SHE CAN'T GET A BREAK....FOXXY FALLS AFTER BEING AMPED UP ON SOMETHING.....

THROWBACK WEDNESDAY....STILL GOES HARD

DEFINITON OF THE DAY....NIGGER

Nigger is a noun in the English language. The word originated as a neutral term referring to black people, as a variation of the Spanish/Portuguese noun negro, a descendant of the Latin adjective niger ("color black"). Often used slightingly, by the mid 20th century, particularly in the United States, it suggested that its target is extremely unsophisticated. Its usage had become unambiguously pejorative, a common ethnic slur usually directed at blacks of Sub-Saharan African descent.

CIRCUMSTANTIAL FRIENDS....WE ALL HAVE THEM.....

PAULA'S PLEA....LEAVE PAULA ALONE....

WHAT SHE SAID....RIRI'S RESPONSE TO RUDE JOURNALISTS COMMENTS....

LOL!!!! My money got a bad habit of pissing people off!! If you sincerely wanna help little girls more than their own parents do, here's a toxic tip: don't be amateur with your articles, you sound bitter! What's all this about hair and nails and costumes and tattoos?? ....That **** ain't clever!!! That **** ain't journalism! That's a sad sloppy menopausal mess!!! Nobody over here acts like they're perfect! I don't pretend that I'm like you, i just live... My life!! And I don't know why y'all still act so surprised by any of it!! "Role Model" is not a position or title that I have ever campaigned for, so chill wit dat! I got my own ****ed up **** to work on, I'll never portray that as perfect, but for right now it's ME!! Call it what ya want!! Toxic was cute, Poisonous Pop Princess had a nice ring to it, just a lil wordy! And P.S. my first American Vogue cover was in 2011...APRIL!!! #ElizabethAnnJones

DEFINITION OF THE DAY....COLORISM....

A term coined by author Alice Walker, is used to describe a form of discrimination based on skin color i.e. prejudice or discrimination in which human beings are treated differently based on the social meanings attached to the color of their skin. 

Read more: http://straightfromthea.com/2013/06/24/the-shade-debate-are-dark-girls-treated-differently-watch-documentary-full-video/#ixzz2XB2evLT6

THOUGHTS ON DOCUMENTARY...LIGHT SKINNED AND DARK SKINNED WOMEN USE THEIR COMPLEXION AS A CRUTCH

Watching that documentary, I couldn’t help to think that Director Bill Duke tried to sway the conversation, and make it more impactful, by having unattractive dark skinned women speaking about their struggles. There was one dark skinned women on the documentary that said she was called a “mud duck” by her friends father, as he warned him to stay away from dark women, and to me that father was both blind and an assh*le! Yet others were talking about their plight, and in my mind I thought “I don’t think skin tone has anything to do with why you couldn’t get any play”.

If you’re a woman who looks like Dwyane Wade, it doesn’t matter what skin tone you are, you won’t be attractive to me. Don’t use your skin tone as an excuse. Men who exalt sub-par light skinned women are no different. Just because a woman has fair skin doesn’t make her a dime! As men in general, we are somewhat conditioned to think that “light is right”. I’ve had to catch myself from automatically assuming a lighter woman was attractive to me, and I scrutinize now more than ever to avoid those conditioned assumptions. Just know that the jig has been above sea level for both the light skinned and dark skinned women complexion swindles for years!

MONDAY WORDS OF INSPIRATION....

Grace isn't a statement before meals. It's a way of being. It's kindness in action, generosity embodied and a soul revealing its true light.

WHAT SHE SAID.....AFTER BEING FIRED FROM THE FOOD NETWORK...PAULA DEEN

LET ME EXPLAIN....KEVIN HART...GOTTA WATCH...

HILARIOUS....SOME THURSDAY FUNNY....

HOT OF THE PRESSES....PAULA DEEN, QUEEN OF SOUTHERN FOOD IS A RACIST....

Celebrated Chef Paula Deen has admitted using racial slurs and racist jokes in a deposition videotaped May 17. 

The 66-year-old TV star is involved in a $1.2 million lawsuit brought by the former general manager of her popular Savannah, GA restaurant. Lisa Jackson claimed sexual harassment and infliction of emotional distress by Deen’s brother Bubba Hiers. 

When asked if she ever uttered the N-word, Deen, who hails from Albany, GA, said “Yes, of course,” and went on to give examples, according to UK’s Daily Mail. Deen also admitted saying she wanted to create a plantation-themed wedding with black wait staff dressed as slaves. She said she got the idea for the slave theme while visiting a restaurant with her husband. 

“The whole entire waiter staff was middle-aged black men, and they had on beautiful white jackets with a black bow tie,” she said. 

Deen added: “I mean, it was really impressive. That restaurant represented a certain era in America… after the Civil War, during the Civil War, before the Civil War. It was not only black men, it was black women. I would say they were slaves.” 

How comforting the memories must’ve been for her. Here in the deep south, women like Deen cling to their racism fantasies.

THOUGHTS....

YOU'LL KNOW YOUR IN LOVE.....

"You know you're in love when you can't fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams.” ― Dr. Seuss

DOCUMENTAR.....TWENTY FEET FROM STARDOM...MUST SEE

GUIDE TO THE PERFECT SUNGLASSES FOR YOUR FACE.....

With summer here and all the sunglasses styles available — from aviators to retro to futuristic — picking the right frames for your face can be a daunting task, but we’re taking the guesswork out of selecting the perfect sunnies for your face. The solution lies in the shape of your face. Is your mug heart-shaped, diamond-shaped, square-shaped, or triangle-shaped?

http://agb-style.blogspot.com/2013/06/how-to-pick-perfect-sunglasses-for-your.html#more

HAPPY FATHER'S DAY.....

A Daddy isn't defined as the man who makes the child, but rather a man who extends his hands and time to help with the child's raising and his heart to love the child through anything. Blood doesn't always make you a Daddy. Being a Daddy comes from the heart.. anyone can make a baby, it takes a man to raise a child. 

Happy father's day to all the father's who put in the time to be call "Dad".

TIPS ON GETTING YOUR MAKEUP READY FOR BIRTHDAY BASH.....

WHY ARE ALL THE CRAZIES PHINE? GUY GOES CRAZY IN BART STATION/OAKLAND

THE MINDS OF MEN DOCU-SERIES....MUST WATCH

MONDAY INSPIRATION....

"Love life, engage in it, give it all you've got. Love it with a passion, because life truly does give back, many times over, what you put into it” 

 Maya Angelou

AMERICAN DREAM....

It's called the American dream , because you have to be asleep to believe it " 

George Carlin

THIS CLOWN RIGHT HERE.....22 KIDS WITH 22 WOMEN.....THE BEST BIRTH CONTROL EVER.....

GET INTO THE LYRICS....WITHOUT ME....

But what would you be without me? 
Where would you be without me?
 So what you blowing up just a little, 
 They knowing you a little, 
Don't give a finger in the middle 
'Cause ... you will never be 
Without me  Where would you be without me?
So what you blowing up just a little, 
They knowing you a little,
 Don't give a finger in the middle. 
'Cause ...you would never be

BAD REMIX FT. ORIGINAL BAD GIRL RI RI.....

THE BEST TIME TO BUY ANY AND EVERYTHING.....

What: Airline tickets When: 1 a.m. on Wednesday Why: This is the best time to find a deal because airlines reset their fares every Wednesday just after midnight, says Peter Greenberg, Men's Health Travel Detective. 

What: New suit When: January or July Why: The spring collection hits stores in January, so find a deal on fall suits; they'll be marked down as much as 30 percent. It's the reverse in July. 

What: Gym membership When: July and August Why: New memberships plummet midsummer, so you might find a deal because gyms are in a negotiating mood. 

What: Car When: November and December Why: Don't, as many experts say, buy the previous year's model in late summer when the new models hit. There's a year of depreciation on them already. Instead, buy next year's model late in the year, when dealers are antsy. 

 What: Caribbean vacation When: March and April Why: There will still be plenty of chilly weather at home to escape in early spring, and you'll save 25 percent or more by avoiding the peak season of December to February, says Orbitz travel expert Kendra Thornton. 

What: House When: October to December Why: Real estate varies from place to place. But in general, supply exceeds demand in the fall, after the school year begins.

YOU'VE COME A LONG WAY MISS WENDY WILLIAMS.....

WHAT A WELL DRESSED GROWN ASS MAN LOOKS LIKE....

FOR THE GENTLEMEN....YOUR SUITS SHOULD ACTUALLY FIT....

With the proliferation of so called skinny/fitted suits, don't forget that the suit should actually fit. When it's is cut so tight that it pulls and bows when you button it, when the shoulders don't so much hug your own as they do strangle them, well, your suit doesn't fit. In fairness, this can happen with any suit if you size down too much. But, owing to the increasing popularity of slimmer styles, it's becoming a more and more visible issue as of late. 

So, just a friendly reminder: Your suit should actually fit you. Your jacket should skim your shoulders, nip in at the waist, and be long enough to cover your backside. Your trousers should be trim, and hemmed properly, but not so narrow and short that it looks like they shrunk in the wash. While looking like a baggy mess is always to be avoided, looking like a stuffed sausage is no better.

5 LESSONS LEARNED FROM FAILED RELATIONSHIPS....REVISTED....

5. It's OK to Fight I used to never argue. Never. If I felt an argument brewing, I would simply opt out, become dismissive, passive aggressive, or a combination of all three, but the one thing I wouldn’t do was argue. There are a few reasons I wouldn’t do this: 1) I don’t like to argue as it is; 2) I thought arguing meant the relationship was over; and 3) I didn’t know how to argue like an adult. Regarding the last point, have you ever gotten into a heated debate with someone and the FIRST thing they say to you're already TURNT UP? I mean, how do you START an argument at a 10? That doesn’t make sense. Some people start every argument like it’ll be the last one they’ll ever have or they can apologize later and that disregards all the horrible things they said to you earlier. Ummm, yeah, no. I didn’t like to argue, but as a result, by the time I finally got angry enough to say anything, I wasn’t trying to have a civilized discussion, talk about the issue at hand, or resolve anything. I was in it, to “win” it. Meaning whatever finally came out of my mouth was meant to dismiss you or shut you up, but it definitely wasn’t meant to continue the conversation. Over the years, I’ve learned that small, control burns are better than scorched Earth. If I have a problem, I bring it up rather than hold it in until I’m ready to go nuclear. In other words, I give the person I’m with an opportunity to know what’s bothering me, to discuss it, and possibly correct it rather than simmer silently while they do a lot of small little things that eventually make me blow up in a fit of rage. It’s a simple, yet novel approach. 

4. Xs are Xs for a Reason One of my X’s and I have both gone on to live full, happy lives, separately and apart. We were together for a while, so every now and then it randomly hits me that this could have been "the one." Unfortunately, things happen in life that are completely outside of your control and you’ll never truly move forward if you don’t accept this fact. In order to move forward, I’ve had to accept the closure of past relationships, regardless of how they ended, because reconciling how a relationship ended isn’t always as important as accepting the fact that the relationship has ended. From there, you can truly begin to move forward and find the happiness you want and hopefully recognize you (and they) deserve. 

3. I am the Common Factor Like most men, I went through a “relationship aint sh*t phase.” However, in reality, I was attracting and dating a like-pattern of aint-sh*t partners because I was less than sh*t myself. The common factor was me, but because no one likes to hold a mirror up to themselves I felt more comfortable projecting my insecurities and blame onto everyone but myself. You settle for the types of relationships you think you deserve. Eventually, instead of blaming others for acting less than worthy, I took a look at myself and began asking the right question: why did I keep going after the same type of promiscuously inclined partners in the first place? After some much needed self-reflection, I realized that if I wanted a good partner in my life, I should probably stop settling for anything less than a good partner. 

2. Accept People as They Are Back in the day, I used to think: “a person be a good soulmate for me if only…” This mindset was flawed from the beginning. In contrast, I should have accepted folk as they are and if they changed for the better great, but if they never changed at all, I should be fine with that too. This is referred to as dating the “potential person” rather than the person standing right in front of you. Neither way is really wrong but I’ve found the better route for me is to accept a person as they are instead of waiting for who they might be. 

1. Relationships Aren't Easy Contrary to popular belief, although they shouldn’t feel like a job, relationships take work. When you’re single, you can do whatever you want, whenever you want, however you want and as long as what you’re doing isn’t illegal, it really doesn’t matter what you do, because you’re not going to have much impact on anyone beyond yourself. When you’re in a relationship, if you’re financially or emotionally reckless within a relationship, it no longer just impacts you. Your actions or inactions can – and usually do – have a direct impact on your partner. Realizing this took a certain level of maturity that I lacked when I was younger. Whether I was in or out of a relationship, I didn’t change very much because I championed the BS statement that “I shouldn’t have to change.” I became a better man when my first thoughts weren’t about myself but they became centered first and foremost on the relationship, since as the name implies, a relationship is about two people not just me as an individual. It’s true, I shouldn’t have to change, but if I don’t want to change, I either wasn’t ready to be in a relationship or I wasn’t in a relationship with the right person. It took me a long time to realize the subtle difference. This lesson will become more important as the impact of my decisions affect more and more people in the form of an expanding family I hope to one day be apart of.

DYING TO BE IN THE PIC.....LOOKS WHO'S PEAKING....

CLASSIC LYRICS.....DMX

What type of games is being played, how's it going down? If it's on till it's gone, then I gots to know now Is you wit me or what, they gon try to give me a nutt Just honeys wanna give me the butt, wha....