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HE MIGHT BE GAY BUT HIS MONEY ISEN'T....INTERESTING READ.....
Lately I have been hearing a lot of speak about "that n**ga gay from fellow teammates and friends about a baller. Now we are thinking to ourselves "he is too fine to be gay, his homeboy/teammate probably just hating", or you think to yourself "why he talk to so many girls if he gay?" The answer is simple, he is bi-sexual and is talking to numerous females to cover up the fact that he may be gay in fear of what might happen to him if he comes out publicly about his love for penis.
You can't possibly think that everyone who plays in the NFL, NBA, and MLB are straight. You know you have a fruitcake out the bunch here and there. Down-low brothers come in every shape and form and have some of the manliest occupations (construction worker, policeman, ball player, military, etc.) But don't go assuming that its completely true when someone accuses someone of being gay, just observe and pay close attention to his tendencies to be gay. I have come across my share of gay men who swear to the man above they are not gay but after one experience I had, there is no denying that the guy I thought was straight is gay. Now this was very slutty of me, but I am sure we have all had a slut moment before but this is a real big slut moment for me. I was involved in a three-some with a guy who plays for the Minnesota Vikings and a guy from the Miami Dolphins. I was sexually involved with the guy from the vikings for over a year and was kinda digging him (rare). We went to a strip club one night in miami with his friend from the Dolphins. My Viking guy kept nagging me about have a three-some but not with another girl. He really wanted me to do this for him and I was confused why but after 4 long islands, it didn't seem to matter to me anymore. Did I mention that I was super attracted to the Dolphin. Well we all go back to Dolphin guys house and it began. I had balls flying from left and right and I must say I handled them like a champ until....... These mother f****** started feeling up on each other thinking I wasn't going to notice. These mother f****** was touching each others chest and s***! I was so turned off and dried up quick and said "WTF?"
They were using me to get to each other and I still think they get down. I asked my Viking guy what the f*** was up with that s*** and he says "That aint no gay s*** baby, don't get it twisted" I said, let me call my homeboy and ask him what he would have done in that situation. This dude started sweating bullets and begged me not say s***. I kneeeeeew he was gay when he started begging. I was so shocked because he is so big and masculine and is probably the coolest dude in Miami that nobody would ever suspect to be gay. Ever since that night, he has been real nice to me and treats me to anything I want.
The moral of the story is... Be careful of these types of men but make them pay you to keep quiet. There are so many girls in the game getting paid to keep quiet about s***. Soon as that f***** p***** you off he knows his secret is a TOLD SECRET. Play as their cover up just don't f*** the dude anymore if you have been. Go get tested and make sure you are still clean. Protect your p**** ladies. Don't let these guys go raw in you especially if he given off gay signals. Most women contract aids from a down-low man! With that said.. "Every man is gay until proven innocent."
Read more: http://www.balleralert.com/profiles/blogs/gay-baller#ixzz2OruJWZw9
You can't possibly think that everyone who plays in the NFL, NBA, and MLB are straight. You know you have a fruitcake out the bunch here and there. Down-low brothers come in every shape and form and have some of the manliest occupations (construction worker, policeman, ball player, military, etc.) But don't go assuming that its completely true when someone accuses someone of being gay, just observe and pay close attention to his tendencies to be gay. I have come across my share of gay men who swear to the man above they are not gay but after one experience I had, there is no denying that the guy I thought was straight is gay. Now this was very slutty of me, but I am sure we have all had a slut moment before but this is a real big slut moment for me. I was involved in a three-some with a guy who plays for the Minnesota Vikings and a guy from the Miami Dolphins. I was sexually involved with the guy from the vikings for over a year and was kinda digging him (rare). We went to a strip club one night in miami with his friend from the Dolphins. My Viking guy kept nagging me about have a three-some but not with another girl. He really wanted me to do this for him and I was confused why but after 4 long islands, it didn't seem to matter to me anymore. Did I mention that I was super attracted to the Dolphin. Well we all go back to Dolphin guys house and it began. I had balls flying from left and right and I must say I handled them like a champ until....... These mother f****** started feeling up on each other thinking I wasn't going to notice. These mother f****** was touching each others chest and s***! I was so turned off and dried up quick and said "WTF?"
They were using me to get to each other and I still think they get down. I asked my Viking guy what the f*** was up with that s*** and he says "That aint no gay s*** baby, don't get it twisted" I said, let me call my homeboy and ask him what he would have done in that situation. This dude started sweating bullets and begged me not say s***. I kneeeeeew he was gay when he started begging. I was so shocked because he is so big and masculine and is probably the coolest dude in Miami that nobody would ever suspect to be gay. Ever since that night, he has been real nice to me and treats me to anything I want.
The moral of the story is... Be careful of these types of men but make them pay you to keep quiet. There are so many girls in the game getting paid to keep quiet about s***. Soon as that f***** p***** you off he knows his secret is a TOLD SECRET. Play as their cover up just don't f*** the dude anymore if you have been. Go get tested and make sure you are still clean. Protect your p**** ladies. Don't let these guys go raw in you especially if he given off gay signals. Most women contract aids from a down-low man! With that said.. "Every man is gay until proven innocent."
Read more: http://www.balleralert.com/profiles/blogs/gay-baller#ixzz2OruJWZw9
March 27, 2013
BRACE YOURSELF....FUNNY SHIT
A man escapes from a prison where he’s been locked up for 15 years.
He breaks into a house and inside, he finds a young couple in bed. He ties him to a chair. While tying the wife to the bed, the convict gets on top of her, kisses her neck, then gets up and goes into the bathroom.
While he’s in there, the husband whispers over to his wife, “Listen, this guy is an escaped convict. Look at his clothes! He’s probably spent a lot of time in jail and hasn’t seen a woman in years. I saw how he kissed your neck. If he wants sex, don’t resist, don’t complain. Do whatever he tells you. Satisfy him no matter how much he nauseates you. This guy is obviously very dangerous. If he gets angry, he’ll kill us both. Be strong, honey. I love you!”
She responds: “He wasn’t kissing my neck. He was whispering in my ear. He told me that he’s gay, thinks you’re cute, and asked if we had any Vaseline. I told him it was in the bathroom. Be strong honey. I love you, too.”
He breaks into a house and inside, he finds a young couple in bed. He ties him to a chair. While tying the wife to the bed, the convict gets on top of her, kisses her neck, then gets up and goes into the bathroom.
While he’s in there, the husband whispers over to his wife, “Listen, this guy is an escaped convict. Look at his clothes! He’s probably spent a lot of time in jail and hasn’t seen a woman in years. I saw how he kissed your neck. If he wants sex, don’t resist, don’t complain. Do whatever he tells you. Satisfy him no matter how much he nauseates you. This guy is obviously very dangerous. If he gets angry, he’ll kill us both. Be strong, honey. I love you!”
She responds: “He wasn’t kissing my neck. He was whispering in my ear. He told me that he’s gay, thinks you’re cute, and asked if we had any Vaseline. I told him it was in the bathroom. Be strong honey. I love you, too.”
WHAT SHE SAID....SANDRAROSE ON THE GAME SEASON PREMIERE ON BET
Hall’s final appearance on last night’s show made a lasting impression. He acted his ass off; showing raw emotion, pain, anger, rage and defeat after learning he was traded for a corny, younger version of himself
March 26, 2013
KINDNESS FOR WEAKNESS.....
Those who mistake kindness for weakness usually are the ones who themselves are weak.
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WHAT SHE SAID...JANET HUBERT ABOUT WENDY WILLIAMS
Dear Wiggy, (I mean Wendy)
Recently on your show, you felt the need to finally as you say it put an end to the mystery surrounding my departure from a show that I did so damn long ago that I don’t even remember why I departed.
Wiggy… William…whatever you are supposed to be, I am not quite sure really, I am writing you yet again to appeal to your sense of womanhood, or manhood as some suggest, to simply shut your mouth about things that you know nothing of.
I watched your horrible show to see dear Tatyana Ali, sadly to say fall into your trap, even brought personal pictures of our wonderful days on the show The Fresh Prince of Bel Air. Most people watch you just to see what heinous things, your mouth… which I compare to an over flowing volcano, will spew forth on that day. Now perhaps other black women have allowed you to berate them and will continue to support you in this manner of current madness, by rewarding hatefulness. It seems to have become the norm and has sadly taken over our society.
But I… Janet Hubert, who have vowed to try and not do this ever again (God forgive me) sat there and watched you tell the world that I was not the nice mother? I sat there and watched you, like some kind of devilish sinkhole swallow up Tatyana Ali, reduced her to a child sitting there attempting to keep some semblance of dignity about her as you pried and invaded her life until you got what you wanted. You are a demon
Wendy…you are a wicked, awful, conniving, sinister, spiteful, jealous of every other woman, simply put Wendy… you are a virus… and you are not, nor have ever been a true woman.
Your audience thirsts for the blood of others as they are prompted, to clap, hoot, and holler at your garish shoes, wigs and clothing. You will have stars on your show and demean them before they even make it back home. Who died and told you that you were reborn as Oprah. You want to be Oprah so damn bad you would kill for it, and you will kill anyone to achieve success. You will never be another Oprah, Oprah lifted her audience up; she exuded an air of class.
But you Wendy, you are not even in my league, this is so beneath me to even bother with someone like you, but you asked for it, so… here you are. You will not destroy all the hard work that I went through in the last decade to clear my good name. I simply put will not allow you to do so. I am a lady and a real one, Wendy…you just messed with the wrong sister.
I am a classically trained actress…funny for all that you and the world claim I have done, I should have had my own show like you… correct, because there is nothing I could have ever done in this lifetime in my career that could equal the vulgarity, and ugliness, and hatred that you spew in one single day. Here is my advice to you Wendy…learn to sit in a chair and stop fidgeting with yourself on camera, wipe your giant teeth off camera…put sweat pit pads under your arms…if your sweater is pulling honey until there are lines across your chest… it is too tight.
Take that fake ass blond hair off your head or stop playing the race card, cause you are coming off like a wanna be white girl who will never be white. I have never seen anything except for the hogs I used to feed before school, slobber at the mere sight of food so I even question your humanness. I have never seen such a display of self hatred Wendy. Just a couple of more suggestions to you…stop dissing all of us who have embraced our natural hair as I and many others have, and yes Wendy it does belong on the red carpet, whether you like it or not.
I feel so sorry for you… sitting on your big footed tacky throne everyday while millions of people laugh at you…not with you…there is a big difference. Nobody cares what you think about their lives, but we do care about what you put out there about us. My heart saddens at how women especially black women have embraced your evil after all our struggles in society. You and your kind have set us back at least 100 years.
How dare you chastise anyone when you are such a travesty?
Read More: Janet Hubert reads Wendy Williams for filth http://missjia.com/2013/03/21/aunt-viv-wendy-williams/#ixzz2OBsMzfRf
Recently on your show, you felt the need to finally as you say it put an end to the mystery surrounding my departure from a show that I did so damn long ago that I don’t even remember why I departed.
Wiggy… William…whatever you are supposed to be, I am not quite sure really, I am writing you yet again to appeal to your sense of womanhood, or manhood as some suggest, to simply shut your mouth about things that you know nothing of.
I watched your horrible show to see dear Tatyana Ali, sadly to say fall into your trap, even brought personal pictures of our wonderful days on the show The Fresh Prince of Bel Air. Most people watch you just to see what heinous things, your mouth… which I compare to an over flowing volcano, will spew forth on that day. Now perhaps other black women have allowed you to berate them and will continue to support you in this manner of current madness, by rewarding hatefulness. It seems to have become the norm and has sadly taken over our society.
But I… Janet Hubert, who have vowed to try and not do this ever again (God forgive me) sat there and watched you tell the world that I was not the nice mother? I sat there and watched you, like some kind of devilish sinkhole swallow up Tatyana Ali, reduced her to a child sitting there attempting to keep some semblance of dignity about her as you pried and invaded her life until you got what you wanted. You are a demon
Wendy…you are a wicked, awful, conniving, sinister, spiteful, jealous of every other woman, simply put Wendy… you are a virus… and you are not, nor have ever been a true woman.
Your audience thirsts for the blood of others as they are prompted, to clap, hoot, and holler at your garish shoes, wigs and clothing. You will have stars on your show and demean them before they even make it back home. Who died and told you that you were reborn as Oprah. You want to be Oprah so damn bad you would kill for it, and you will kill anyone to achieve success. You will never be another Oprah, Oprah lifted her audience up; she exuded an air of class.
But you Wendy, you are not even in my league, this is so beneath me to even bother with someone like you, but you asked for it, so… here you are. You will not destroy all the hard work that I went through in the last decade to clear my good name. I simply put will not allow you to do so. I am a lady and a real one, Wendy…you just messed with the wrong sister.
I am a classically trained actress…funny for all that you and the world claim I have done, I should have had my own show like you… correct, because there is nothing I could have ever done in this lifetime in my career that could equal the vulgarity, and ugliness, and hatred that you spew in one single day. Here is my advice to you Wendy…learn to sit in a chair and stop fidgeting with yourself on camera, wipe your giant teeth off camera…put sweat pit pads under your arms…if your sweater is pulling honey until there are lines across your chest… it is too tight.
Take that fake ass blond hair off your head or stop playing the race card, cause you are coming off like a wanna be white girl who will never be white. I have never seen anything except for the hogs I used to feed before school, slobber at the mere sight of food so I even question your humanness. I have never seen such a display of self hatred Wendy. Just a couple of more suggestions to you…stop dissing all of us who have embraced our natural hair as I and many others have, and yes Wendy it does belong on the red carpet, whether you like it or not.
I feel so sorry for you… sitting on your big footed tacky throne everyday while millions of people laugh at you…not with you…there is a big difference. Nobody cares what you think about their lives, but we do care about what you put out there about us. My heart saddens at how women especially black women have embraced your evil after all our struggles in society. You and your kind have set us back at least 100 years.
How dare you chastise anyone when you are such a travesty?
Read More: Janet Hubert reads Wendy Williams for filth http://missjia.com/2013/03/21/aunt-viv-wendy-williams/#ixzz2OBsMzfRf
THE ORIGINAL AUNT VIV PUTS WENDY WILLIAMS ON BLAST....
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WHAT SHE SAID...IN RESPONSE TO BOWN DOWN FROM QUEEN B....Meshell Ndegeocell
I really felt good when I heard the new Beyoncé track “Bow Down / I Been On.” The energetic frequency transcends the lyrics and that’s beautiful. Keyshia Cole, “there is a special place in hell for women who don’t help other women” – Madeleine Albright said that once and it rings true. Stop critiquing people and lets support one another in the world. I, too, once felt it was necessary to give my two cents but the world is in real need of more detailed, nuanced analyses. Don’t take things out of context. “Bow Down / I Been On” is no different than the swagger many MC’s take AND IT’S FUN! Most of all, my body wants to move to it
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NO TRUER WORDS EVER SAID....
….Bad girls ain’t no good, and the good girls ain’t no fun. And the hood girls want a smart nigga. College girls all want a thug…
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March 20, 2013
WHAT HE SAID....DEION SANDERS ON DIVORCE......
“A lot of the things she alleged I did is really what she did,” said Deion, referring to Pilar’s allegations of abuse.
Deion also denied Pilar’s accusations that his current girlfriend, Tracey Edmonds, disrupted their marriage.
“I met Tracey well after I even filed for divorce,” he said. “I hate for her to try and throw Tracey… Tracey is a wonderful woman and a very good person. She has a brand and her name is good. Tracey was never a mistress,” he said adamantly.
“A lot of people don’t realize I’m the one who filed for divorce,” said Deion. “She knows why. She’s got to live with it… Everybody in the city knows why… A man just doesn’t wake up, all of a sudden, and say ‘I want a divorce’.”
“I took care of business 14 years ago before we walked down the aisle,” he said referring to the iron-clad pre-nup.
“The truth of the matter is, when you have to take care of business before you walk down the aisle, you know something will go down eventually. That’s the truth of the matter. And then when a person asks for $100,000 before you get married, you gotta know what time it is. But you stupid enough, young and dumb and do it anyway.
“But I have 3 wonderful children,” he said. “The only thing left is the actual divorce itself,” he continued. “If I’m such a horrific and horrible guy, please relinquish my name,” he said. “Release my name.”
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WHAT SHE SAID.....OMAROSA.....GOTTA LOVE HER
"You don't have to worry about me backstabbing," Omarosa insists. "I'll come from the front!
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WHAT SHE SAID....CADILLAC KIMBERLY
You're gonna get judged no matter what you do. Just be yourself because people will never be fully satisfied so there no point in trying, you see I don't. You can love my ass or kiss it. Thank you.
Cadillac Kimberly
Cadillac Kimberly
March 12, 2013
ALPHA KAPPA ALPHA SUED FOR NOT ALLOWING MEMBERSHIP.....
According to the lawsuit, [Laurin] Compton and [Lauren] Cofield’s trouble began when they were invited to “Ivy Day,” a ceremony for outgoing and prospective AKA members in the second semester of 2010.
The two then-freshmen were expecting to find sisterhood, but what they allegedly found instead was hazing! Some of the “hazing” rules sound innocuous, if extensive, like being forbidden from wearing the sorority colors of pink and green or any colors that could be blended into pink and green.
In one humorous moment, the lawsuit notes that the pledges, who were called the “sweets,” couldn’t even wear white pearls. Other hazing allegations are more serious. At one point, the pledges were told not to talk to non-sorority members at Howard, according to the suit.
“[Alpha Kappa Alpha members] on campus addressed the sweets by calling them weak bitches,” Compton’s mother wrote in a complaint to the sorority.
After Cofield’s mother, also an Alpha Kappa Alpha sister, complained, the two pledges found themselves ostracized in the sorority for being “snitch-friendly” or “snitch-sympathists.”
The two then-freshmen were expecting to find sisterhood, but what they allegedly found instead was hazing! Some of the “hazing” rules sound innocuous, if extensive, like being forbidden from wearing the sorority colors of pink and green or any colors that could be blended into pink and green.
In one humorous moment, the lawsuit notes that the pledges, who were called the “sweets,” couldn’t even wear white pearls. Other hazing allegations are more serious. At one point, the pledges were told not to talk to non-sorority members at Howard, according to the suit.
“[Alpha Kappa Alpha members] on campus addressed the sweets by calling them weak bitches,” Compton’s mother wrote in a complaint to the sorority.
After Cofield’s mother, also an Alpha Kappa Alpha sister, complained, the two pledges found themselves ostracized in the sorority for being “snitch-friendly” or “snitch-sympathists.”
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STAY ALERT.....THANKS JA
Some people will smile in your face, but harness a secret disdain or envy for you. Stay alert and learn how to discern between those who care enough to give you tough love, and those who say harsh things with hopes of tearing you down and breaking your spirit. Appreciate the former, and pray for the latter.
March 6, 2013
MEN DON'T PLAY HARD TO GET....
After trying to decipher a guy’s behavior, Dawn was just given
the reality check she needed: Men don’t usually play hard to get. If you
have to do any kind of guessing, you probably should let him go. My
guy friends have said the same to me, attraction drives the man’s
behavior. It is not complicated because men are simple in that way.
Women
often want to figure the men out and determine if they have a real
interest in us. The actions should tell us all we need to know. Is he
putting effort in? Is it to get to know us or get to know what we can do
for him. There is a difference, right?
When it comes to pursuing what they want, men don’t play hard to get. What happens when a man wants to figure out if his attraction to a woman is something he wants to pursue? Should a woman give him time to figure it out if she think he is worthy of waiting?
How do you handle keeping your ego in check so things can progress?
BY Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta
When it comes to pursuing what they want, men don’t play hard to get. What happens when a man wants to figure out if his attraction to a woman is something he wants to pursue? Should a woman give him time to figure it out if she think he is worthy of waiting?
How do you handle keeping your ego in check so things can progress?
BY Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta
March 3, 2013
THE RULES OF BUSINESS ETIQUETTE.....
The rules of business etiquette are similar to the rules of social etiquette.
But there is a difference between the two sets of manners.
In the social sphere, the assumption is that you and your associates are equals. The business world, on the other hand, is a hierarchy. Wether the hierarchy is spelled out, or entirely unspoken, one exists. Just step on some toes and see what happens. Business etiquette dictates that employees defer to employers, sellers defer to buyers, and seekers defer to sought-afters.
Having said that, here are some general dos and don'ts for being a gentleman at the office.
The Dos
Dress with respect. Be clean and presentable each and every day. Follow the office dress code at a minimum-- and don't be the guy who constantly toes the the line.
On another style note, while you might take off your jacket and roll up your sleeve during the day, when there are visitors present in the office or you're receiving callers, put your jacket back on and present a professional appearance that reflects well on your company.
Keep company secrets, secret. Our Wiki-leaks-loving generation tends to scoff at the notion of keeping anything secret. And yes, your company's secrets may seem so boring or unimportant as to not even be worth the effort of keeping them under wraps. But no matter --- they're still nobody's business. Even if spilling of secrets doesn't cause actual harm to your company, do so will still make you look careless.
Keep things pleasant with your co-workers. Unlike friends, if things get awkward with your co-workers, you cannot choose to stop seeing them. No, cause an uncomfortable rift with a co-worker, and you’ll have to look at their contemptible face each and every day for months, and maybe years. So keep your relations with them pleasant. This means not delving too much into your private life, avoiding discussion of topics like religion and politics, and typically choosing to ignore annoying habits, rather than calling attention to them.
So keep your files tucked away when receiving visitors, guard your end of the phone conversation when a visitor is standing nearby, and if outsiders ask you questions that might reveal company secrets, simply give intentionally vague answers–never volunteer any information they could not have otherwise been gleaned from the news. If information is truly confidential, don’t send it over email. There’s no such thing as a “private” email; they can be monitored by your company, and sometimes retrieved long after they’ve been “deleted.”
Finally, don’t volunteer more information than necessary: “Dan is not in today,” not “Dan’s not here. He’s meeting with the head of mergers at Dyna Corp.”
Work with your boss—not against him. Keep him informed. Let him know when you’ve made a mistake so he doesn’t paint himself into a corner out of ignorance. Back him up–if you have concerns about something, let him know in private instead of airing your grievances at an open meeting.
When you use the last of something, replace it. Whether it’s the last paper in the copy machine or the last cup of joe in the coffee maker, don’t just walk away—replace the paper and make another pot. Ditto for copy machine paper jams—don’t whistle as you slowly slink off. Fix it.
Treat your underlings with kindness and respect. They keep the office running. And you never know if that lowly clerk will one day be your boss.
Respect the chain of command. Both up and down. Don’t step on anybody’s toes. Don’t go over your boss’s head without permission.
Hold the door for people approaching the elevator. Don’t hide in the corner while secretly wishing for the doors to close as quickly as possible.
If you’re using speaker phone, let the person(s) you’re speaking with know who else is on the call with you before you begin the conversation. That way, they will not be confused when another person’s voice suddenly pops in later on.
Bring donuts or bagels to a meeting every once in a blue moon. This is not expected of you. But if you do it, you’ll be a hero.
The Don’ts
Pass the buck. Generally, making excuses reflects more poorly on your character than admitting the mistake would have on your competence. If you blame an underling, you reveal yourself to be a mediocre leader, for you should have seen to it that the job got done correctly. If you blame an equal, you simply look like a whiner and run the risk of souring your relationship with someone with whom you’ll likely have to continue to work. And if you blame a higher-up…well common sense dictates that it’s not a good idea to anger the people who hold your job in their hands.
Come late to meetings. Your late arrival is disruptive and may prolong the meeting if they have to wait to get started until you get there or if they have to catch you up on what has already been discussed.
Linger at someone’s desk. Nothing wrong with stopping by to say hello to your cubicle buddy. But, if after some brief chit-chat, your co-worker shows signs of trying to get back to work, move on!
Eat other people’s food. The crime that launched a thousand passive-aggressive notes.
Eavesdrop on co-workers’ private phone calls. Now obviously if someone is having a conversation a cubicle over, it’s impossible not to hear what they’re saying. But you can certainly pretend like you don’t hear. In other words, if Bob just got off the phone from having an argument with his teenage son, don’t saunter over and ask, “What’s the problem with young Johnny, Bob?” If your co-worker wants to bring up the topic with you, then let him initiate that conversation. Otherwise, consider what you heard to be off-limits.
Listen to radio/music/Youtube videos without headphones. Not everyone shares your affinity for Rihanna.
Let your personal life get in the way of your business life. Always maintain a business-like attitude. This doesn’t mean being cold or aloof from others. What it means is that your personal life should very rarely interfere with getting work done. Not that you can’t leave early because your kid got sick, but that you don’t come in late because you got plastered the night before, you don’t ask the boss for a raise because you just had a baby, and you don’t spend half your time at work arguing with your ex-wife about alimony payments.
Come back and visit your old office. And now we return to the point made at the beginning of the article: the business world is different from the social world. In the social sphere, when you make close relationships, the expectation is that those relationships will last no matter where life takes you. At the office, you might develop relationships that feel very close with your co-workers, but once you move on, those relationships typically do too. When you leave a company to take another job elsewhere, don’t come back to your old workplace expecting to be heralded as a long lost friend. People will find the situation a little awkward and you a good deal lame.
MEMORABLE MOVIE QUOTES....BEACHES....ON ATTENTION SEEKERS....
I don't give a shit about the sun! I'm here because it's peaceful, that's why! You always wanted too much attention! You wanted so much attention from everybody all the time, that you wore people out! You wore me out, you wore your father out, may he rest in peace, by the time you were 15 years old!
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