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November 30, 2012
WHAT SHE SAID.....KENYA MOORE
Some people work for a living, and some people people twerk for a living!
November 29, 2012
FOR THOSE WHO WANT TO "SAVE" WOMEN....CAPTAIN SAVEAHOE.....
Men who play Cap’n Save ‘Em need to better evaluate which women may actually need to be saved. At some point or another, most men have played the role of Cap’n Save ‘Em.
Half of us won’t admit it, while the other half may not realize it. Now familiar with the term? Well, Cap’n Save ‘Em is the man who runs to the aid of women who need or act like they need saving. He’s the guy whose exceptional level of chivalry is deemed thirst, no matter how misplaced it is.
The Cap’n doesn’t really have any special powers. What he does have is a (often wrong) wish to be all things to all women. Nobody can do that but Jesus. It’s a tiring, stressful, thankless job. Often times, Mon Cap-ee-tan is the source of his own stress. Here he is, running to help a woman who may not even need his help. Worse yet is the woman who doesn’t want his help.
The Cap’n has the energy and want to do some good in a woman’s life, any woman’s life, but nowhere to channel this energy. He’s met the lady that doesn’t need him, but like Johnny 5, it doesn’t compute. So what does he do?
He finds other women to direct the energy toward. Little does he know it’s to his own detriment. All of the energy and effort the Cap’n has expended that hasn’t been reciprocated can lead to resentment. \
Who is Cap’n supposed to be mad at though? The women who took advantage of his assistance? Not hardly.
The only one he should be mad at is himself. Nobody held the proverbial gun to his head and made him do anything for anyone. His compulsions and assumptions brought him to the point he’s at. Not every Cap’n is going to be able to disregard these factors.
There are things that he can be done to guard against them getting out of hand though. Things like:
1) What made him want to become a Captain in the first place – There’s a saying: “how can a person know where they’re going if they don’t know where they came from?” If he doesn’t know why he is always trying to save every woman, he’s going to continue attempting to save each one.
2) Identify why chosen women “needs to be saved”- What is going on with her that makes her so special? Is there history with her? Have others tried to “save” her and been rebuffed? A man is going to be putting time and effort into “getting this lady right.” It’s best to make sure he knows what he’s getting into.
3) Know your target savee – Not every woman is a damsel in distress. There are certain clues that women give off that help identify those who are.
4) Know when to let go – There’s a marked difference between giving up and giving in. Giving up implies failure to meet a desired result. Giving in implies having the wisdom to know the desired result isn’t achieveable. It’s okay to not save each one.
5) Don’t rush out trying to save the next one, especially if the last one didn’t need or want you – Take some time and really just relax. Analyze what went wrong, or right.
6) Realize that it’s okay to not be Cap. – Maybe it’s time to hang up the cape. Understand that there is a woman who’ll appreciate the time and energy that is expended.
She’ll not want a savior, but a man who at least possesses the qualities — a man that can be there should she need him. I stated earlier that some women take advantage of the (non)superheroes whom they meet. Not all, but some. And it’s going to keep happening.
The best these men can do is not let their experiences with one woman affect their interactions with another.
Half of us won’t admit it, while the other half may not realize it. Now familiar with the term? Well, Cap’n Save ‘Em is the man who runs to the aid of women who need or act like they need saving. He’s the guy whose exceptional level of chivalry is deemed thirst, no matter how misplaced it is.
The Cap’n doesn’t really have any special powers. What he does have is a (often wrong) wish to be all things to all women. Nobody can do that but Jesus. It’s a tiring, stressful, thankless job. Often times, Mon Cap-ee-tan is the source of his own stress. Here he is, running to help a woman who may not even need his help. Worse yet is the woman who doesn’t want his help.
The Cap’n has the energy and want to do some good in a woman’s life, any woman’s life, but nowhere to channel this energy. He’s met the lady that doesn’t need him, but like Johnny 5, it doesn’t compute. So what does he do?
He finds other women to direct the energy toward. Little does he know it’s to his own detriment. All of the energy and effort the Cap’n has expended that hasn’t been reciprocated can lead to resentment. \
Who is Cap’n supposed to be mad at though? The women who took advantage of his assistance? Not hardly.
The only one he should be mad at is himself. Nobody held the proverbial gun to his head and made him do anything for anyone. His compulsions and assumptions brought him to the point he’s at. Not every Cap’n is going to be able to disregard these factors.
There are things that he can be done to guard against them getting out of hand though. Things like:
1) What made him want to become a Captain in the first place – There’s a saying: “how can a person know where they’re going if they don’t know where they came from?” If he doesn’t know why he is always trying to save every woman, he’s going to continue attempting to save each one.
2) Identify why chosen women “needs to be saved”- What is going on with her that makes her so special? Is there history with her? Have others tried to “save” her and been rebuffed? A man is going to be putting time and effort into “getting this lady right.” It’s best to make sure he knows what he’s getting into.
3) Know your target savee – Not every woman is a damsel in distress. There are certain clues that women give off that help identify those who are.
4) Know when to let go – There’s a marked difference between giving up and giving in. Giving up implies failure to meet a desired result. Giving in implies having the wisdom to know the desired result isn’t achieveable. It’s okay to not save each one.
5) Don’t rush out trying to save the next one, especially if the last one didn’t need or want you – Take some time and really just relax. Analyze what went wrong, or right.
6) Realize that it’s okay to not be Cap. – Maybe it’s time to hang up the cape. Understand that there is a woman who’ll appreciate the time and energy that is expended.
She’ll not want a savior, but a man who at least possesses the qualities — a man that can be there should she need him. I stated earlier that some women take advantage of the (non)superheroes whom they meet. Not all, but some. And it’s going to keep happening.
The best these men can do is not let their experiences with one woman affect their interactions with another.
November 27, 2012
IN BLACK HOLLYWOOD AKA ATLANTA NEWS.....
Atlanta, GA is becoming the mecca of Black reality TV and two new shows are on the horizon.
First up, "Taking Atlanta" (which will be executive produced by reality tv guru Mona Scott-Young) will follow a group of ambitious Atlanta locals making their mark in fashion, music, hospitality and real estate while making the round on the social scene.
Then, there's "Married to Medicine" (has not been confirmed to be a black cast but...) will follow a group of successful women (both doctors and wives of doctors), who are connected to the world of medicine in Atlanta and the lives they live. The series is produced by FremantleMedia North America.
First up, "Taking Atlanta" (which will be executive produced by reality tv guru Mona Scott-Young) will follow a group of ambitious Atlanta locals making their mark in fashion, music, hospitality and real estate while making the round on the social scene.
Then, there's "Married to Medicine" (has not been confirmed to be a black cast but...) will follow a group of successful women (both doctors and wives of doctors), who are connected to the world of medicine in Atlanta and the lives they live. The series is produced by FremantleMedia North America.
GET INTO THE LYRICS....
I'm not a woman
I'm not a man
I am something that you'll never understand
I'll never beat u
I'll never lie
And if you're evil I'll forgive u by and by
U - I would die 4 u, yeah
Darling if u want me 2
U - I would die 4 u
I'm not your lover
I'm not your friend
I am something that you'll never comprehend
No need 2 worry
No need 2 cry
I'm your messiah and you're the reason why
'Cuz U - I would die 4 u, yeah
Darling if u want me 2
U - I would die 4 u
You're just a sinner I am told
Be your fire when you're cold
Make u happy when you're sad
Make u good when u are bad
I'm not a human
I am a dove
I'm your conscious
I am love
All I really need is 2 know that
U believe
Yeah, I would die 4 u, yeah
Darling if u want me 2
U - I would die 4 u
Yeah, say one more time
U - I would die 4 u
Darling if u want me 2
U - I would die 4 u
2 3 4 U
I would die 4 u
I would die 4 u
U - I would die 4 u
U - I would die 4 u
I'm not a man
I am something that you'll never understand
I'll never beat u
I'll never lie
And if you're evil I'll forgive u by and by
U - I would die 4 u, yeah
Darling if u want me 2
U - I would die 4 u
I'm not your lover
I'm not your friend
I am something that you'll never comprehend
No need 2 worry
No need 2 cry
I'm your messiah and you're the reason why
'Cuz U - I would die 4 u, yeah
Darling if u want me 2
U - I would die 4 u
You're just a sinner I am told
Be your fire when you're cold
Make u happy when you're sad
Make u good when u are bad
I'm not a human
I am a dove
I'm your conscious
I am love
All I really need is 2 know that
U believe
Yeah, I would die 4 u, yeah
Darling if u want me 2
U - I would die 4 u
Yeah, say one more time
U - I would die 4 u
Darling if u want me 2
U - I would die 4 u
2 3 4 U
I would die 4 u
I would die 4 u
U - I would die 4 u
U - I would die 4 u
HOW PERSISTANT SHOULD YOU BE.....?
When you decide to focus all your efforts on someone you are interested in, how persistent are you willing to be? I ask because it seems that often times we are quick to cut the person off if they start to become challenging.
Do you believe that being persistent and maintaining pursuit means you come off as desperate or thirsty? If you really like the person the more you pursue them, is it worth it to keep up the same effort?
I know a guy who has pursued the same woman for a year and has not shown any reciprocity. He has become a good friend – at best, but is willing to wait for her. Persistent or deluded?
If you ever find yourself stuck in the friend zone, would you try your chances and hope that being their friend will pay off for you later?
Do you believe that being persistent and maintaining pursuit means you come off as desperate or thirsty? If you really like the person the more you pursue them, is it worth it to keep up the same effort?
I know a guy who has pursued the same woman for a year and has not shown any reciprocity. He has become a good friend – at best, but is willing to wait for her. Persistent or deluded?
If you ever find yourself stuck in the friend zone, would you try your chances and hope that being their friend will pay off for you later?
DIDN'T MEET THE FAMILY??? FROM THE DATING DIVA, AJC
Keith is trying to reassure the woman he is dating after he decided not to introduce her to his family at Thanksgiving. They are in a new relationship and things were not at the “meet the family” stage…according to him. She is seeing this as rejection and is now questioning everything and second guessing her feelings about him.
I feel for her, I really do, but she seems to be overreacting and over analyzing the situation. Shocking, right? So yeah, women are known to do this and it isn’t really fair. When Keith is actually being a good guy by taking things slow and not giving her false hope, she is letting insecurities show.
Would it bother you if the person you were dating has yet to introduce you to his inner circle of family/friends? I remember meeting families really early in relationships, but I didn’t think that was a sign of how much the guy liked me.
Is meeting the family still viewed as a big deal like it was back in the day?
I feel for her, I really do, but she seems to be overreacting and over analyzing the situation. Shocking, right? So yeah, women are known to do this and it isn’t really fair. When Keith is actually being a good guy by taking things slow and not giving her false hope, she is letting insecurities show.
Would it bother you if the person you were dating has yet to introduce you to his inner circle of family/friends? I remember meeting families really early in relationships, but I didn’t think that was a sign of how much the guy liked me.
Is meeting the family still viewed as a big deal like it was back in the day?
November 26, 2012
HOW TO THROW AN AWESOME HOLIDAY PARTY.....
While throwing parties is often seen as the responsibility of our female counterparts, men—particularly bachelors–have a long history of throwing memorable shindigs.
The 1949 edition of Esquire’s Handbook for Hosts says: “Granting that you are a bachelor and not a hermit…you are going to entertain pretty regularly in the apartment and not spend all of your time prowling after a pair of nylon legs.”
The book goes on to teach the reader how to cook an impressive meal, mix and serve drinks like a pro, and entertain guests with conversation, games, and even fortune telling.
Unfortunately, this kind of education in being the consummate host, along with the art of hospitality in general, is sorely lacking for the modern man.
So today we'll discuss some of the basics of how to host a great party.
Since this is one of the most popular and best times of year to do so, we’ll be focusing on throwing a holiday party, but most of the tips will also apply to throwing a soiree any old time.
First, pick a party type or theme.
The type of party you decide to throw will depend on how large or small you’d like the gathering to be, how formal or informal you want it, your budget, and the personality and interests of you and your friends.
Here are a few ideas: Cocktail Party A cocktail party is a semi-formal affair that takes place earlier in the evening, say between 5 and 7, or 6 and 8, and this party can serve as a get-together before another event later in the evening.
Cocktails (obviously) and beer are served, and you might like to set yourself up as the charming home bartender to dispense these drinks.
You’ll want to offer light snacks or hors d’oeuvres along with the beverages.
The menu usually includes a choice of dishes, with a minimum one hot, one cold, one salad, one bread, one beverage, fruit and/or cheese and/or dessert. Nothing served should require a knife, be impossible to manipulate on knee-balanced plate.
The Sit-Down Dinner A good option for those who want a classy, but more structured and intimate gathering.
For a nice sit-down dinner, invite a group of friends to break bread with you, and serve them a multi-course meal—at least soup or salad, entrée, and dessert. Offer wine or beer before and during the meal, and coffee afterwards along with dessert.
Special Theme Parties White Elephant Gift Exchange Everybody brings a wrapped gift to the party (usually something cheap and/or funny). People then draw numbers (as many numbers as there are people). The person who gets number one, gets to choose the first gift and unwrap it. The next person can then choose to either “steal” the gift the first person opened or pick one of the wrapped gifts. This goes on with each consecutive person being able to choose from the things that have already been opened or from the unwrapped pile. If someone “steals” your gift, you can then choose to steal someone else’s (but you cannot steal back the gift that was just taken from you) or draw from the pile. And so on and so forth.
Christmas Lights Tour Many companies charge big bucks to drive people around in a limo to look at the best lights in town. But you can save money by becoming your own tour guide instead. Borrow your friend’s old Suburban or rent a giant van and map out a route through town that will take you past the homes with the nicest light displays. Then have your friends over for a bite to eat, load them in the car, turn on some Christmas tunes, and become their personal tour guide to holiday wonderment.
To add another element of fun, try playing some Christmas Light Bingo. Make up some bingo cards with squares with things like: Christmas tree seen through house window
Christmas tree in city park Animatronic reindeer Nativity scene House in all blue lights Santa And so on. Provide your passengers with some bingo dabbers.
The first person who gets bingo wins a prize.
The 1949 edition of Esquire’s Handbook for Hosts says: “Granting that you are a bachelor and not a hermit…you are going to entertain pretty regularly in the apartment and not spend all of your time prowling after a pair of nylon legs.”
The book goes on to teach the reader how to cook an impressive meal, mix and serve drinks like a pro, and entertain guests with conversation, games, and even fortune telling.
Unfortunately, this kind of education in being the consummate host, along with the art of hospitality in general, is sorely lacking for the modern man.
So today we'll discuss some of the basics of how to host a great party.
Since this is one of the most popular and best times of year to do so, we’ll be focusing on throwing a holiday party, but most of the tips will also apply to throwing a soiree any old time.
First, pick a party type or theme.
The type of party you decide to throw will depend on how large or small you’d like the gathering to be, how formal or informal you want it, your budget, and the personality and interests of you and your friends.
Here are a few ideas: Cocktail Party A cocktail party is a semi-formal affair that takes place earlier in the evening, say between 5 and 7, or 6 and 8, and this party can serve as a get-together before another event later in the evening.
Cocktails (obviously) and beer are served, and you might like to set yourself up as the charming home bartender to dispense these drinks.
You’ll want to offer light snacks or hors d’oeuvres along with the beverages.
The menu usually includes a choice of dishes, with a minimum one hot, one cold, one salad, one bread, one beverage, fruit and/or cheese and/or dessert. Nothing served should require a knife, be impossible to manipulate on knee-balanced plate.
The Sit-Down Dinner A good option for those who want a classy, but more structured and intimate gathering.
For a nice sit-down dinner, invite a group of friends to break bread with you, and serve them a multi-course meal—at least soup or salad, entrée, and dessert. Offer wine or beer before and during the meal, and coffee afterwards along with dessert.
Special Theme Parties White Elephant Gift Exchange Everybody brings a wrapped gift to the party (usually something cheap and/or funny). People then draw numbers (as many numbers as there are people). The person who gets number one, gets to choose the first gift and unwrap it. The next person can then choose to either “steal” the gift the first person opened or pick one of the wrapped gifts. This goes on with each consecutive person being able to choose from the things that have already been opened or from the unwrapped pile. If someone “steals” your gift, you can then choose to steal someone else’s (but you cannot steal back the gift that was just taken from you) or draw from the pile. And so on and so forth.
Christmas Lights Tour Many companies charge big bucks to drive people around in a limo to look at the best lights in town. But you can save money by becoming your own tour guide instead. Borrow your friend’s old Suburban or rent a giant van and map out a route through town that will take you past the homes with the nicest light displays. Then have your friends over for a bite to eat, load them in the car, turn on some Christmas tunes, and become their personal tour guide to holiday wonderment.
To add another element of fun, try playing some Christmas Light Bingo. Make up some bingo cards with squares with things like: Christmas tree seen through house window
Christmas tree in city park Animatronic reindeer Nativity scene House in all blue lights Santa And so on. Provide your passengers with some bingo dabbers.
The first person who gets bingo wins a prize.
November 25, 2012
November 20, 2012
CASUAL DATING VS. COMMITTED RELATIONSHIP....
Before you go on a holiday dating spree, perhaps it is worthwhile to figure out what your short-term and long-term goals are. When you approach your dating life, having some sense of what you truly want is a good way to get the results that you want. I know what, you’re saying..that’s a no-brainer, Diva! Well, you would be surprised at the number of single people walking around with nary a clue of what they want.
Generally, you meet people who either want to keep things casual or those who want to ultimately move towards a committed relationship. The casual dating folks will say things like, “I just want to kick-it with somebody cool, and see where things go” Or one of my favorites: “I like just going with the flow.” Keep in mind, these are the same people that will try to have sex with no strings attached.
People who want committed relationships are fine with taking things slow. They feel comfortable with the idea of making room in their lives for somebody special. They don’t stress about giving up freedom or allowing someone to them for who they are.
I believe that casual dating has it’s place and those who want it should clearly state that intention upfront. There is nothing wrong with casual dating if that is what you want. The trick is figuring out when you should be casually dating people and when you are ready to build a relationship with someone.
How do you know when to keep it light, fun and easy with casual dating? When do you know that it is time to take it to another level?
What do you do when you are ready to leave casual and go committed? If the person/people you are seeing don’t want the same thing, what do you do?
Generally, you meet people who either want to keep things casual or those who want to ultimately move towards a committed relationship. The casual dating folks will say things like, “I just want to kick-it with somebody cool, and see where things go” Or one of my favorites: “I like just going with the flow.” Keep in mind, these are the same people that will try to have sex with no strings attached.
People who want committed relationships are fine with taking things slow. They feel comfortable with the idea of making room in their lives for somebody special. They don’t stress about giving up freedom or allowing someone to them for who they are.
I believe that casual dating has it’s place and those who want it should clearly state that intention upfront. There is nothing wrong with casual dating if that is what you want. The trick is figuring out when you should be casually dating people and when you are ready to build a relationship with someone.
How do you know when to keep it light, fun and easy with casual dating? When do you know that it is time to take it to another level?
What do you do when you are ready to leave casual and go committed? If the person/people you are seeing don’t want the same thing, what do you do?
November 19, 2012
November 18, 2012
DRESSING FOR YOUR SIZE....SUITS
Its a given, not everyone is tall and thin and runway skinny. Some folks are shorter and may carry a few extra pounds. Whatever your story, that shouldn't stop you from looking good in your clothes.
An ill fitting suit, even a pricey one will through your desired look off. Here are a few tips to help out our shorter, thicker brothers out.
Be honest with yourself. Admit you're short and buy short-length suits.
An ill fitting suit, even a pricey one will through your desired look off. Here are a few tips to help out our shorter, thicker brothers out.
Be honest with yourself. Admit you're short and buy short-length suits.
• Wear a pocket square. It brings the focus to your chest, not your belly.
• A lower button stance creates long lines, essentially stretching you out.
• Show some cuff to lengthen the look of your arms.
• A pant leg with very little break will help you look taller.
• Big man, solid shoe. Choose shoes that have a substantial sole. You need something to anchor your weight.
November 16, 2012
WORLD'S BEST AND WORST LOVERS....
WORLD’S WORST LOVERS:
1. Germany (too smelly)
2. England (too lazy)
3. Sweden (too quick)
4. Holland (too dominating)
5. America (too rough)
6. Greece (too lovey-dovey)
7. Wales (too selfish)
8. Scotland (too loud)
9. Turkey (too sweaty)
10. Russia (too hairy)
WORLD’S BEST LOVERS
1. Spain
2. Brazil
3. Italy
4. France
5. Ireland
6. South Africa
7. Australia
8. New Zealand
9. Denmark
10. Canada
First off, who knew the Dutch were dominating. Never would have guessed that one. And does the Scottish thing of being too loud even count when you can’t understand them?
As for best lovers, I would defend Brazil over Spain but that classic siesta allows for plenty of horizontal “rest” time. Brazil is quite obvious. Carioca men alone impress with their public make out skills. That and the fact that they mount just about anything. Practice does make perfect… or almost.
I will say though that Canada threw me a bit for a loop. I would have thrown another Latin country in there. Maybe the 15,000 women haven’t been to Colombia, Argentina, Chile, or any of the other numerous Latin American countries. Hello, it is called LATIN LOVER for a reason.
And why is it that the worst loves have reasons and the best lovers don’t? It would be hella convenient if you had, for example: Spain (oral), Brazil (doggie), Italy (body kissing), French (oh where my imagination takes me), etc.
1. Germany (too smelly)
2. England (too lazy)
3. Sweden (too quick)
4. Holland (too dominating)
5. America (too rough)
6. Greece (too lovey-dovey)
7. Wales (too selfish)
8. Scotland (too loud)
9. Turkey (too sweaty)
10. Russia (too hairy)
WORLD’S BEST LOVERS
1. Spain
2. Brazil
3. Italy
4. France
5. Ireland
6. South Africa
7. Australia
8. New Zealand
9. Denmark
10. Canada
First off, who knew the Dutch were dominating. Never would have guessed that one. And does the Scottish thing of being too loud even count when you can’t understand them?
As for best lovers, I would defend Brazil over Spain but that classic siesta allows for plenty of horizontal “rest” time. Brazil is quite obvious. Carioca men alone impress with their public make out skills. That and the fact that they mount just about anything. Practice does make perfect… or almost.
I will say though that Canada threw me a bit for a loop. I would have thrown another Latin country in there. Maybe the 15,000 women haven’t been to Colombia, Argentina, Chile, or any of the other numerous Latin American countries. Hello, it is called LATIN LOVER for a reason.
And why is it that the worst loves have reasons and the best lovers don’t? It would be hella convenient if you had, for example: Spain (oral), Brazil (doggie), Italy (body kissing), French (oh where my imagination takes me), etc.
November 15, 2012
A LESSON TO BE LEARNED....LETTING A MAN BE A MAN...FROM UPSCALE MAGAZINE....
Today a young man in my neighborhood offered to help take my bags in the door like he always does when I happen to see him outside and I have bags. I always refuse. He said today, "You are a strong woman, you always tell me no." His voice kinda echoed a little disappointment, (keep in mind he's like 19/20). That disappointment resonated with me. I decided to let him help me. Boy! Was it so much easier!
...Then it hit me -me letting a man be a man doesn't negate my strength as a woman but it can build his confidence as a man. Sometimes it behooves me to sacrifice my imaginary strength to build his real and actual confidence and show appreciation for his gentleman etiquette. We need more confident young men, so I think I did my good deed for today, but somehow deep down on the inside, I know it was more of a teaching moment for me.
I smiled at him and told him thank you, and he smiled back and said you're welcome. Sometimes as a woman I am so used to carrying the load on my own, so busy being strong, that I deny the help readily available to me cause "I got this!" But today I realized I don't have to "have" everything. There are some arms stronger than mine willing to help. SMH, Revelation comes at the weirdest times with me I swear, look @ your neighbor and say..."let that man (young man, old man, middle age man) be a man" lol
...Then it hit me -me letting a man be a man doesn't negate my strength as a woman but it can build his confidence as a man. Sometimes it behooves me to sacrifice my imaginary strength to build his real and actual confidence and show appreciation for his gentleman etiquette. We need more confident young men, so I think I did my good deed for today, but somehow deep down on the inside, I know it was more of a teaching moment for me.
I smiled at him and told him thank you, and he smiled back and said you're welcome. Sometimes as a woman I am so used to carrying the load on my own, so busy being strong, that I deny the help readily available to me cause "I got this!" But today I realized I don't have to "have" everything. There are some arms stronger than mine willing to help. SMH, Revelation comes at the weirdest times with me I swear, look @ your neighbor and say..."let that man (young man, old man, middle age man) be a man" lol
November 13, 2012
NEVER ASSUME...
Never assume every critic is a hater. Everyone is not hating on you, someone out there just trying to tell you the truth.
November 10, 2012
BREAKING UP....AGAIN...
Have you ever been in a relationship that went back and forth, on again, off again? It’s one of those frustrating roller coaster rides you end up on and don’t know how to get off. What causes us to keep going back to relationships that we already know we should not be in?
I know a lot women get hooked into the emotional drama that comes with these situations. Men convince themselves that they are happier with the person then without. Yet once you are reunited, all those same problems come barreling back. You end up right where you left off.
Do you think that a relationship with multiple break ups should be saved? It sounds so simple to say, cut ties and move on, but that seems to always get harder each time you reunite.
How do you know when you should break up for good or just take a break? If it is “mean to be” – should it be that difficult to work things out?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
November 9, 2012
WHAT SHE SAID...MISS KENYA "SHADY" MOORE....FORMER MISS USA.....
First of all, I wouldn’t need personal security if Cynthia didn’t recruit randoms via Craig’s List or Twitter.
Secondly, it’s obvious Cynthia does not read, watch television, and has been under a rock when I exploded on the scene years ago. I made history being crowned the second black woman to win Miss USA and I was fifth place in The Miss Universe pageant.
Let me refresh hers or anyone else’s sluggish memory… If you don’t know, you better ask somebody.
I’m also that girl whose been on the covers of and modeled for over 30 magazines from Essence to Real Health to Maxim magazine. In fact, the very audition she held for the Jet Magazine Beauty of the Week, I was chosen as a Jet Beauty. I also have a Jet Magazine cover.
Do you have a Jet Magazine cover, Cynthia? NO, you don’t.
Additionally, I’m that girl who has had multiple endorsements including my very own Pantene hair commercial, print ads, cosmetic campaigns, as well as numerous fashion layouts. Yep me.
However, models usually retire around 30-years-old. Even though Cynthia is a beautiful woman, at 45, maybe Cynthia should retire her dusty old wigs and worn out makeup brushes that are just as worn out as her welcome mat from the modeling industry.
Read more: http://straightfromthea.com/2012/11/09/kenya-moore-throws-shade-at-cynthia-bailey-sheree-whitfield/#ixzz2BlkXi200
DEFINITION...FIERCE...
A term that gay men used in the late 1990s and early 2000s to describe absolutely everything that was of "exceptional quality".
THE SERENITY PRAYER.....
God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
The courage to change the things I can,
And the wisdom to know the difference.
The courage to change the things I can,
And the wisdom to know the difference.
November 6, 2012
November 4, 2012
FOR ALL THE BLACK GIRLS WHO ROCK....
She's faced the hardest times you could imagine
And many times her eyes fought back the tears
And when her youthful world was about to fall in
Each time her slender shoulders bore the weight of all her fears
And a sorrow no one hears still rings in midnight silence, in her ears
Let her cry, for she's a lady
Let her dream, for she's a child
Let the rain fall down upon her
She's a free and gentle flower, growing wild
And if by chance I should hold her
Let me hold her for a time
But if allowed just one possession
I would pick her from the garden, to be mine
Be careful how you touch her, for she'll awaken
And sleep's the only freedom that she knows
And when you walk into her eyes, you won't believe
The way she's always paying for a debt she never owes
And a silent wind still blows that only she can hear and so she goes
Let her cry, for she's a lady
Let her dream, for she's a child
Let the rain fall down upon her
She's a free and gentle flower, growing wild
And many times her eyes fought back the tears
And when her youthful world was about to fall in
Each time her slender shoulders bore the weight of all her fears
And a sorrow no one hears still rings in midnight silence, in her ears
Let her cry, for she's a lady
Let her dream, for she's a child
Let the rain fall down upon her
She's a free and gentle flower, growing wild
And if by chance I should hold her
Let me hold her for a time
But if allowed just one possession
I would pick her from the garden, to be mine
Be careful how you touch her, for she'll awaken
And sleep's the only freedom that she knows
And when you walk into her eyes, you won't believe
The way she's always paying for a debt she never owes
And a silent wind still blows that only she can hear and so she goes
Let her cry, for she's a lady
Let her dream, for she's a child
Let the rain fall down upon her
She's a free and gentle flower, growing wild
November 1, 2012
CAN I DATE MORE THAN ONE PERSON....
One of our readers, who is new to Atlanta, emailed me to get the MIA blog’s opinion about juggling dates. She has few friends in the city and has decided to do a little online dating. So far, she has met a few good men that have great potential. The trouble is, she doesn’t want to narrow it down right now.
They are all actively pursuing her and expressing interest in something serious. It’s a great problem to have, no! While she tries to figure out her best option, she is feeling a little guilty about dating so many guys at one time. She asks, “Can I date more than one guy? Should I let them know they aren’t the only one I am seeing?”
Personally, I like to go by the Golden Rule, do unto others. Would I want to know if there were multiple women jockeying for time with the same guy? (I would). What do you guys think?
Does it bother you when the person you are actively dating is seeing other people? At what point would you expect to be the only one?
If a guy finds out that there is another man interested in the same woman, do they usually back off or step up their efforts?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
They are all actively pursuing her and expressing interest in something serious. It’s a great problem to have, no! While she tries to figure out her best option, she is feeling a little guilty about dating so many guys at one time. She asks, “Can I date more than one guy? Should I let them know they aren’t the only one I am seeing?”
Personally, I like to go by the Golden Rule, do unto others. Would I want to know if there were multiple women jockeying for time with the same guy? (I would). What do you guys think?
Does it bother you when the person you are actively dating is seeing other people? At what point would you expect to be the only one?
If a guy finds out that there is another man interested in the same woman, do they usually back off or step up their efforts?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
JUST A THOUGHT....
IF YOU DON'T HAVE ANY MONEY, TAKE (OR KEEP) YOUR BROKE ASS HOME....
MAKES SENSE RIGHT?!
MAKES SENSE RIGHT?!
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