship. 4. When to try harder and when to walk away. 5. How to kiss in a way that communicates perfectly what you would and wouldn’t like to happen next. 6. The names of the secretary of state, your great-grandmothers, and the best tailor in town. 7. How to live alone, even if you don’t like to. 8. Where to go -- be it your best friend’s kitchen table or a yoga mat -- when your soul needs soothing. 9. That you can’t change the length of your legs, the width of your hips, or the nature of your parents. 10. That your childhood may not have been perfect, but it’s over. 11. What you would and wouldn’t do for money or love. 12. That nobody gets away with smoking, drinking, doing drugs, or not flossing for very long. 13. Who you can trust, who you can’t, and why you shouldn’t take it personally. 14. Not to apologize for something that isn’t your fault. 15. Why they say life begins at 30 http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/04/24/turning-30-30-things-every-woman-should-have-and-should-know_n_1447368.html

WHAT SHE SAID....ABOUT THE THINK LIKE A MAN MOVIE....

A woman can certainly relate to a man without thinking like one. We should be complimentary pieces, not congruent ones. If a woman is smart, she wouldn’t have to put on her male hat to figure shit out. Only a dumb bitch needs to process shit like a dude so that she as a woman can get the message. What genius hoe thought of reading a Steve Harvey novel to figure out the male species? That “think like a man” shit is just code for “If it’s good for men to do it then it’s good for chicks to do it” and that’s a silly way of looking at the world. If you need Steve Harvey (who is a fucking adulterer, might I add) or a movie to teach you anything, you’re far lost. Steve Harvey doesn’t know your pussy struggles. This the same nigga who dyes his hair jet black, colors in his hair line and hosts Family Feud. That ain’t balling bruh. Anyone rocking Cab Calloway’s old suits and 4 failed marriages can’t provide me with guidance or hook me up with a soul. The game ain’t never that crucial. And… And I’d like to add that just having your father in the home does not mean you will automatically get a lesson on what a man wants. You can have a cable box in your house, but if it isn’t installed then you don’t have cable. It isn’t enough to just be present. Read More: Think Like a ManMiss Jia: She ain’t for everybody… http://missjia.com/2012/04/23/man-blogger-weighs-read/#ixzz1sstbQJnJ MY TWO CENTS-WOMEN DO NOT NEED TO THINK LIKE A MAN IN ORDER TO UNDERSTAND MEN BUT THEY DO NEED TO TRY HARDER TO UNDERSTAND WHY MEN DO THE THINGS WE DO AND VICE VERSA. NO WOMAN WANTS A MAN WHO THINKS LIKE A WOMAN BUT HE SHOULD HAVE COMPASSION AND UNDERSTAND CERTAIN THINGS ABOUT BEING A WOMAN. I ALSO THINK YOU LEARN THESE THINGS WHEN YOU GROW UP IN A HOUSEHOLD WHERE YOUR PARENTS HAVE DEFINED ROLES, NOT DOMINEERING OR DOMINATING. WHERE YOUR FATHER IS CLEARLY THE MAN AND HAS THOSE TRAITS AND YOUR MOTHER IS A WOMAN AND HAS THOSE TRAITS. THE MOVIE IS A GREAT COMEDY AND I WILL BE ADDING IT TO MY DVD COLLECTION.

WHAT SHE SAID....TAMARA TATTLES ON THE RHOA....WHAT BRAVO NEEDS TO DO TO UPGRADE THE SHOW

Stop forcing the cast into ridiculous misogynist stereotypes. The white trash whore with a heart of gold, the black neck-rolling buffoon, the child R&B star with a sex drive in overtime, the NFL groupie wife still digging for gold after the divorce, the brainless model, the "black southern belle," all of these a harsh caricatures. Only a Jewish gay man from New York could even conceptualize a black southern belle. Someone should have at least researched that one. The manner in which you encourage each of the housewives to use these labels against each other and yet wear their own as if it truly represents any of them is cruel. It also suggests that actual women who were not being encouraged to degrade themselves would be somehow less interesting. Your producer tweeting after the finale that is was his best work ever, speaks volumes. Twenty episodes in the same season is probably at least five too many. I get that this is a way for Bravo to pay the housewives more with subsequent seasons, but be honest. you didn't have enough interesting stuff for twenty episodes. Which left you tossing in a bunch of stuff haphazardly at the end. This season should have either ended in South Africa or had a one episode wrap-up. perhaps with a staged dinner event where the whole cast sits down together and acts civilized. Select some women with educations, interesting lives and personal integrity. Felons, strippers, prostitutes, and gold diggers are not what we want to see. I suppose you will never care or understand that until we stop watching. The blame lies with us for accepting your image of us.

WHEN YOU JUST DON'T HAVE THE WORDS....PUT THIS ONE....CLASSIC MIKI HOWARD

SEXY SUNDAY....

WHAT HE SAID....TYRESE IS CLEARLY AN IDIOT....

…but as a man, if I’m having sex with you and it’s going on an hour, and I don’t even feel like I’m about to bust, you got some horrible…! That’s all I’m saying. If it happens fast, the experience is not something you want b/c if it happens fast for a man and the woman is not able to get hers off before it happens for him, then you get disappointed. But it’s actually a compliment. It says that when he gets in there, Ahhhhh! That’s a compliment. Read More: Miss Jia: She ain’t for everybody… « Miss Jia: She ain’t for everybody… http://missjia.com/#ixzz1scIgkjv6

BAIL SET FOR ZIMMERMAN....

A judge in Seminole County, Florida today set a $150,000 bond for neighborhood watch killer George Zimmerman, according to CNN. The bond comes with condition, which include GPS monitoring and no contact with the victim’s family. Zimmerman, 28, was arrested last week and charged with 2nd degree murder in the shooting death of 17-year-old Trayvon Martin in Sanford, Florida. Wearing a dark grey suit and tie — and looking noticeably thinner — Zimmerman took the stand during his bond hearing and apologized to Trayvon’s family, saying he didn’t realize Trayvon was a teenager. But during Zimmerman’s 911 call on Feb. 26, he clearly described Trayvon as being in his late teens. Zimmerman also told the judge that he believed Trayvon was armed and he was in fear of his life. The prosecution requested a $1 million bond, saying Zimmerman was a danger to the public, due to his previous arrest for battery on a police officer. The defense had requested a $15,000 bond. Zimmerman can get out of jail today by paying as little as $15,000 (10% of his bond).

LEARN SOMETHING....HIP HOP AND THE COCAINE GENERATION...

WHAT SHE SAID....SHAUNIE "SHIT STARTER" O'NEAL....

“I’m extremely happy that Basketball Wives continues to have another successful fourth season. As the ratings have been through the roof since our season opener, fans continue to tune into the lives of Evelyn, Tami, Jennifer, Royce, Suzie and myself. As there is always controversy and indifference projected on the show, because we are all individual personalities, I always hope that people will find that as much as you may agree or disagree with the opinions, the behavior, [and] even our different taste in shoes, you are taking a look inside the lives of four complete different women. I will never say I agree with some of the behavior between my girlfriends on the show, but if we were to edit certain things out the show would be scripted and not reality. As a woman of color with kids, I am very aware of myself, but I also have to be aware that my choices cannot be the same for everyone on the show and I have to respect that. I hope the fans feel they see a balance and know we have always been real with our stories, even though it may not always be a positive portrayal of adult women but real women nonetheless. I look forward to developing other media platforms in the future and hope that fans will continue to support.” Read More: Shaunie O'neal Saves Her Own Ass with Basketball Wives StatementMiss Jia: She ain’t for everybody… http://missjia.com/2012/04/20/shaunie-oneal-protects-ass-cast-boycotting-reunion-jennifers-lawsuit/#ixzz1saqzNBQR

WHAT SHE SAID...LETTERS FROM ROYCE REED...TO DEZ AND HIS SON'S MOTHER....

Do I think Dezmon loves me? Yes! Do I think what he did was wrong? Absolutely. Are we done…forever? Honestly, I don’t know. Readers can say I’m dumb if I go back, but with relationships come mistakes. I was lied to and lesson learned…I entertained it on Twitter. I let the drama get to me despite being told to ignore it. That was my immaturity in this experience coming out. I admit that. Yes, I’m embarrassed, humiliated and broken. But I’m strong. Regardless of what happens I will be okay. Do I love him? Yes. Is that enough to stay? At this point, no. I entertained the mother of his son because I trusted what I was told and I stood by him as I should have. Was I the fool? Yep! Do some find it funny that I have egg on my face? Sadly yes, but that means they are lacking happiness and love in their own lives hence them basking in another person’s hurt. Ignorance is bliss but it’s also dangerous. As far as the logistics go…”At the end of the day” (Jen voice) he will not be with her. So the rant she went on and my responses change nothing for her life. Not only do I look like a fool in love, but she looks like a bitter, jealous and angry “Baby Momma.” That’s worse. Fact is, they were never an item. They were never a couple. But for just under a year, she has been angry that he has been with me. Her twitter name was @dezbriscoejrmom…That was her identity. If you go thru her page (she obviously wanted followers and a platform, so I’m giving it to her) you will see how angry she was that we were together. She spoke about the cruise we went on, him saying he loved me, wanted to marry me, etc. If she didn’t care, why talk about it? If you didn’t watch the show, why do you know every minute of our scenes as if you were commentating? I’m sure she wonders why she was never “the one” to marry but just “the one” to do before he met me. I can’t imagine what Dezmon is feeling right now because, again, I was with my son’s father for four years despite the drama we are going through. So I can’t imagine having a child by someone who never claimed me or never had me front and center at some point. My son puts a smile on my face everyday so no matter what happens I know as long as I’m a good mother that in itself completes me when he wipes my tears, I clean his boo boos, and I get that hug and kiss. Christina, Do you feel better about yourself? Denying a man his child through texts (why didn’t you post those?) because he is with someone else. Stating in direct message he will never see his son, or that I will never meet him, that you’re going to file for custody when you’ve had several court order that had to be given to you for you to “let” him see his child never looks good to a judge. Trust me! When you have proof on your side you have nothing to worry about. That’s why I can be worry free. You on the other hand, shouldn’t be. The position you just put yourself in, I hurt for you as a mother because you have pretty much signed away your son. I dread that court date for you. I tried to speak to you respectfully on DM and you just “didn’t get it.” I tried to HELP you. But your jealousy got the best of you. Now you’re asking for an apology? For what? For ruining a relationship you were jealous of because he didn’t want you? You still lost. I feel sorry for you. To my readers, Thank you for the outpouring of love. To the hecklers, what life have you lived to find this funny? It’s so sad that we now live in a world where love is frowned upon and marriage is no longer taken as a life long vow. We live in a world where it’s funny to see someone hurt and heartbroken. I’m a hopeless romantic and I’d rather be a fool that’s happily in love than a depressed soul that has no heart. Will Dezmon and I work things out? I don’t know. Up until 4 AM I’ve heard tears, apologies, and I’ve seen humility. Maybe this is a mistake that he needed to learn from. Maybe this is a mistake that caused him to really realize what he had. Yes, he sent them but no, it didn’t happen. I’d be dumb to base the status of my relationship based on my followers who have never seen us outside of a camera and TV show vs. what I’ve heard from HIM, his MOTHER, his AUNT, his FRIENDS, his TEAMMATES, and even MY MOTHER AND FATHER. You will see some emotional moments between my dad and I but for the first time ever, he believed this man loved me. Coming from someone married 41 plus years I believe that, and like he told me last night, forgiveness comes when proof of love is given by actions not just by words. Its up to me whether it actions are enough to walk thru the storm. There you go! Open, honest, bare and undisguised! That means REAL! I’m Outtie! COMMENT FROM BLOGGER-FOR A 30 YR OLD WOMAN, SHE NEEDS TO GROW UP AND REALIZE THAT DUDE IS 22 AND DOING WHAT 22 YR OLD YOUNG GUYS DO. DO BETTER MS. REED.

WHAT HE SAID....THANKS MR. BALLENTINE

Never base your relationship decisions off the advice of people who dont have to live with the results!!!!

WHAT SHE SAID.....BASKETBALL "WIVES" OF MIAMI.....

The “Basketball Wives” publicity machine is running on all cylinders — assisted by corny write ups on TMZ.com. This entire season of BBQ Wives centers around 2 episodes — this week’s and next week’s — in which Jennifer Williams, Evelyn Lozada, and Evelyn’s fake “assistant” Nia, go to war. Nia fired the first salvo in January by slapping Jennifer (who I’m told will be paid a bonus for fighting). The slap was conveniently filmed by VH1 in January and aired in this week’s episode. Then, yesterday, TMZ reports that Jennifer filed a civil suit against Nia — in April — for a slap which occurred in January. Coincidentally, the civil suit was filed after the episode aired. I’m sure the courts don’t take lightly to being pimped for television ratings. How much are you willing to bet this frivolous civil suit will be dropped before it can be tossed out of court? Why didn’t Jennifer file a lawsuit against VH1 whose production crew filmed Nia slapping her? Doesn’t VH1 have all the money? The answer is simple: she didn’t file a suit against VH1 because the entire scene was fabricated. Jennifer and Nia are under contract with VH1. It’s their jobs to boost ratings. Everything that they do while the show is on the air is for ratings. But it doesn’t end there. Now TMZ claims the entire cast plans to boycott the Reunion show by snubbing Jennifer for filing the civil suit. Yeah, right, lol. I guess it hasn’t occurred to anyone that Jennifer and Evelyn never “fight” anyone who isn’t under contract with VH1. As long as VH1 has gullible viewers who fall for these fake antics, they will continue to produce shows that degrade black women. From TMZ.com: Several “Basketball Wives” are adamantly refusing to tape the big upcoming reunion show next month, TMZ has learned — and it’s all because of the face-slap lawsuit Jennifer Lawrence filed against Nia Crooks. But according to sources at VH1, the castmates are convinced Jennifer’s lawsuit was filed out of spite and desperation to dredge up drama around her character — in the vain hope of securing a spot on the show next season. Our sources also think Jennifer’s claim of emotional distress is BS because she never missed a day of shooting. We’re told several prominent castmembers have vowed to shun her completely … refusing to even speak to Jennifer — and are threatening not to attend the reunion show early next month if she attends. And there’s this — the contract signed by the “Wives” castmates specifically states …. “Participant expressly assumes the risk of any physical or emotional injuries participant may suffer as a result of participant’s participation in the project.”" FROM-SANDRAROSE.COM

STAR TEENS FORESAKE COLLEGE EDUCATION TO GO PRO AND "START MAKING MONEY"....

The starting 5 members of the NCAA champion Kentucky Wildcats are ready to get at the money. The Wildcats — freshmen Anthony Davis, Michael Kidd-Gilchrist and Marquis Teague, and sophomores Terrence Jones and Doron Lamb — have declared for the NBA draft. The teammates made their announcement during a nationally televised news conference Tuesday night. “We made it work,” Jones said, according to the Associated Press. “We all wanted to be there and do it together like we’ve done everything else together.” The men were not shy about revealing their eagerness to begin enjoying the perks of a baller lifestyle — which includes gold diggers and potential baby mamas. “That’s right, I am going to be rich,” Davis said. “You’ve just got to manage your money well. Good thing is I like math. So I should be fine.” Kidd-Gilchrist appeared emotional when he said his mother, Cindy Richardson, wanted him to return to school. “I want to spoil my mom. I think I’m going to spoil my mom to death. That’s one thing I’m looking forward to,” said Kidd-Gilchrist, who plans to buy her a watch for starters. “I’m ready, I think. I’m ready for anything that comes my way now.”

KIKI'S AT IT AGAIN.....SHE NEEDS HER HAIR DID....

TUPAC PERFORMS AT COCHELLA....DOPENESS AT IT'S BEST....

WHAT SHE SAID...MISS JIA ON THE ART OF FORGIVENESS...

CHECK HER OUT ON MISSJIA.COM

WEDNESDAY INSPIRATIONAL...

This is My commandment, that you love one another as I have loved you. John 15:12 Write a brief note to someone telling that person what you appreciate about him or her. Or call on the phone and tell the person directly. We can write a note to someone in our immediate family. Sometimes it is the people closest to us who need to know that we value them. Pray for that person on a regular basis.

LIVE LESSON 57....LEARNING TO LOVE OURSELVES FOR WHO WE ARE

IT'S AMAZING HOW MANY BLACK/AFRICAN AMERICANS PEOPLE ARE CRITICAL OF THEIR HAIR, SKIN COLOR, EYE COLOR, BODY SIZE/BUILD, LIPS, AND JUST ABOUT EVERYTHING THAT SET US APART FROM OTHER RACES AND MISS THE FACT THAT WE ARE EMULATED BY OTHER RACES DOWN TO GETTING LIP INJECTIONS, TANNING OF THE SKIN, BUTT IMPLANTS, ETC. LEARNING TO LOVE YOURSELF FOR WHO GOD CREATED YOU IS PART OF GROWTH AND MATURITY. WHENEVER YOU ARE HAVING A "I HATE THIS" ABOUT MYSELF....TURN ON THE TV OR OPEN UP A MAGAZINE AND LOOK AT THE ANGELINA JOLIES AND KIM KARDASHIANS OF THE WORLD AND REALIZE THEY SHOULDN'T VALUE WHAT YOU WERE NATURALLY BORN WITH AND HATE BUT THEY ARE WILLING TO GO OUT AND SPEND TONS OF MONEY ON.

WHAT SHE SAID....MISS JIA FROM MISSJIA.COM

On last night’s episode of Basketball Wives, Evelyn Lozada’s assistant, Nia Crooks, went for Jennifer Williams’ dome. Now of course, we knew about this weeks ago as reports surfaced stating that Crooks filed a police report against Williams, claiming that she stole some house keys from her. After the finger smashing and possibly scripted melee, Jennifer took to her blog to let you suckas know that she’s too much of a f-cking lady for the bull crap! I will never forget that day at the racetrack, I didn’t go there to fight so that was the last thing I expected to encounter. All I remember was the nonsense that took place. The assistant/gofer decided to be in full action with her monkey see monkey do self as she snuck a slap from behind. You are a coward if you catch me off guard while sitting down and not to mention a bully! Now, I’m no Harvard graduate or anything but when I watch the above video, the first thing that comes to my mind is Damn, Jen! You saw this chick walk around that long ass table to come for you and you STILL didn’t get up, just in case?? What in the hell did Jen think Nia was making that trip around that big table for? To compliment her on her contacts and luxurious weave? I think that rather than blogging and trying to be a lady on a show where drama and cattiness is the common denominator in this show’s entertainment, she should try sticking up for herself just a little bit or else ‘sneak attacks’ like these will become all too familiar. If you don’t like being a part of the madness, I suggest you find another job or marry up cuz girl…… ABSOLUTELY HILARIOUS Read More: Miss Jia: She ain’t for everybody… « Miss Jia: She ain’t for everybody… http://missjia.com/#ixzz1sOxlOvSA

STEEL MAGNOLIA GETS REMAKE WITH SOME COLOR....WILL BE WATCHING

Queen Latifah gave a behind the scenes look into her LIFETIME movie remake of Steel Magnolias. The film stars Queen Latifah (she's also executive producer) as M'Lynn, Alfre Woodard as Ouiser, Phylicia Rashad as Clairee, Jill Scott as Truvy, Adepero Oduye as Annelle and Rashad’s daughter, Condola Rashad as Shelby. Lifetime has announced the cast of the all-black “Steel Magnolias” original movie, according to Deadline.com. In case your memory has faded, here are the stars of the original 1989 movie and the actresses that will star in the contemporary adaptation of the famous Southern drama. •Dolly Parton’s beauty shop queen, Truvy Jones will be played by Jill Scott. •Sally Field’s strong willed mama, ‘M’Lynn’ will be played by Queen Latifah who will also serve as executive producer of the movie. •Julia Robert’s diabetic bride, Shelby Eatenton Latcherie will be played by Condola Rashad •Shirley MacLaine’s grumpy Louisa “Ouiser” Boudreaux will be portrayed by Alfre Woodard •Olympia Dukakis’ Clairee Belcher will go to Phylicia Rashad •Darryl Hannah’s dippy Annelle Dupuy Desoto will be played by Adepero Oduye The movie will be an “updated, contemporary TV adaptation of the play and 1989 film of the same name,” according to Deadline. It is set to premiere later this year. THIS IS ONE OF MY FAVORITE MOVIES....

THOUGHTS ON BEING HIGH MAINTENANCE...

A friend of mine was talking to a guy who freely admitted that he “required a lot of attention” and was aware of this fact. He believed that he constantly needed to be stimulated. In my experience, it’s rare that a man own up to being demanding, high maintenance men. Often times, it is the women that get called needy and requiring a lot of work. Everyone has their own perception of high maintenance, be it positive or negative. I wonder, is it good or bad to be high maintenance? What if you are the one dating someone who requires a lot of attention, affection, stimulation, etc. Are there limits to this? How much are we willing to cater to this type of high maintenance person? If you believe the person is worth all that effort, do you make it work? What if they don’t reciprocate?

BRIDGES....

Sometimes you have to know which bridges to cross..which bridges to build..and which bridges to let burn!

WORDS OF WISDOM FROM WHAT'S HER NAME....THANKS CW...

Why don't people understand that advice from friends and associates needs to be weighted based upon the advice givers situation??? If you can't hold a relationship, why are you trying to offer me relationship advice? Furthermore, if your kids are bad as hell, parenting tips are out of the question. Finally, if you are asking me to borrow money every other week, I will not be listening to money advice. People out here losing their relationships taking advice from people who can't even hold a piece of one! Do something with your life.

THE CROMANTIE CLAN....28 YRS OLD WITH 10 KIDS AND 2 ON THE WAY....

THAT HOT NEW SHIT...CO-SIGN...SWV

SECRET SERVICE AGENTS GETTING IT IN WHILE IN COLUMBIA.....WITH LOCAL PROSTITUTES...

As the Secret Service sex scandal continues to dominate the headlines, a top Pentagon official said, “We let the boss down.” Joint Chiefs of Staff Gen. Martin Dempsey, spoke with CBS news about the growing Secret Service sex scandal. 11 Secret Service agents and at least 10 members of an elite counter-assault team were relieved of their duties in Colombia on Friday. The agents and service men are accused of partying with hookers in their 5 Star hotel rooms in Cartagena, Colombia, the day before the president was set to attend a Latin America Summit. “We let the boss down,” Gen. Dempsey said, “because nobody’s talking about what went on in Colombia other than this incident.” More details have emerged about the hours leading up to Friday morning. The Secret Service agents, who arrived in Cartagena on Wednesday, were overheard bragging to hookers at a brothel. The agents, who were part of Obama’s advance security team, were partying at the Pley Club brothel in Cartagena and bragging to prostitutes “we work for Obama” and “we’re here to protect him,” witnesses told ABC News. According to reports, 11 prostitutes were brought back to the posh Caribe hotel where the agents were staying. One of the prostitutes got into a loud argument over payment for her services. She demanded an additional $170, but the agent refused to pay. Hotel management observed the argument and reported the incident to police. The state department was then notified. CBS News has been told that Secret Service Director Mark Sullivan was outraged and ordered the team out of Colombia before the president arrived. According to the NY Post, “several of the president’s men ordered services of the “highest category” prostitutes available at Pley, who charge upwards of $200.” At least 2 of the agents were supervisors and most of them were married. All of the agents were sent home on Friday. President Obama ordered their Top Secret clearance yanked on Saturday, which means they can not enter certain government facilities. The agents — led by their supervisors — demonstrated a stunning lack of respect for the office of the president of the United States by bringing hookers back to their hotel rooms which were paid for by American taxpayers. Some in the media voiced concerns that the married agents could have been blackmailed by the hookers. But retired Secret Service agent Dan Emmett, a 21-year veteran who served under four presidents, called the suggestions of blackmail an “incredible reach.” “The Secret Service is not an intelligence organization, it’s law enforcement,” he said, noting that the president was staying in a different part of the hotel surrounded by impenetrable layers of security. Cartagena, where prostitution is legal, is still buzzing about the sex scandal. “Cartagena didn’t benefit one cent from President Obama’s visit,” said one man from Cartagena. “All people remember are that the Secret Service agents slept with our prostitutes.” http://sandrarose.com/2012/04/secret-service-agents-bragged-to-prostitutes-we-work-for-obama/#more-58848 fROM sANDRAROSE.COM

FINDING LOVE....

Love cannot be found where it doesn't exist, nor can it be hidden where it truly is.

5 THINGS ABOUT MEN ILL TEACH MY SON....

Every man needs a male best friend. Every Avon needs a Stringer. The downfall of many men has been the lack of a true best friend who is also male. Think about Tiger Woods. Now, be clear, I’m not saying I condone all of the extra-marital foolishness Tiger found himself in. But when it all surfaced, when the text messages and voice-mails started coming from everywhere, the first thing I wondered was where was his best friend. A best friend would have shielded Tiger from a great deal of what he ended up experiencing. He would have made sure Tiger wasn’t giving those women the same phone number he uses to call his mom, he would have made sure Tiger wasn’t falling in love with these other women. More than all of that, a best friend would have told Tiger “Bro, you’re about to lose $600 million raw-dogging these porn stars … it’s time to chill.” That’s what a best friend does, he encourages a healthy amount fun, which sometimes includes foolishness, but he also pulls the reigns when it goes too far. He knows the password to your laptop so that he can clear your browser cache and delete your g-chat history if anything ever happens to you, he knows where all of the bodies are hidden, and should you find yourself someplace you’re not supposed to be, he’s always there to provide an alibi without question or judgment. Trust not who a man says he is, but instead, who you know him to be. When dealing with other men, be it in business or in friendship, trust is extremely important. Putting your trust in the wrong person can have disastrous implications. Instead of giving your trust freely, focus your energy on getting to know people thoroughly. It’s much easier to do business with a man you know you can’t trust than it is to do business with a man you don’t know at all. Liars will lie and if you can trust that man will lie, you should be able to predict their actions and manage the relationship. If you can’t get a good grasp of who a guy is, if he’s elusive and good at hiding his true nature–avoid him–especially in business. Never trust a man whose first response is always emotional. No man is stone. Few of us are capable of remaining completely detached from our feelings. It’s not a healthy way to live. That said, there are men you will come across who are completely incapable of controlling their emotional responses to situations they find themselves in. The unpredictability of human emotions makes it impossible to trust these dudes. There comes times in the lives of every man where you have to be able to put emotion aside and make decisions based on logic–in those moments overly emotional men are absolutely useless. Think about Sonny from the Godfather. He could have been a great Don. He had all the requisite character traits for leading the family. He just couldn’t control his temper and it was his temper that got him killed. Avoid men who spend too much time chasing, and place too much value on acquiring p****. There will come a time in your life when scheming on the lady parts of women is pretty high on your list of things to do. It happens. But no matter what, it should never be your top priority and as you get older you’ll come to realize that chasing only begets more chasing. When you’re young you’ll feel like p**** is a commodity and you’ll respect the man capable of acquiring that commodity in abundance. But as you get older you’ll come to realize that finding a woman who will spread her legs for you is easy; finding someone you can trust to be your partner for the rest of your life is much harder. If you focus your interaction with women on the latter, you’ll fall into more than enough of the former along the way to quench any thirst you might have. You will know this and understand this, but the same cannot be said for all the men you’ll come to know. Some men will dedicate their lives to chasing women. It’ll be a constant distraction to their progress and overall life success, they’ll equate everything to how many women they’ve been with, and they’ll judge the masculinity of others by their ability to get women. If you surround yourself with these types of men you’ll find their addiction is contagious. You’ll also find that they generally have poor reputations amongst those who know them; if you spend too much time with them, their reputation will eventually become your reputation. Surround yourself with men who inspire you, not men who are inspired by you. If you are the smartest, most successful, most influential man in your network, you need a new network. This doesn’t mean you change your set of friends as you mature in life or advance yourself professionally, but it does mean you need to continue to put yourself in circles of people who push you to grow and be better. If you’re constantly the source of inspiration for those around you, you’ll come to a point where you realize you’re no longer growing. http://www.singleblackmale.org/2012/04/11/five-things-about-men-ill-teach-my-son/

INSPIRATION..."WORDS THAT HELP"

Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen. –Ephesians 4:29 We’ve all met people who seem to enjoy correcting others and telling them what is wrong with them. Sometimes it’s done with an attitude of false humility. This is the opposite of what the Bible says. Instead of pride, our motive should be to love. Instead of criticism, our goal should be to encourage and uplift. Instead of impressing others with ourselves, we want them to be impressed with Christ. Let’s avoid hurtful and useless words, and ask God to help us encourage and help someone for Christ’s sake today.

WHY RELATIONSHIPS DON'T WORK.....

"Relationships don't work because, conversation became texting, arguments became phone calls, feelings became sub tweets, sex became easy, love gets used out of context, insecurities have become your mind, trust has been lost, cheating has become an accident, leaving has become harder and being hurt has become natural." THANKS CRYSTAL

CHARGES AGAINST ZIMMERMAN EXPECTED TODAY....

Attorney General Eric Holder addressed the growing concerns of many Americans who seek justice for 17-year-old Trayvon Martin, who was shot to death 7 weeks ago by neighborhood watch volunteer George Zimmerman. Holder spoke this morning in Washington DC at the annual convention of the National Action Network, a civil rights group founded by the Rev. Al Sharpton. Saying he couldn’t give specific details into the Justice Department’s investigation, Holder assured Trayvon’s supporters that justice will be served. “I know that many of you are greatly — and rightly — concerned about the recent shooting death of 17-year-old Trayvon Martin, a young man whose future has been lost to the ages,” he said. “Although I cannot share where current efforts will lead us from here, I can assure you that, in this investigation — we will examine the facts and the law. If we find evidence of a potential federal criminal civil rights crime, we will take appropriate action. And, at every step, the facts and the law will guide us forward.” Holder is surely aware of the widespread criticism of Angela Corey, the Jacksonville state attorney who was appointed prosecuting attorney of the case in March. Since then, the investigation into Trayvon’s death has ground to a halt. Update: According to ABC News’ Stephanie Washington, “Law enforcement official told Washington Post Angela Corey will announce as early as Wednesday charges against George Zimmerman.” Zimmerman’s attorneys, who dropped him as a client Tuesday, revealed during a press conference that Corey has never attempted to interview Zimmerman. Instead, Zimmerman has reached out to Corey by phone to give his side of the story. The embarrassed state prosecutor’s office quickly sent out a statement last night alerting the media that Corey would make an announcement about the case on Friday at the latest. There were no specifics given about what Corey is expected to say in the press conference. Holder was confirmed as the 82nd Attorney General of the United States under President Barack Obama in 2009. He is the first black man to hold the position. Read more of Holder’s prepared statement below. From the Wall Street Journal: Even though overall national crime rates are at historic lows, today the leading cause of death for young black men — those aged 15 to 24 — is homicide. And that, on average, 16 young people are murdered every day. How can our nation risk losing so many of tomorrow’s leaders, teachers, artists, scientists, attorneys — and pastors? The answer, of course, is that we can’t. I know that many of you are greatly — and rightly — concerned about the recent shooting death of 17-year-old Trayvon Martin, a young man whose future has been lost to the ages. As most of you know, three weeks ago, the Department of Justice launched an investigation into this incident, which remains open at this time — and prevents me from talking in detail about this matter. However, I can tell you that, in recent weeks, Justice Department officials — including Assistant Attorney General for the Civil Rights Division Tom Perez, and United States Attorney for the Middle District of Florida Robert O’Neill — have traveled to Sanford, Florida, to meet with the Martin family, the community, and local authorities. The FBI is assisting local law enforcement officials. And representatives from the Community Relations Service — the Justice Department’s “peacemakers” — are continuing to meet with civil rights leaders, law enforcement officers, and area residents to address — and to help alleviate — community tensions. We’re also communicating closely with local, state, and federal representatives and officials. In all of these discussions, we’re listening carefully to concerns — and emphasizing that the Department will conduct a thorough and independent review of the evidence. Although I cannot share where current efforts will lead us from here, I can assure you that, in this investigation — and in all cases — we will examine the facts and the law. If we find evidence of a potential federal criminal civil rights crime, we will take appropriate action. And, at every step, the facts and the law will guide us forward. sandrarose.com

CRAZIEST, CATTIEST, SILLIEST SONG....STILL GOOD SHIT THOUGH...HE'S MINE

(Verse 1) He might be doing you,but he's thinking about me So when you think another brother,then go find another lover. I know he's my man it's all in my hands,it feels good when he call my name don't you wish you had the same? Girl in disgust working your stuff. Until he thinks about mine now he's feeling real high,you ask why cause he mine. (Bridge) I'm telling you something that just ain't cool,never fall in love with a man who don't love you. I wouldn't waste my time telling you something wrong,you've been with him one night and now he's coming home. Chorus He's mine you may have had him once but I got him all the time(don't try to dry your eyes)He's mines you may have had him once but I got him all the time.( I got him all the time) (Verse 2) Went out on a date,wasn't out to late,took you to a room and you gave it up to soon.Played you like a trick cause you let him hit,now he's coming home to a loving that is strong. I got all his love baby don't try to take it,you wanted a piece you were mistaken.Cause he belongs to me baby can't you see. (Repeat Bridge 1 X) (Chorus) He's mine you may have had him once but I got him all the time (you can't sleep at night).(Repeat end of chorus) (Bridge) We don't have time playing these games,you had him once but it's me on his mind,no need to cry go dry your eyes get over it it was only for one night.

WHITE WOMAN GIVES HER OPINION ON WHY BLACK MEN LOVE THEM.....MUST WATCH

SOMETHING IS OFF WITH BOTH OF THESE TWO CLOWNS...

BEST NEWS I HAVE HEARD ALL DAY....

GOP presidential candidate Rick Santorum announced he is suspending his presidential campaign today. Prior to his sudden announcement, polls had indicated that Santorum was in the best position to defeat President Obama than former Massachusetts Gov. Mitt Romney.

GRANDMA ALWAYS SAID....

A wet pussy and an empty purse are like oil and water...they don't mix well together.

NEWSWORTHY.....

THE ANSWER TO HER QUESTION.....

Meanwhile, it looks like the answer to Sheree's question, "Who gon' check me boo?" is ...Bravo.

FROM: TAMERA TATTLES

WHAT TAMERA TATTLES SAYS ABOUT SHEREE...DING DONG THE WITCH IS GONE!!!!

Apparently, [Sheree] went into negotiations with an ego oblivious to the obvious fact her days were numbered. Instead of begging to be kept she acted like a diva and began making demands. Kim, Sheree and Nene were the only original housewives left. In general these three should have been able to negotiate from a place of strength. However Sheree had no strength because over the course of the show she lost her house, spent all her money, and had no social ties. If they were recruiting today (which they are/were) Sheree would not even be considered. So she blew it and she’s out. Sorry Sheree fans. You can look forward to her losing her mind on the reunion though…

WHAT SHE SAID.....KARRINE "SUPERHEAD" STEFFANS GOES IN....

Sometimes, in relationships, the pleasure is all theirs. Alone, I am a superhero. With you, I am a mere mortal. You deplete me. I’m tired of being your upgrade. We are not equally yoked. You really deserve someone more basic. I’m tired of pretending your mediocracy is okay with me. I’m tired of pretending I don’t miss G650?s. I’m tied of pretending you’re not a burden.I’m tired of pretending I don’t deserve a f-cking BOSS! I’m tired of you driving my car. Stop telling me you love me as if you’re doing me some sort of favor. I don’t need you to love me. I love me. I’m tired of pretending like you shouldn’t be intimidated by the other men in my life. Cuz you should. I’m tired of pretending as if I support your bullshit dreams. I’m tired of pretending your d-ck isn’t the smallest d-ck I’ve ever seen in my life. Cuz it is. I’m tired of pretending your favorite rapper didn’t just beat it up on Friday. I’m tired of paying for everything.

I’m tired of you taking all this sh-t for granted as if you ever deserved any of it. Give me my Mac back. For real tho. I’m tired of washing your wack ass clothes. I hate your whole face. I’m tired of acting like the sex is good.I hate when you roll all the way over onto my side of the bed to hold me. I’m over here for a reason. Did I mention I’m tired of paying for everything? Okay.I’m tired of giving you the game.I’m tired of pretending you’re anything more than a bum. I should’ve just hired you as a cook and kept it moving. I’m tired of congratulating you for accomplishing minuscule sh-t. I’m tired of you begging

I’m tired of moaning when I can’t feel anything!I’m tired of having to think about someone else to get off. I’m tired of having to lock my phone when you’re around.I’m tired of taking showers with you. Can I get a moment! Damn! Yes. He’s better than you. Next question. All night. ‘Til 6 in the morning. Next question.Yes. And I didn’t have to pay for none of it. Next question. Presidential suite. Next question. About 10 inches. Next question.69. Next question. Like a boss. Next question. Balls deep. Next question. I’m tired of having to pretend you’re not the 3rd worst decision I’ve ever made.

You should really be with that one chick who bagged our groceries this weekend. That’s more your speed.

THREE HUMOROUS THROUGHTS ON THREESOMES.....

For many of us (men), a threesome is a dream we’d like to turn into reality. We go through life thinking about the juggling of the skins and what it would be like to slang thang to two (beautiful) women during the same session. We see it as the trophy that’ll define our legacy for generations to come…even though we probably won’t tell our kids about it. But our friends will know. They.Will.Know. Because as much as we say we don’t kiss and tell, ain’t no way we keeping that sh*t to ourselves. It’s just too magical!

But for as much as I’ve thought about it over the years, I’ve had my fair share of reservations. And today, I want to share my three on threesomes.

Crickets

Sometimes accidents happen. You get in the mix, Lord Pumpington doesn’t cooperate, and you’ve got a serious case of the noodles. Or even worse, you get to going and before you’re 20 meters down the track, splat. Now you’re clutching your hamstring, asking for a moment alone, chugging gatorade, and telling the official to restart the race. When it’s one-on-one, that’s okay…unless it’s the first encounter and you talked a good game building up to it. Besides, good things come to those who wait a few minutes. But when your reproductive system has a bottleneck and you’ve got two customers waiting for production, it starts to feel more like the DMV. Ain’t nobody happy there. Nobody.

Not Having a Purpose in Life

With this being a dream so many men chase, what if I make the magic happen and then life feels complete? Will my motivation to accomplish all other things wane? Will I immediately return to the earth from which I came? Will bedroom burpees (see vid below) never be the same? Every dream has a price

Getting Left Out

This doesn’t have to be a bad thing, but what if the two women cut me out of the deal and I’m just standing there chewing bubblegum? What if one of the women is the significant other and she realizes a new found love for pie? Where does that leave me other than in the corner of the room scratching my chest? Not very likely, but worth a thought. One of my ex’s is a lesbian today. Wasn’t my fault though. There were two boyfriends after me.



http://www.singleblackmale.org/2012/04/05/three-thoughts-about-threesomes/

SUCCESSFUL....

When you want to succeed as bad as you want to breathe! Than you will be successful.

WHEN THEY HATE YOU....

HOW YOU'LL KNOW....

"WHEN THEY MAKE EVERY ASPECT OF YOUR LIFE BETTER, YOU'LL KNOW IT'S LOVE." NIECY NASH

CHASING....

SO GOOD HAD TO REPOST....BABY BE MINE....

Mmm...mmm...hmm...

I’ve been tryin’ to tell myself I don’t need you
Trying to hold back the feelings I feel for you
Knowing in the end there’s no future for you and I
I can’t tell no lie

(Baby, be mine) You never really got to know me
(Baby, be mine) I should have said it at the time
(Words left unspoken)
They only gave you a token of my love, ooh

Take a second chance, see what you’re missing
I’m just somebody you don’t know as well as you think you do
So understand me this time
Baby, be mine

(Baby, be mine) You never really got to know me
(Baby, be mine) I should have said it at the time
(Words left unspoken)
They only gave you a token of my-my love

Ooh...ooh...hoo...
Ooh...
Ooh...hoo...
Hey...hey...hey...hey...

(Baby be mine) Yeah, yeah...oh...yeah, come on, come on
(Baby, be mine) Maybe I should have said at the time
(Words left unspoken)
They only game you a token of my love, my love

(Baby, be mine)
(Baby, be mine) Oh, baby, baby, baby, baby
(Words left unspoken)
They only game you a token of my-my-my-my-my love, hey...hey...yeah...

Come on, you sweet thing
You know I-I need love everyday

No way
(Baby, won’t you be mine) Oh, come on , boy
Give me just a little bit, just a little bit, just a little bit lovin’, baby
(Baby, won’t you be mine) Won’t you be mine, won’t you be mine, oh, yeah, yeah

Oh...baby, baby, baby, baby, be mine

(Words left unspoken)
(They only game you a token of my love)
You haven’t even begun to know me, boy, oh...ho...ho...yeah

(Baby, be mine) Come on and be my love
Say that you will, say that you will, say that you will
(Words left unspoken)
(They only gave you a token of my love)
My-my-my-my-my-my-my-my-my-my-my-my-my-my-my-my-my-my-my love

(Baby, be mine) Come on, baby
Say that you love me too, say that you’ll be my forever love
Always together love
(Words left unspoken) I promise you

6 WAYS SUCCESSFUL PEOPLE STAND OUT....

Bosses spend the vast majority of their time helping other people succeed: employees, customers, vendors and suppliers... the list goes on and on.

Helping other people succeed is your job, but it's also your job to focus on yourself, at least part of the time.

Why? Your success creates success for others--and success requires, at least in part, standing out from the crowd and being known for something.

Of course there are different ways you can stand out. For example, you can be like this guy.

Okay, maybe not.

There are better ways:

Be first, with a purpose.
Lots of business owners are the first to arrive each day. That's great, but what do you do with that time? Organize your thoughts? Get a jump on your email?

Instead of taking care of your stuff, do something visibly worthwhile for the company. Take care of unresolved problems from the day before. Set things up so it's easier for employees to hit the ground running when they arrive. Chip away at an ongoing project others are ignoring. Whatever you choose, do it consistently.

Don't just be the one who turns on the lights--be the one who gets in early and gets things done. The example you set will quickly spread.

Be known for something specific.
Meeting standards, however lofty those standards may be, won't help you stand out.

Go above the norm. Be the entrepreneur known for turning around struggling employees. Be the business owner who makes a few deliveries a week to personally check in with customers. Be the boss who consistently promotes from within. Be known as the person who responds quicker, or acts faster, or who always follows up first.

Pick a worthwhile mission and excel at that mission.

Create your own side project.
Excelling at an assigned project is expected. Excelling at a side project helps you stand out. The key is to take a risk with a project and make sure your company or customers don't share that risk.

For example, years ago I decided to create a Web-based employee handbook my then-employer could put on the company Intranet. I worked on the project at home and a few managers liked it but our HR manager hated it... so it died an inglorious death. Bummer. I was disappointed but the company wasn't "out" anything, and soon after I was selected for a high-visibility company-wide process improvement team because now I was "that guy."

The same works for a business owner. Experiment with a new process or service with a particular customer in mind. The customer will appreciate how you tried, without being asked, to better meet their needs, and you'll become "that guy."

Put your muscle where your mouth is.
Lots of people take verbal stands. Fewer take a stand and put effort behind their opinions.

Say you think a project has gone off the rails; instead of simply showing everyone how smart you are by pointing out its flaws and revamping the timeline, jump in and help fix it.

It's easy to criticize what's wrong or to talk about what should be changed or could be improved. The people who stand out are the ones who help do something about it.

Show a little of your personal side.
Personal interests help other people to identify and remember you. That's a huge advantage for a new business or a company competing in a crowded market.

Just make sure your personal interests don't overshadow professional accomplishments. Being "the guy who ran a marathon" is fine, but being "the guy who is always training and traveling to marathons so we can never reach him when we need him" is not.

Let people know a little about you; a few personal details add color and depth to your professional image.

Work harder than everyone else.
Nothing--nothing--is a substitute for hard work. Look around: How many of your competitors are working as hard as they can?

Not many.

The best way to stand out is to try to out-work everyone else.

It's also the easiest, because you'll be the only one trying.



http://www.inc.com/jeff-haden/6-ways-successful-people-stand-out_Printer_Friendly.html

SPARKLE REMAKE....THE NEW DREAMGIRLS....STARRING "THE VOICE"....

MOTHER SAYS....

"What comes easy, goes easy."

TYLER PERRY B.K.A. MADEA'S FIRST HAND EXPERIENCE WITH BEING A BLACK MAN IN AMERICA.....RACIALLY PROFILED....

By Tyler Perry
A few days before President Obama was supposed to speak at my studio, I was leaving the studio, headed to the airport. Most times when I leave the studio I have an unmarked escort. Other times I constantly check in my rearview mirror to be sure that I'm not being followed. It’s a safety precaution that my security team taught me. As I got to an intersection, I made a left turn from the right lane and was pulled over by two police officers. I pulled the car over and put it in park. Then, I let the window down and sat in the car waiting for the officer. The officer came up to the driver’s door and said that I made an illegal turn. I said, "I signaled to get into the turning lane, then made the turn because I have to be sure I’m not being followed." He said, “why do you think someone would be following you?”

Before I could answer him, I heard a hard banging coming from the passenger window. I had never been in this position before so I asked the officer who was at my window what was going on and why is someone banging on the window like that. He said, “let your window down, let your window down. Your windows are tinted.” As I let down the passenger window, there was another officer standing on the passenger side of the car. He said, “what is wrong with you?” The other officer said to him, “he thinks he’s being followed.” Then, the second officer said, “why do you think someone is following you? What is wrong with you?”

Before I could answer the officer on the passenger side, the one on the driver's side had reached into the car and started pulling on the switch that turns the car on and off, saying, “put your foot on the brake, put your foot on the brake!” I was so confused as to what he was doing, or what he thought he was doing. It looked like he was trying to pull the switch out of the dashboard. I finally realized that he thought that switch was the key, so I told him that it wasn’t the key he was grabbing. I reached down into the cup holder to get the key, not realizing that the key had a black leather strap on it. As I grabbed it they both tensed up and I dropped it as I heard my mother’s voice from when I was a little boy.

My mother would always say to me, “if you get stopped by the police, especially if they are white policemen, you say ‘yes sir’ and ‘no sir’, and if they want to take you in, you go with them. Don’t resist, you hear me? Don’t make any quick moves, don’t run, you just go.” My mother was born in 1945 into a segregated hotbed town in rural Louisiana. She had known of many colored men at the time who were lynched and never heard from again. Since I was her only son for ten years, growing up she was so worried about me. It wasn’t until after I heard her voice that I realized that both of these officers were white.

The officer on the driver's side continued to badger me, “why do you think someone is following you?” I then said, “I think you guys need to just write the ticket and do whatever you need to do.” It was so hostile. I was so confused. It was happening so fast that I could easily see how this situation could get out of hand very quickly. I didn’t feel safe at all. But one officer stopped his questioning and said, “we may not let you go. You think you’re being followed, what’s wrong with you?” At this point, I told him that I wanted to get out of the car. I wanted the passersby to see what was happening.

As I stepped out of the car another officer pulled up in front of my car. This officer was a black guy. He took one look at me and had that “Oh No” look on his face. He immediately took both officers to the back of my car and spoke to them in a hushed tone. After that, one of the officers stayed near his car while one came back, very apologetic.

I said all of that to say this: do you see how quickly this could have turned for the worse?

Now I know that there are many great officers, patrolmen and security guys out there. I am aware of that. But although we have made significant strides with racial profiling in this country, the world needs to know that we are still being racially profiled, and until this situation has improved greatly, I’m not sure how a murder in Florida can be protected by a “stand your ground law.”

And in another case that I have been screaming at the top of my lungs about, also in Florida, is the case of Terrance Williams and Felipe Santos, a young black man and a young Mexican man. Eight years ago, in Naples, FL, they were both put in the back of Deputy Steve Calkins' police car and never heard from again.

They were never arrested, never brought to jail. They were put into the back of Deputy Calkins' car and never heard from again. And to this day Deputy Steve Calkins is a free man.

I guess it's time to march in Naples now.

RACIAL PROFILING SHOULD BE A HATE CRIME INVESTIGATED BY THE FBI!!!

That way local government can’t make the decision on whether or not these people get punished.

-Tyler

MAKE UP TIPS FROM KIKI....ENJOY YOUR MONDAY....

OPRAH'S THOUGHTS ON TRAYVON MARTIN MURDER.....

"Now that Oprah Winfrey no longer has a day time talk show to speak out about injustices in America, she sat down with Extra and spoke about Trayvon Martin’s murder."

"Trayvon was shot to death by a neighborhood watch volunteer named George Zimmermann on February 26, 2012. The death of this teen, and the local police department’s failure to arrest Mr. Zimmermann has sparked an outrage across the country."

Winfrey’s thoughts about the murder

"It is a tragedy and it is a shame that we're sitting here 33 days later and there hasn't been an arrest, or questioning of what actually happened. It's a tragedy and it is a shame and we all know it."

Winfrey speaks about how we can unite around this tragedy

"I saw some people on Twitter saying nothing has changed, the same thing's going on." "Lots has changed and you know why? Because black people, white people, brown people, yellow people all over this country and all over the world are saying the same thing... it's a tragedy and it's a shame and justice needs to be served."

"Oprah says tells Extra that Zimmermann is on the top of her interview list."

SAMPLING AT IT'S BEST....HANDS ON THE WHEEL....

LIVE AND LEARN....

You`ve got to live and learn
You`ve got to live and learn
Before your bridges burn
You`ve got to live and learn
You`ve got to live and learn
You`ve got to live and learn
Before your bridges burn
You`ve got to live and learn