IMITATION IS THE BEST FLATTERY.....

BENEFITS OF BEING A HATER....LOOKS WHO'S BACK....

ON TEXTING.....

GROWN FOLKS MUSIC....FIND A WAY...KENNY LATTIMORE....

10 REASONS BLACK WOMEN PREFER WHITE MEN....GOOD SHIT

10. White men take care of their women. Not just emotionally, but financially, too. A lot of Black men come from broken homes and were raised by single mothers. They never saw a man helping their mother out financially, so they don’t see why they should help their woman out financially. To them, seeing a woman struggle is normal. They have that “my mother worked fifteen jobs to make ends meet, why can’t you?” mentality. White men on the other hand are more generous. Nine times out of ten, their woman doesn’t even have to ask for help, they just do it because that’s what real men do.

9. White men have family values. It’s not often that you’ll see White men with eleventeen “baby mamas” all over the place, unlike “other races”… oh, fuck it, unlike BLACK MEN. White men usually come from two parent homes. They grew up seeing their parents in loving marriages and with siblings that all have the same mother and father, and that’s what they one day hope to have.

8. White men know how to manage money. White men aren’t flashy. If you’re looking for a man with fantastic money management skills, get you a White man. White men believe in creating a nest egg or a cushion to fall back on. A White man will save, invest and grow his money. Most Black men don’t even have a savings account… but they got them J’s, though.

7. White men prefer that their woman stays home and will do anything to create a comfortable life for her. A White man will work hard to provide for his lady and his family so that they never want or need for anything. Black men aren’t having that. Again, you’re dealing with men who grew up seeing their mothers busting her ass to make ends meet. They never saw their mother as the “homemaker” or housewife… even if ever became a Wife, she probably didn’t have the luxury of not working and just taking care of home. With a White man, you have options. They love women that are ambitious and want to make her own money, so if she wants to work, she can… if not, that’s cool too. A White man can usually provide for himself and his woman, so her not wanting to work is never a problem. Also, White men are generous. They love to spoil their woman with anything her heart desires, unlike Black men who are usually asking their woman for money to get the latest sneakers.

6. White men know that there are ways to make a lot of money legally. You won’t catch a White man hugging the block or in the “trap”, unlike Black men who only aspire to become a rapper, ball player or drug dealer because those are the only occupations the men they admire have. White men go and get an education for themselves and eventually go on to pursue six figure careers. CAREERS. Not jobs, not hustles, CAREERS.

5. White men are very easy going and laid back. You won’t have to worry about getting smacked down to the ground because you two have a disagreement. You won’t be called out of your name or belittled for having a backbone.

4. White men are gentlemen. These days, Black men meet a woman and within a week, they’re trying to invite themselves over to her house (because they can’t have company at their mama’s house) and fuck. White men court the woman they desire. They will come to your door with flowers instead of texting you “come outside”, they will open the car door for you, take you out for a night on the town, bring you back home and will be satisfied with just that. They usually date to find their Wives and aren’t just trying to get a nut, so there’s no rush to get into your panties.

3. White men cater to their women. Waking up to breakfast in bed is nothing out of the ordinary. And while we’re on the subject of food, White men have no problem cooking for their woman. If she’s tired and says “Baby, can you please make dinner tonight?”, it’s not a problem. Men of “other races” are used to being babied, especially since most of them don’t leave the nest until they’re almost thirty. They don’t care if you had a long day, you better get in there and fry him the big piece of chicken.

2. White men live longer. They take care of themselves, eat right, exercise and GO TO THE DOCTOR regularly, so you won’t have to worry about your husband dying at the age of forty. Let’s talk about going to the doctor for a second, which is something that Black men don’t do often enough. Not only can you trust a White man to take his health seriously, you can trust him to take YOUR health seriously. By that, I mean that it isn’t as scary to sleep with White men as it is with Black men. Most Black men don’t know that they have an STD until they pass it on to their woman. Having unprotected sex with numerous women will not get a White man a gold star next to his name, like it would a Black man.

1. Your children will be half White, with lighter skin and a better grade of hair, which is what most Black men wish they had. Black men usually date outside of their race not because that is their preference, but because they hate the fact that they’re Black. Black men find mixed children (and people in general) to be more attractive. This is why they usually pursue women of other races, not knowing how genetics work and that even if they procreate with a woman of another race, their child can still be black as night with the kinkiest hair. In my opinion, it’s better to marry and procreate with a White man than it is to procreate with a Black man. Why? Well, I don’t have any children, but I can imagine how it feels to watch your son grow up loathing his dark skin, coarse hair, degrading Black women and resenting you, the Black woman who gave him life.

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A LOOK BACK ON 30....UNTILIGETMARRIED.COM

Tomorrow (or today if you’re reading this on Wednesday, July 18), I turn 31-years-old.

This not only makes me old it makes you old as well, but that’s neither here nor there. The important thing is I survived a very pivotal age, an age that when I was going into it, I had a host of expectations and ideas about what it meant. Little did I know, it was nothing like I thought it would be.

The thing I tell about being 30 is, you don’t turn 30, 30 turns you. Because you are now this particular age, people expect things of you and you expect things of yourself. I have spent a whole year telling people who ask, I’m 30-years-old, and every single time I’ve said it, it feels like I’m lying. I don’t feel 30, for a variety of reasons, but my ID tells no lies and so therefore, people expect me to be 30, even when they have no idea what it means.

Hell, I didn’t have any idea what it meant and as I sit here less than 24 hours away from turning 31, I’ve resigned myself to the fact that this past year was akin to the Introduction to Statistics class I was required to take in college. I did not flourish, but I had highs and lows that balanced out to the point where I made it to 31 and the older you get, the more you just want to be able to say that. You made it to the next year.

I spent the majority of my 30 year unemployed, freelancing my life away while trying to figure out if I could qualify for food stamps. Times got hard. I went to housing court, not once, but twice, an experience I will dedicate a whole chapter to in that book I’ve been spending my whole life writing. And perhaps such misfortune is due to my lack of money management skills and inability to create a budget, but I also know that I’m living in apartment that I moved into when I had a job, so yeah, there’s that.

Somehow, I managed to make it and I’m able to still live in this apartment that I love. I’ve been blessed with a new job, as most of you know, and it’s so funny because as I jokingly tell people, when I went to school for journalism, I didn’t know it would turn into this. But I love it, and every day I wake up with the intent to own it and thrive at it.

Meanwhile, the personal life is, as it always was: A mess. I’ve made mistakes here too within the past 12 months. I broke someone’s heart, someone broke my heart. If you’ve read the blog over the past six months, you could get a sense of what it felt like to be in both positions. I’ve made new friends, strengthened my relationships with some old friends. With one of my best friends having just moved to New York, I now have three of my best friends of 12 years living in the city, which has been a blessing. The addition of some new friends has also made me realize, if you think you can’t make friends after the age of 30, you’ve given up on life and people far too soon.

Also, heartbreak, both delivered and received, taught me there’s some things you will never outgrow. It doesn’t get harder, but it doesn’t get easier either. If anything, heartbreak is the thing for which you will never be prepared, and so you have to accept that when it’s happening to you, time is your only remedy.

Being 30 is just an all around trip, man. I don’t know how else to explain it other than to say, you really aren’t going to get it until you’re coming up on 31. I say this because I had no idea what it meant and now, I think I do, at least a little bit.

Being 30 is not about being grown or being older by anyone’s standards but your own, and I don’t mean stubbornly so. I mean, you not only have to be comfortable with who you are, but also comfortable with changing whatever it is about yourself that needs changing. You can accept certain things about you as being permanent, but when you realize you have more years ahead of you than behind you, and that you’ve really only been an adult for nine years, saying you’re done growing is a primary example of arrested development. You can put yourself in a 30-year-old box and let it define you, or you can put 30 in a box and define it for yourself.

That is the battle I’ve had with myself over the past 12 months. Nothing makes me more insecure than when someone wants to qualify the absurdity of a mistake I made or one of my imperfections with the phrase, “You’re a 30-year-old man.” It’s as though because I’m this age I should know better. And perhaps they’re right, but honestly, as I head into my 30s officially, I realize I’m going to have to care less about what that means. I’m going to grow, I’m going to get better as a person because I care about being a good person, but I’m doing so on my own time and for my own reasons. I want more money, I want my book deal and to thrive at this job, and I wouldn’t mind just one good woman in my life. So I’m riding around and I’m getting it, but not in one scoop, rather, piece by piece. Maybe I should have had some of these things because I’m 30, but I have learned 30 doesn’t mean you have it all, it means you’re closer to getting it.

Don’t get me wrong, I still have dreams and goals. My ambition is still the same as it was the day I moved to New York City, which was July 9, 2004. But I’ve also been able to understand that what really makes life beautiful is the nuances of it, the gift of the day-to-day and no matter how bad it gets, no matter how many inconveniences and hardships life throws at you, if you get another day, you get another shot to run the obstacle course of life. God’s gift to you is that new day, it’s his way of saying, He hasn’t given up on you and therefore you should not give up on life.


Jozen was able to put into words EXACTLY how I feel.

GET OUT AND EXPLORE THE WORLD....

Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.

- Mark Twain

WHAT SHE SAID...MISSJIA.COM ON LAHHA ON HOW RASHEEDA HANDLED HUSBANDS MISMANAGEMENT....

Besides the usual incoherent foolishness that comes out of Joseline Hernandez’s mouth, the only other notable scene from last night’s episode came when Kirk Frost, Rasheeda’s manager and baby daddy, sat her down and asked her why she held a meeting with Waka Flocka’s momanager, Debra Antney. 


Both Rasheeda and Kirk dissolved into fake tears as she told him she needed a co-manager, and that Deb fit the bill because she once managed Nicki Minaj. 


What I took from that scene is Rasheeda’s lack of conflict resolving skills and her total lack of respect for Kirk. 


Regardless of what she thinks of him as a business manager, he is her man, and she should show him the utmost respect! 


This is a problem with black women in general, and it helps explain why the divorce rate is a staggering 65% in the black community. 


We can no longer blame the collapse of the black family on black men. 


We as women have to take some responsibility because we are raising ours sons to be men.

INTRODUCING TEDDY RINER...THE FACE OF JUDO...AND HE'S FRENCH

WELL ALRIGHT MR. COOPER....HE LIKES THEM CHOCOLATE....

A MESSAGE TO ALL THE BAD BITCHES.....

WHAT SHE SAID..JESSICA FROM PUNANY POETS PREACHES!!!!

Today there is an internations AIDS confernce in Washington, DC. I just want to ask the people how they plan to stop people from fucking raw. The truth is that most people are not laying safe, most black women prefer black dick, and do not ask questions about where it came from. You can get tested for HIV as many times as you want, but tests will not stop you from contracting the virus. The millions spent on "get tested" campaigns could be put into self esteem ads. No, they don't want to do that. If you find out you have HIV, you are worth so much money to the health care industry. As an AIDS paient you will generate more money for private industry that prisoners and welfare mothers. 

WHAT HE SAID...FRANK O ON COMING OUT....

"People are just afraid of things too much. Afraid of things that don't necessarily merit fear," Frank Ocean told the Guardian this weekend, in an interview that touched heavily on the R&B singer's decision to open up about his sexuality in a recent Tumblr post. 


"I was thinking of how I wished at 13 or 14 there was somebody I looked up to who would have said something like that, who would have been transparent in that way," he said. "But there's another side of it that's just about my own sanity and my ability to feel like I'm living a life where I'm not just successful on paper, but sure that I'm happy when I wake up in the morning, and not with this freakin' boulder on my chest."

BRUCE JENNER...THE YEARS HAVE NOT BEEN KIND....

WHOLE BODY, ACTIVE LISTENING...GET IT....

CONFIDENCE VS. ARROGANCE....

To be a confident black man in society....you are often labeled as ARROGANT....


To be a confident white man in society....you are labeled CONFIDENT and DRIVEN


The Great Carl Lewis to Oprah Winfrey...I was full of myself, knowing that I was indeed great

THE KID IS BACK....CHECK OUT HIS RANTS

GET INTO THE LYRICS....ESPECIALLY THE SEXY AND PRETTY SOMETHINGS....

This is for them 20-somethings
Time really moves fast, you were just sixteen...
This is for them 30-somethings
That didn't turn out exactly how your mom and dad wanted you to be.
This is for them 40-somethings
Well raise up your glass and laugh like a mutha fucker
This is for them 50-somethings
Hell, you're halfway there, baby take it to the head

Mom and dad, tried to hide the world
Said the world is just too big for a little girl.
Eyes wide open, came to see
I had my first heels by the age of 13
Mom and dad, tryna hide the boys,
I swear that just make them want me more.
At 14, they asked what i wanna be,
I said "baby 21, so i'd get me a drink."

I'm not a teacher, babe
But i can teach you something
Not a preacher
But we can pray if you wanna
Ain't a doctor
But i can make you feel better
But i'm great at writing physical love letters
I'm a freak, all day, all night
Hot, top, flight
Boy out of sight
And i'm crazy, all day, all night
Who needs a degree when you're schoolin' life...

Oh oh, oh oh, oh oh oh oh
Oh oh, oh oh, oh oh oh oh

Schoolin' life... oh oh oh... schoolin' life...

This is for them pretty somethings
Living in the fast lane, see you when you crash babe
This is for them sexy somethings
That body can't always get ya out of everything
This is for them bitter somethings
Stop living in regret, baby, it's not over yet  
And this is for them trippin somethings
That's high on life, baby, put me on your flight

I'm not a teacher, babe
But i can teach you something
Not a preacher
But we can pray if you wanna
Ain't a doctor
But i can make you feel better
But i'm great at writing physical love letters
I'm a freak, all day, all night
Hot, top, flight
Boy out of sight
And i'm crazy, all day, all night

Oh oh, oh oh, oh oh oh oh
Oh oh, oh oh, oh oh oh oh

Schoolin' life... oh oh oh... schoolin' life...

You know it costs to be the boss
One day you'll run the town
For now make your life what you decide
Baby, party til the fire marshall shuts this sucker down

I'm not a teacher, babe
But i can teach you something
Not a preacher
But we can pray if you wanna
Ain't a doctor
But i can make you feel better
But i'm great at writing physical love letters
I'm a freak, all day, all night
Hot, top, flight
Boy out of sight
And i'm crazy, all day, all night
Who needs a degree when you're schoolin' life

Oh oh, oh oh, oh oh oh oh
Oh oh, oh oh, oh oh oh oh

Schoolin' life... oh oh oh...
Schoolin' life... oh oh oh

There's not a real way to live this, for real
Just remember stay relentless... oh yeah, oh yeah
Don't stop running until it's finished
It's up to you, the rest is unwritten.

TRUST AND LOVE....

THE LOVE OF A FATHER....PRICELESS....

SAFEGUARD YOUR HEART AND DREAMS...

Don't always let the people that simply "want" to be important in your life get access to your heart and dreams.

GOOD MUSIC.....KIESHA COLE FT. LIL WAYNE...ENOUGH OF NO LOVE....SOOOO DOPE

WHAT HE SAID.....NO SHIT SHERLOCK....

So while chillin' poolside with some female company (we know Cassie is in Vegas as well but we can't confirm it's her in the pic), Diddy decided to snap the above pic with his hand between a woman's leg. 


 And said: "I love pussy."


 We kinda figured that out after your 5 kids (not counting Quincy) and 3 baby mamas.

CLASSICALLY FUNNY....THE GOLDEN FRIENDS...

WHAT HE SAID...THE DREAM ON CHRISTINA MILIAN

She had a plan to come up before she met me I called her on it. 

Go digging for gold u might find it.. But its hard to carry that much weight.

LAZY DATING....KNOWING HOW TO COURT....

We all like to see genuine effort from people pursuing us. It can be truly annoying to be interested in someone who does not get the concept of courting. Sure it is an old fashioned term, but it’s still very necessary. How are single people supposed to deal with lazy courtship?

What do you do when the person you are seeing lack creativity or consistency? Does it mean they aren’t really that interested or are we now just accustomed to bare minimum efforts?

Why do you think lazy courtship is problematic to the dating scene? 

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

FIVE WAYS TO INCREASE YOUR EJACULATE....

1. Drink Fluids. The amount of semen that is released in an ejaculation is related to the volume of fluids that are ingested. The body needs two liters of water a day to function properly. Drinking more fluids will increase your semen expulsion, but will not raise your sperm count.
2. 
   Abstain from Orgasm. The average man produces 85 million sperm per day. When not released, the sperm will increase in numbers. Try to resist the urge to ejaculate for 5 or 6 days, then release the floodgates and revel in the waterfall.
3. 
   Avoid wearing tight underwear. The ideal temperature for semen and sperm is slightly lower than normal body temperature. This explains why the scrotum is on the outside of the body. Tight underwear will increase the scrotal temperature, thereby decreasing sperm and semen levels.
4. 
   Avoid sitting with legs crossed. This also affects the sperm and semen volumes to a great extent. By squashing the scrotal area against the warm body, will increase temperature above the required normal range.
5. 
   Drink lots of milk. The lactose and fructose in milk will also improve the quality of the ejaculate and increase volume of the ejaculate.

LOVING THE CREW....

Listen, listen, whoa, yeah, listen, ooooh
Take your nose off my keyboard
What you bothering me for?
There’s a room full of niggas!
What you following me for?
This ain’t no fuckin sing-along
So girl, what you singing for?
It’s cause we blowing like a C4
Got my whole crew blowing like a C4
20, keep the bar rolling
Fake ID’s and the trash we going straight to the top
Rooftop close with a handful of girls and they all so foreign
Brain so poisoned, rainbows flowing
Light skinned chick first flight from Poland
A whole lot of friends first flight from Poland
A whole lot of cash first trip from Poland

I DON'T WANT TO BE A PLAYER NO MORE...REFORMED PLAYER....

Some single people get a bad dating reputation because of past mistakes. Whether it’s breaking hearts or breaking cars, we have all done things we are particularly proud of. There are some things that are harder to live down though.

When you decide to grow up and start “dating responsibly” you probably will face a few challenges in cleaning up your rep. Do people believe you when you tell them that you have changed? A lot of people won’t! You probably will have to show them more than tell them.

A friend of mine found out that she is seeing a guy who has quite a bad dating record. The things people have told her about him so far are enough to fill up a soap opera. Of course, she does not see this side of him at all. He has convinced her that everything she heard was when he was young and dumb. Maybe he is a reformed player?

Do you think there is such a thing as a reformed player? Someone who has learned from their mistakes and cleaned up their act?

Are you reformed? How can one tell for sure that the person they are seeing has turned over a new leaf?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

SEX ON THE FIRST DATE....

If guys only knew how much women go back and forth in their head about whether or not to seal the deal on the first date. There is always worry about sending the wrong message or killing chances of anything serious from happening later on. There is no easy answer and a lot of times, we just want to not regret it afterwards!

One of our readers wants to know what she should do after hooking up on the first date. She does not regret it, but she does feel that the guy looks at her differently. Should she bring it up and let him know that she doesn’t want it to change things?

What do you do when you are in a new romance and things get physical? Should it change the dynamics of the relationship? Will your expectations change?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

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RELATIONSHIP FILES....SHOULD YOU APOLOGIZE....

“I’m sorry if I ever caused you any pain”. These 8 words popped up on my text messages last week. I didn’t recognize the number, but I didn’t have to. I knew who it was from. I knew why he was saying I’m sorry. I knew that I was not going to reply back.

After years of holding animosity, the text message actually brought closure. Closure I didn’t even know I wanted. Maybe apologizing for your romantic crimes is a good idea? When break ups get messy, people get hurt. Would it be that hard to make amends and let the person know you really felt bad for the way you treated the?

Do you ever regret the way you ended things with someone? Do you feel bad about how you handled situations in the past? Do you think you should apologize to the person?

Has an ex ever reached out to you to apologize for hurting you? Do you think it is appropriate to respond? Would you forgive them?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

PERFECT LOVE....

You come to love not by finding the perfect person, but by seeing an imperfect person perfectly.

DIANA ROSS HAS NO LOVE FOR TYLER PERRY/MADEA.....

Tyler Perry’s movies have been hits at the box office for the past several years, but apparently they have not been a hit with one of Tyler’s childhood idols, Diana Ross.

Tyler would love to work on a film project with Ms. Ross, but she seems to be ducking his phone calls.

“She’s been ignoring me for years,” Tyler toldEssence in an interview. “She’s the only person that I have dreamed of working with that will not return my phone calls.”

Diana did speak with Tyler once, but the outcome wasn’t what he hoped for.

“That was it, she never called me again,” he said. “She said, 'No!' And that was it.”

Diana won’t work with Tyler because his work is too lowbrow, according to insiders.

“Diana feels Tyler’s movies, TV shows and especially his main character ‘Madea’ have no substance,” an insider told The National Enquirer.

“Diana is all about her entertainment legacy,” the insider said. “The last thing she wants is to co-star in a cheesy comedy starring a Black man in a fat suit playing a half-cocked, angry old woman waving a gun.”

Of course, Tyler is no stranger to criticism. The filmmaker told S2S Publisher Jamie Foster Brown, in the March 2012 issue, that defending himself against his African-American detractors has been difficult.

"I can tell you this, Jamie: If Black people knew how hard I had to fight to get anything done, I promise you that they would all be giving me an award rather than giving me hell," he said.

Upon hearing the rumor that Diana refused to work with Tyler, Jamie said, "That's a shame. His films have great morals to the story. He teaches.”

Jamie is not Tyler’s only supporter, the director was able to get two of his other childhood idols, Marla Gibbs and John Amos, into his latest flick, Madea’s Witness Protection.

“To be around Florence from 'The Jeffersons' and James from 'Good Times'…to stand in the presence of the people that I’ve admired is amazing,” Tyler said.

Tyler was also in the presence of another admirable person who helped him with a drinking problem that he was developing after his mother became ill.

"When she got sick in 2009, I started drinking every night because I couldn't sleep; every night up to a couple of months ago," he said. "I never had a problem but I certainly was on way to having one.

A visit from President Barack Obama helped him turn things around for the filmmaker. It was President Obama's visit to my studio; I don't know what happened there, but when he came everything became clear," he said. "I just came out of a haze. It was like, 'Wake up, kid. You know life is still going on.' I swear the day after he left was the day I just said I am going to go to sleep without it."

TUESDAY INSPIRATION....

Do not be afraid or discouraged because of this vast army. For the battle is not yours, but God's. 2 Chronicles 20:15

IT'S OFFICIAL...EVANDER HOLYFIELD EVICTED FROM MANSION

Former heavyweight boxing champ recently lost his sprawling $10 million dollar mansion to foreclosure. The 54,000 sq. ft. Fayetteville, Georgia mansion sold at a loss for $7.5 million on the courthouse steps on March 6, according to TMZ.com.

According to his senior advisor, Holyfield was “confident that an amiable agreement” would be reached so he could stay in his home that was fit for a king. But he lost that fight. So today was moving day.

A loyal reader snapped a pic of Holyfield’s prized 1984 Corvette secured to the back of a tow truck rolling down Jonesboro road just moments ago. Meanwhile, back at the ranch, my spy spotted eight huge 18-wheelers parked on the property. Moving men were busy loading the trucks with Holyfield’s worldly possessions.

There’s no word on where Holyfield is moving to.

My reader initially thought the IRS was cleaning Holyfield out. But the towing company, Rhino Auto Towing, are in the business of transporting, not repossessing autos to relieve tax liabilities.

The mansion was snapped up by JP Morgan bank which held the mortgage. A portion of the sale will go toward Holyfield’s $250,000 tax bill to the IRS.

Holyfield owed more than $14 million dollars on the house — plus $2500 in foreclosure costs. The mansion boasts 109 room and sits on 235 acres which includes 2 private lakes and a baseball field. The crib even comes with a designer address — Evander Holyfield highway.

In addition to numerous close calls with foreclosures in the past, Holyfield still owes $320,000 in late child support payments. He is no longer a heavyweight contender but, according to Wikipedia, Holyfield has at least 11 mouths to feed.

DOPE MUSIC.....LEAH LABELLE....

ALWAYS REMEMBER....THE WAY YOU MEET THEM IS THE WAY YOU LOSE THEM....

The other night in Trinidad, singer Fantasia broke down and cried her heart out onstage. The reason: her baby daddy, Antwaun Cook, has fled into the arms of another woman.

WHAT HE SAID....KUDOS AGAIN GO OUT TO MR. OCEAN.....

“I dont have any secrets I need kept anymore. I feel like a free man.”

STAR JONE'S SATAN'S SISTERS SET TO BE MADE INTO FILM....WENDY WILLIAMS PRODUCING....

As VH1 continues to add steamy tv movies/shows to its lineup, we've found out that Star Jones' dishy book "Satan's Sisters" is next up to bat.  Star will be linking up with talkshow diva Wendy Williams and legendary film and music executive Suzanne de Passe for a made-for-tv movie about the book that is set to become a tv series.  

The project will be produced under the “Wendy Williams Presents” banner and follow the lives of several female co-hosts on a popular talkshow similar to Star's ex job "The View."  And with Star being besties with such fab actresses asLela Rochon and Vanessa Bell Calloway, you know the casting will be well played.

WHAT SHE THINKS...FROM SANDRAROSE.COM

Other suspected gay and bisexual rappers, such as Drake, Tyga, Lil B, 50 Cent and Wale, are expected to come out now that Ocean has bravely blazed the trail.

MUST SEE BLACK FILM....BEASTS OF THE SOUTHERN WILDS

 Hushpuppy, an intrepid six-year-old girl, lives with her father, Wink, in "the Bathtub", a southern Delta community at the edge of the world. Wink's tough love prepares her for the unraveling of the universe; for a time when he's no longer there to protect her. When Wink contracts a mysterious illness, nature flies out of whack-temperatures rise, and the ice caps melt, unleashing an army of prehistoric creatures called aurochs. With the waters rising, the aurochs coming, and Wink's health fading, Hushpuppy goes in search of her lost mother.

WHAT HE SAID ABOUT HIS MALE FIRST LOVE....FRANK OCEAN....

"4 summers ago, I met somebody," he wrote. "I was 19 years old. He was too. We spent that summer, and the summer after, together. Everyday almost. And on the days we were together, time would glide. Most of the day I'd see him, and his smile.

"Sleep I would often share with him. By the time I realised I was in love, it was malignant. It was hopeless. There was no escaping, no negotiating to the women I had been with, the ones I cared for and thought I was in love with.

"I sat there and told my friend how I felt. I wept as the words left my mouth. I grieved for then. Knowing I could never take them back for myself. He patted my back. He said kind things. He did his best, but he wouldn't admit the same.

"He had to go back inside soon. It was late and his girlfriend was waiting for him upstairs. He wouldn't tell the truth about his feelings for me for another 3 years. I felt like I'd only imagined reciprocity for years.

"I kept up a peculiar friendship with him because I couldn't imagine keeping up my life without him. I struggled to master myself and my emotions. I wasn't always successful.

"I don't have any secrets I need kept anymore. There's probably some small s**t still, but you know what I mean. I was never alone, as much as it felt like it. As much as I still do sometimes. I never was. I don't think I ever could be. Thanks. To my first love, I'm grateful for you.

STEEL MAGNOLIA'S REMAKE TRAILER....ALL STAR BLACK CAST....

FRANK OCEAN IS GAY....WELL NOT OFFICIALLY....

“Frank has also opened up about his sexuality on the album, we think it’s brave and admire him for being so honest and sharing such a personal aspect of his life through his music,” Max wrote on her website ThisIsMax.

“On the songs ‘Bad Religion’ ‘Pink Matter and ‘Forrest Gump’ you can hear him sing about being in love and their are quite obvious words used like ‘him’ and not ‘her’.”

“In the world we live in now we can’t see this being an issue or why it should be?? But we do commend him for not continuing a facade and conforming to what a Hip Hop so called rule book expects, we say live your life and be yourself.”

EVERY STEP....

Every step, Every failure, Every mistake always teaches you a great lesson so you Won't repeat those mistakes again or you Wont fail again, and if you do it again you Will fall in the Same Problem, Same Regret, and Same Heartbreak.

DOING WHAT SHE DOES BEST...STAYING RELEVANT ONLY AS STAR JONES CAN....

Star Jones is the latest celebrity to take her issues with “Basketball Wives” to Twitter, and she’s calling on other high-profile Black women to take a stand against the show.

The former “The View” co-host used the social media site as a platform to share her outrage over the depiction of Black women that the show offers.

“It may be ‘comfortable’ to be quiet when women of color slap the crap out of each other & run across tables barefoot, but #ENOUGHisENOUGH,” wrote Star, who is apparently tired of talking about the issue and ready to do something about it.

“About to put together a group of sisters to finally ‘tell the truth’ about the image of women of color in the media,” wrote Star, who had just had a pow wow with Black Girls Rock! creator, Beverly Bond.

The hit VH1 show is known for its knockdown, drag-out altercations that mostly involve minority women, but Star specifically responded to the most recent incident in which Jennifer Williams was slapped in the face.

Many of her co-stars and fans of the show questioned Jennifer’s decision to handle the issue in a court of law, instead of with her fists.

“And the thought that the woman from #BBW who was smacked doesn't have the RIGHT to file assault charges is LUDICROUS! You NEVER give up your right not to have your ‘person’ intentionally assaulted unless you are participating in an agreed physical activity,” wrote the attorney.

Star didn’t just take aim at “Basketball Wives,” though. She also had a little something to say about hip-hop.

“Then we have music filled with misogyny, self-hate & WOMEN calling THEMSELVES Bs and Hs & white rappers are using the N word,” she wrote.

Star said her motivation for blasting “Basketball Wives” wasn’t to knock the stars’ hustles. She just thinks young sisters need better examples.

“…little black girls deserve more than what we're giving! It sickens me @lov3lylina85 when young sis think that behavior is acceptable. U can't get a REAL JOB acting like an animal,” said Star.

While executive producer Shaunie O’Neal promised that the series would be more positive and show a more balanced view of the women, so far this season, it’s been more of the same.

Star’s friend Sherri Shepherd has already spoken out against the show several times, and Star wants more women to take a stand.

“I'm asking all my high profile, platform having conscientious sisters who STAND FOR SOMETHING to just say #ENOUGHisENOUGH & call folk out! Be mad. But think about what I said. WE ARE BETTER than that. You're either part of the problem or part of the solution.”

—Tracy L. Scott

WHAT HE SAID....ANDERSON COOPER FINALLY OUT THE CLOSET....OFFICIALLY...WE ALREADY KNEW

CNN anchor Anderson Cooper finally emerged from the closet after years of hiding his lifestyle from the public.

“The fact is I’m gay,” wrote CNN anchor Anderson Cooper in a poignant letter to longtime friend, Andrew Sullivan of the Daily Beast.

“I have given some the mistaken impression that I am trying to hide something – something that makes me uncomfortable, ashamed or even afraid,” Anderson wrote.

“This is distressing because it is simply not true.

“The fact is, I’m gay, always have been, always will be, and I couldn’t be any more happy, comfortable with myself, and proud,” he added.

Cooper follows in the footsteps of fellow CNN anchor Don Lemon, who found the courage to leave the cramped confines of his closet to embrace his fears and uncertainties.

SO DOPE...DON'T SLEEP ON MR. MARS....THIS SUMS UP HOW LOVE LOST FEELS....